Hi guys, just here to seek for general advice. Of course every couple is unique and different, and how each pair does is entirely based on how they communicate. But just putting this out there to get some insights.

I and my girlfriend have been together for close to 2 years ( 13 Feb would be our 2nd Anniversary ). So as you can see from the dates, right after our yearly anniversary would be Valentines. Now to start it off, based on how we communicate and getting along, anniversary is definitely the more important ones compared to Valentines. As so we did celebrate both during our first year, but Valentines being just simple, which is what we wanted anyway, to keep things simple regardless the occasion.

So for the first year, we celebrated both occasion, but obviously more focus and priority on Anniversary. For Valentines, I just gave her flowers and went out for a meal. I'm sure some would say, celebrate both occasion in one day, hence also saving up that extra money needed for another flowers. Well, I think flowers is fine for me, I could still afford to buy 2 flowers for 2 occasion. But the gifts would be just merge into one occasion. Would appreciate any input.

Anyway, since I have already put this out here, anyone who's in a similar situation as I am ? I would say I'm posting this to gain more insight on similar situations rather than advice. As me and my girlfriend, we are clear about how we go about this, and we are happy with what we have, our arrangements and so on.

you're just giving yourself the headache, already say keep it simple...

If me, I would have confessed on 14th straight , then no such issue dy haha

But if your case, just remain as you doing now, just celebrate Anniversary, Valentines just go for fancy meal.

They say men are the true romantics, and not women its particularly true. Women, when they break up with a man, its like yesterday and non sticky feelings involved (move on very quick). Unless if they are with a too high value guy that is like a dream, which is rare given how disproportionate or distort structure of sexual marketplace dynamics

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Feb 4 2023, 06:22 PM

I would say you are lucky..two date so closed to each other. Just merge it and celebrate on the 13th.

I personally dont celebrate Valentines at all. For me its just commercialized nonsense. No flowers n no special dinners from me on that day.

Btw if not married how do u determine anniversary?

Mine is 2 days apart. We just celebrate 1 day, on the weekend.

just celebrate on the 13th

if u love the crowd, celebrate on the 14th

this is the real simple

Eventually you will get exhausted if you need to figure out celebration on 13/2 & 14/2 every year. Mind you, this is only 2nd year. What I can advise you, just consolidate it into a single day celebration.

In between 13/2 or 14/2, choose 13/2 because 14/2 is for the business to slaughter the couples out there. Also, if you are having a good relationship, you don't need the gimmick of anniversary or valentine day to celebrate. You are basically celebrating every moment when you are together.

The businesses have reason to mark up the prices on the name of "love" and most people are blindedly following the trend because it looks cool or i want to impress my girlfriend so that she doesnt leave me "easily"

Bullshit. Learn how to sleep with girls effectively first before trying to buy love or affection. This is one of reasons simps getting trapped

why wouldn't you just ignore valentine's day? it's so commercial and bullshitty now.

bruh, really meh like this also need to post?
you ady said you guys are fine with just celebrating anniversary and going for simple meal for valentines..
then.. habis tu what else are you looking for here?
if wanna celebrate both, or get flowers for both dates... then why not just combine budget for both occasions and go for a good big event on anniversary date?
simple and nice..

honestly what kind of answer are you looking for? Sometimes this kind of thing is just as simple as it can be.. why wanna make it so complicated?

You'd be surprise how some girls are so particular on certain dates bro...

Been there, done that... Itu baru anniversary, belum monthlyversary

lol, yang buat monthlyversary celebration itu ada yang kekal ke?

no celebration la, actually just wish each other only... we got married eventually

Flowers prices sold on 13th and 14th Feb are same.

still continuing the monthly wishes in present day ?

no lo... just birthdays, christmas, anniversaries, once in awhile still ok

For me, just celebrate birthdays and, if married, add marriage anniversary.

For valentine day next week, my GF might get a Happy Valentine text 😊

Your dates are so close, dont make yourself headache...priority on anniversary and simple dating for valentine...if die2 wanna impress her w 2 celebration, then go staycation. Now baru close to 2 years, still long journey man!

Like other daiko here, mine also 2 days apart. Pak tor time, makan2 jalan2 movie2 plus a simple surprise on valentine...priority goes to pak tor anniversary.

After marriage, she get love message on pak tor anniversary, simple dating on valentine and oversea trip traveling different countries + surprises on wedding anniversary

There's a flip side to that story: The problem isn’t celebrating one day, it’s using all the others as an excuse to ignore your partner.

Just book a hotel on 13/2 and piap through 14/2