Try speed dating, you got better chance. Every men and women there are looking for partner, so you don’t have to worry about “sorry i got boyfriend or girlfriend” situation. Pretty or not, handsome or not, i would say lower your expectations for physical appearance.

Who was the organiser for the one that you attended previously? Was it Take The Leap? Would appreciate it if you could share more abt yr speed dating experience.

Yea that be one or them, there few others good organiser too. All similar activities, drinks and foods and get to know each other. If you thought about scoring on the first event, that depends on your luck. Some men and women I met there attended a few speed dating, even like 8-9 times from different organiser and events but yet to find the right one. I personally scored a few, less than 10 womens after like attended 3 events. Now seeing 1 and we both kind of enjoying each other company, have a deep long conversation when we hang out. She’s beautiful enough to me and she’s smart, good sense of humour, curious and funny.

If you’re asking for advice, it be best that you just be honest about what are you looking for. For example me I’m looking for a women that take good care of herself, health and fit, took general hygiene seriously. Sadly no overweight woman, say or judge me whatever you want but those are my requirements. Try make some friends with the ladies, be nice and polite with them, treat them with respect, possibly try to have some conversation after asking them about what they do for living and where they stay etc.

Again, lowered down your expectations for super hot ladies. Oh there’s 1 or 2 women that’s hot but then you be having some competition if you interested on them, some dudes there does earn 5 figures driving nice cars and they’re there to look for lifetime partners. Any how most of them men and women looks decent, like you and me.

Dress casual smart, iron your clothes, wear clean socks because some place needs you to remove your shoes, of course clean your shoes too. Fragrance? Just little bit, don’t have to spray the whole body like you’re trying to cover the smell of a dead body. Cut your finger nails, tidy up your hair or go to a barber. Mustache and beard are find if you trim nicely, some barber offer this kind of service too. Try do the Tony Starks style, looks cool to me.

Good luck and shutdown that shy or introverts until the event ends.

Lol some of your advice don't apply to me coz I'm a girl, not a guy 🤣 Honestly I'm planning to score on the 1st event coz those events are really expensive. The one that I wanted to attend is RM125. I keep asking myself what if I pay that much only to meet up with men who are obese and/ or bald? Or worse, boring? I have these doubts in my head coz u keep telling me to lower my expectations 😅

Oh pardon me, i thought you’re a dude. Score on the first round, depends on your luck. Overweight, old and bald yes those man be there as well. I really feel sorry for them, knowing their chances of scoring super low to zero. It’s a gamble, up to you whether you want to gamble or not. Try it for this, then maybe after few months you try again. You don’t know if you’ll find your prince charming if you don’t at least try, i assume you look great and there be quite few dudes be interested to know you from the event.

Thanks for the words of encouragement. Assuming that u met 15 girls in one event, was it tiring for u when u had to introduce yrself n talk abt yr hobbies 15 times?

Yep, talking the same thing with 15 ladies. After that i’ll just start a different topic, start sharing stories about places we traveled before or funny/weird things we encountered in our workplace etc. We even shared some pictures we took, just to spice things up.

It is.

I went before. Was hopeful but turn out empty handed. One girl sort of like have chemistry but looks like she didn't like me enough.

To score, it's simple. You need to make sure the guy want to exchange numbers with you. Just listen to their stories and don't be a spoil brat. There were some by girls by default I don't even want to know them further from their attitude.

There are few people who attend those speed dating like multiple times already. 8x and still no luck. I attended once and no luck and kinda of didn't like it as you are talking to 15-20 people one shot for like 5 minutes only. Hard to keep track of who is who and what is interesting about the other person. For me 5 minutes is too short to say anything meaningful.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Apr 13 2025, 07:56 PM

I think 5 mins would be more than enough if the other party happens to be an eye sore or rude lol. I really dunno how ppl can pretend having convos for 5 mins out of politeness when that kinda thing happens

Then speed dating would be suitable for you. It wasn't for me. Cause if the guy/girl speaks for like 4 minutes, not much time left for the other aide. So kinda of hard for other person to judge cause no info given.

