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Advice Wanted How to approach strangers in public?, Is it even socially acceptable here?

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hksgmy
post Jun 1 2024, 02:35 AM

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QUOTE(Police4896 @ May 31 2024, 02:05 PM)
Hello, very frequently I see women in public that I fancy. However every time I too scared to approach, no idea why (everytime after I leave I keep regretting not approaching).
I think it's because I have not tried something like that before. I have only tried chatting up the girl that served my ice cream, but felt a bit awkward.

So how should you approach strangers? Let's say it's in dining area, like a food court or restaurant. I thought about starting with a compliment but I don't know what to say after that.

And for those even more knowledgeable, will something like this work in Singapore? (Because in 2 months I will be studying in NTU).

I don't think I am very handsome though, however not totally sure since nobody told me. But I am fairly tall 180cm.
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What course will you be starting at NTU? For some courses like Engineering, the vast majority of students are male… you’ll have slim pickings and massive competition… good luck in advance!
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post Jun 1 2024, 02:36 AM

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And I suppose you’ll be staying on campus? Campus life is great and gives you an opportunity to mix around with different genders, esp thru hostel sports etc.
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post Jun 1 2024, 09:07 AM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ May 31 2024, 09:13 PM)
If you're in your early 20s, you've plenty of time to waste on. I was in your shoes being clueless last time. Now I've gone out over hundreds of females, it became like an easier game as you gained experience
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post Jun 1 2024, 09:12 AM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 1 2024, 09:10 AM)
getting good with girls is like finding or create values
In entrepreneurship, whoever constantly provides better values will always win, looking from a longer term perspective

thats why whenever i see the ads from insta
i would say most of them are fucking bullshit
they focus on attracting low paradigm people
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Alas, I sold my magic beans way too early when I got hitched young (but thankfully to a woman that I’m still madly in love with after 30 years) so I can only cheer you on and live vicariously through your adventures
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post Jun 1 2024, 10:11 AM

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QUOTE(TOS @ Jun 1 2024, 10:00 AM)
lol I am not asking TS to go to bed with the girl laugh.gif

Well if she loves you enough she will do it with you... I saw condom packages outside my hall's bus stop pretty often...

Whether they "do it" in hall or budget hotel or even their own home I have no idea.

That said, I am looking for more than sex in a woman. Recently one girl I met on XHS told me she likes me because she is sapiosexual... But whenever I discuss sex and post-marriage life plans with her she will just keep quiet... INFJ girl...

Let's see... laugh.gif
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Bro, PhD mah…. Sapiosexuals will find that irresistible….
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post Jun 1 2024, 11:04 AM

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QUOTE(Police4896 @ Jun 1 2024, 10:25 AM)
hmm... one time at lrt station i exchanged glances with a girl a few times, was a bit weird since twice i looked at her, she looked away then i also look away, then when i go back look at her she was looking at me.... but didnt go anywhere n she just went where she was going lol
hmm i take that it's a face thickness problem if i want to play the numbers game?
physics & math double major... i guess its almost as bad as engineering when it comes to gender ratio
and yeah i am planning to stay at campus, but i never heard that their halls got sport events? only saw on reddit that they play a lot of mahjong
as in, "how" you would do something, rather than "why" you would do something?
well ill admit that i am the "why" type.... guess ill have to change
bro dont get me too excited..... going to be very long 2 months
sapiosexuals actually exist? i thought its just a joke
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Wahlao… good luck bro! Hahaha
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post Jun 2 2024, 07:50 AM

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TS is lucky. In life, there are certain universal truths that are fundamental facts. In the faculty of medicine, it is well accepted that <beauty> x <brains> = k, where k is a fixed constant.

So, yeah…. Slim pickings for med students.
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post Jun 3 2024, 10:56 AM

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QUOTE(magicforumer @ Jun 2 2024, 03:21 PM)
which Filipina type - heavier plump type or hot single mum hahaha
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Every Sunday, Lucky Plaza in Singapore has a smorgasbord for his selection….
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post Jun 4 2024, 11:31 AM

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QUOTE(Police4896 @ Jun 4 2024, 10:35 AM)
applies to other fields as well? whihc field has largest k
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Well, I can only tell you what I’ve heard secondhand, since my Master degrees were from (1) NUS and not NTU and (2) at Masters level, I ain’t got time for extracurricular activities since I was also working full time at the hospital…

So, hearsay, some say, anyhow say, the biggest K is to be found in the FASS (Arts and Social Sciences)… that’s probably where you’ll have the right ratio of genders too.

All the best bro, and happy hunting.
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post Jun 4 2024, 11:46 AM

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QUOTE(TOS @ Jun 4 2024, 11:14 AM)
When they talk to you (especially foreigners), they will usually ask if you are from Singapore. They can tell from the slang.

Then you just clarify you are from Malaysia (give cities' description like KL, Penang etc. is also fine)

Nothing negative about "country of origin", some foreigners may think you come from China as well haha.

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It’s a common enough question and an often enough icebreaker to be asked the “where are you from” question.

I didn’t experience it when I was studying in Australia because I assimilated so well (it helped that my residential hall had only 3 Asian boys) and I sounded like a local after 2 weeks, apart from certain less commonly used words which I learnt quickly enough.

Funnily, that became my established English accent and I got questioned multiple times when I was studying and taking my specialist exams in the UK. The examiners couldn’t comprehend why this decidedly Asian looking boy would have such a strong Sydney accent. Same thing when I did my fellowship there - and I used it to to my advantage to break the ice and make new friends.

An interesting anecdote on this aspect - my wife and I were on Safari in Kruger National Park and we took a detour to the Zimbabwe/Zambia border to ride the ultralight planes over Mosi Oa Tunya (Victoria Falls). We were there with my classmate and his family, who flew in from Sydney via Singapore, and we were having a chat while waiting our turn to go on the ultralight.

There were these 2 Australians in front of us in the line and one of them turned around to face me and greeted me with a “Good Day, mate, fellow Aussie here. Can’t help but overhear your accent. Inner West Sydney eh?” I suppressed a chuckle and said “Good ear, mate, good ear” and he seemed really chuffed with himself, telling his friend that not only could he distinguish an Australian accent, he could pinpoint it down to the suburb (apparently he lives in the suburb next to mine).

After they got on the ultralights, my wife and I, together with my classmate and his family, burst out laughing.

So yeah, accents can be a great icebreaker.

 

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