Hello, very frequently I see women in public that I fancy. However every time I too scared to approach, no idea why (everytime after I leave I keep regretting not approaching).
I think it's because I have not tried something like that before. I have only tried chatting up the girl that served my ice cream, but felt a bit awkward.

So how should you approach strangers? Let's say it's in dining area, like a food court or restaurant. I thought about starting with a compliment but I don't know what to say after that.

And for those even more knowledgeable, will something like this work in Singapore? (Because in 2 months I will be studying in NTU).

I don't think I am very handsome though, however not totally sure since nobody told me. But I am fairly tall 180cm.

This post has been edited by Police4896: May 31 2024, 02:07 PM

you need a good pickup line and definitely try not to look creepy...

best pickup line i have is hello. your hair look nice.

thank god I have been told that I look like rapist by my friend.

however i think maybe i can just try speak more confidently then can already?

This post has been edited by Police4896: May 31 2024, 02:27 PM

Think it's best you try to approach in a common social setting then outright. If outright you must have really charming personality or looks n gugu which make girl want to open longkang for you. These days better find through app.

hello adik cantik comel, nak comolot boleh tak?

real answer pls. if i wanted do this i might as well go 美女一个人?要吃香蕉吗？

if you want the real answer, hit the gym. learn how to look good. improve yourself financially. learn how to dress.

do NOT approach women. women will approach you.

sekian

if i die die also want to approach then how?

but really my only problem is that i dont know how to dress and dont know how to "look good". everytime t shirt and jeans only. but how to "look good"? i dont have a lot of acne, face and nose only problem is somewhat bumpy due to itchy hand when i was young. but now i use moisturiser no pimples already. my hair not bad looking also, got wolf cut. what else to do??

i am not fat, i already run 5km 3x every week. financial is not relevant since i mentioned in the post, i am student. so how?

all these things i have heard years before and i have already worked on it, now i feel that my problem is that i dont have the confidence, and the rizz

This post has been edited by Police4896: May 31 2024, 03:04 PM

if you know you lack confidence, work on it.

one thing i learned that if a girl likes you, you could be the laziest bum on the planet or the hugest asshole. she will still want to be with you.

on the opposite end if you're seeking women who are not interested in you, even talking to them makes them give you the stink eye.

the dating scene is really bad nowadays where women can be spoilt for choices with the ease of apps. you are at disadvantage before you start.

but this disadvantage can be your strength.

you already "lost"

so you have nothing to lose.

if you insist on talking women up, build your confidence first. you can do this by randomly talking to men first. see that random dude? go ask him something or compliment him. if you cant even do that with the same sex, how do you expect to do so with the opposite gender?

after building up your confidence and having a nothing to lose mentality, you can start casually just talking to people.

always go in there with the mindset "i m just here to talk/ask something" NOT "i want her number". of course some women prefer the direct can i have your number approach. but if you want to go that route than go that route. its all or nothing.

theres no real right answer. it all depends on what you're willing to try.

some dudes on dating apps start off with "can i fuck you". its super crude but out of many, sometimes, sometimes a girl will ask when and where. different people prefer different approach. thats up to you to figure out but at the very least get your bases sorted out.

get the proper mentality, get the confidence.

thx bro good ans

wtf bro
Singaporean chicks can be more attracted to farkboy
i like filipina too cause they're quite open

ah ok so i should go there join the school gym, join a lot of sports, talk nonsense to everyone i meet?
thats what farkboy do right

i dont really like filipina, reminds me too much of maids.....

If you’re still in school/uni, just join clubs and societies and mingle around. The girls will gravitate towards you if they’re interested. From that point onwards just play your cards right.

If you're in your early 20s, you've plenty of time to waste on. I was in your shoes being clueless last time. Now I've gone out over hundreds of females, it became like an easier game as you gained experience

yeah im turning 20 this year. i wasted my entire teenage years playing computer, i dont want to waste whole 20s doing the same. approx how many did you go out with per month?

also since you seem very wise, what else should i be doing to not regret wasting my youth?

Hahaha you can try.

I guess it just happen naturally.

Unker got only a handful of experience amoi stranger approach me in public and its all happen during ma shopping for grocery.

1) I was holding a can of jam reading the ingredient. Out of nowhere amoi poup and show me another can, telling me thats better, suggesting me to try.

2) I was pushing ma trolley around, passing by one amoi few time, each time got make eye contact (obviously because she quite cute). Then when I was at one lane looking for staff she came approach me asking me where I get one of the item in my trolley.

I guess you can try the menthods above to approach amoi you fancy in public place. Then you can establish common topic to talk.

Good luck

Can't say much about techniques but I can give insight on what ladies might feel towards cold approaches:
- comments about physical appearance from a stranger might be risky... at worst, you're scary/creepy.
- avoid approaching someone who may not feel safe at the time, e.g. someone walking alone + quiet place... Don't give them a reason to run away from you

Honestly for you as a student, I think it's better to try your luck in university. Join events and clubs, work in committees, you'll learn something plus opportunity to hang out with girls and catch a glimpse of their personalities too. Unless you're that eager to fuck around, then I guess it's just a numbers game -- get rejected enough and you'll grow immune and be able to approach anyone.

What course will you be starting at NTU? For some courses like Engineering, the vast majority of students are male… you’ll have slim pickings and massive competition… good luck in advance!

And I suppose you’ll be staying on campus? Campus life is great and gives you an opportunity to mix around with different genders, esp thru hostel sports etc.