I was doing the talking and girls weren't trying to talk or even make an effort.

I appreciate talking for like 2H with the girls. It let me know if they are potential good partners Vs 5 minutes. That's why I turn back to dating apps.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Apr 13 2025, 08:09 PM

These girls got strategies la. If I'm not wrong, they might have scanned for their "targets" before the speed dating started so they know which guy they should give their 100% n which guy they should give 30%. It's really tiring to give 100% to all 15 guys haha.

Well that's shallow of them. Thank god I found one girl on dating app who is frugal and don't mind a difficult life with me.

Correction: That's called being smart, not shallow. Even you, yourself admitted that it's tiring to talk to 15 girls so what's wrong with conserving energy for the ones that we're attracted to? I'm sure there are people in yr life who have told you to work smart, not work hard.

Because you are judging on appearances. I never judge them on looks or body. I judge them based off how they spend, their life goals.

So don't complain that speed dating made you feel tired.

I give all girls equal chance to be fair to them but yeah if someone only want to look at looks, then thank god I am not attractive or handsome or hot.

Wouldn't disagree with you about the short time of conversation, lots of times really potong stim when we have a good conversation but that also that's i score 1 or 2 because we want to catch up. Not making an effort, yea some ladies does showing this. Probably not interested by appearance, can't blame them.

Or we can make it simple la bro.
U see, women are on the side, where they are bloated with choices. They are usually spoiled, demanding and feelr privilleged, deserves this and that.
I know im mocking women a lot,, but,, its largely fact. Im the ugly guy(like real ugly, not fashion, 0 desire from women by visual), that dated some dimes. Yes.

So, throughout, i talked to many types. Jsut stop questioning urself or blaming urself bro... not is bad here,, us guys,, most arent bad.
But women,, even the most nice n kind n genuine looking one,, deep inside,, they are like in the 1st paragraph,, but i did manage to find some that is not like that.
Like real,, but ,, till now, i can tell, its only 2-3 of them.

Since women have so many choice,, added with terrible attitude yet they get supported despite them hving bad character,, lack of kindness, fake hearts,, genuinely uninteresting,,
they keep growing,, cause,, many guys are desperate,, they just go with watever those women say or demand,, for,,,xxxx.
AGAIN I APOLOgize, not all women are this terrible,, but i malas la nk chnge sentence.

BUt large portion,,they are chatting with tonnes of guys in the background,, so many dms,, trust me,, some will act like,, they only want long term,, never the one night stand,,or fwb kind,,
nope,,it depends whether ur ugly or fits their requirement. So, stay safe,, stop blaming or think u are wrong.

Its jsut the oppostite partt,, they constantly move the goal post, they always manage to find ways to blame it on guys,, while,, they were still able to accomplish watever they want,,
as they desire,, safely,, and then start a new game,, with different requirements and so on. I used to think,, only guys yg playboy and bad,,
but the truth is,, women hold this game,, they manipulate it,,they can play however they want,, cause,, they dont fcking start or do the approach,,
its us guys that does it always,, yes,, women does it,, smtimes,, but then,, they will make it so big that if they faill,, they post mcm2 heart break reeels and more dudes fill the space.

So, again, by logic,, since we starts,, they just accept and watch,, and reject,, and blame since we put the effort or actions.
If they like,, they call it effort,, if they dont like,, they call it disturbing. Either way,, we get blamed and not them.

So, when u said,, this app is for making money,, come on,, that is even a question la bro,,, its very obvious and right on ur face,,,
the amount of bots that will mssge u when u want to deactivate. U will rarely here ugly guys recommending dating apps,,
its only the good looking guys,, or more obivously,, the girls,, since their experience is way different.

Most other comments here,, they just not gonna agree n blame it on u since,, welll, its business,, they arent gonna accept truth of they filthy methods to make money.


All i can say is,, stop wasting money on dating app,, jgn layan,, slowly it will wither when people tak layan it.
its actuallyya scam,, but,, grey zone,,no laws around it.

Any good dating apps?