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post Jan 9 2023, 01:55 PM

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QUOTE(PropStar04 @ Jan 5 2023, 04:57 PM)
yes, thank you. probably i m here to seek comfort on my guilt.
i know what i m doing is wrong, and yes i feel guilty too.
Sorry but i want to know how many guys out there that is loyal only to their wife. Nvr curi makan ? This is very difficult for me. But what i can assure is that i will treat my family well and be responsible. I also appreciate my wife. I m sorry but i still live in ideal world which is to own both of them. Is this not forgivable ? I seek for forgiveness from netizen because i cannot be getting it from my wife, right.
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Pimp them both. Plant the idea of both of them sharing you is the way to go.

" you wanna make it up for the wife cause your dick useless around her by introducing the new bitch for a threesome"

Its fucked up.

But better than you ending up in a story where your fat wife guilt trip you for the rest of your marriage. If she wants divorce now you're paying alimony.
Then you go find your young pussy you crazy with. You might get the same treatment from her as she find new affair? Goes around innit.

All this because your fault in the beginning cause you afraid to say she fat to her face.
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post Jan 9 2023, 02:22 PM

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my dad had an affair, even though he provides for the family, he made my mom suffer a lot.. me and my sister hated him.. but now we already adult we let the past be the past.. and looking back, at least he did provides for the family.. but we never forget what he did to our mom.. so will u b ok if your kids harbor ill feeling towards you? every actions have consequences, if you wanna keep the affair going, do expect your family to find out sooner or later.. and since she's a married woman, do expect her husband gonna do something to you, sue you, fight you or worst, kill you.. will you be ok to face all of this?
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post Feb 19 2023, 03:20 PM

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QUOTE(PropStar04 @ Jan 4 2023, 11:49 PM)
Unfortunately or rather fortunately, the woman is also married. hence we both know we cannot ask for more.
if single or divorced then okay, but u sleep a married woman whose husband is still alive? gg la.
ur life is cursed. there can only be bad things happening (ur wife finds out, the husband of girl u have affair with finds out)

if the girl is single or unmmaried u can still marry her in (if muslim), if non muslim u take care of her without marriage paper.

got so many girls outside , paid or unpaid, why are u so stupid to sleep a married woman. looking for trouble only.
lj gatal also must have road. sleeping with married woman u only get trouble. no man will acccept own wife sleep with another man, if find out he will hantam that guy.

imagine someone else sleeping ur wife. if u corrupted one maybe u can accept. but if u a real alpha male u will beat the shit out of that guy and divorce ur wife who has no loyalty.

if wan curi makan, makan the proper one. go pay. or find single/unmarried and pay and protect her like your wife. if religion not allow marrying more than 1 girl, then do it privately. as long as both girls u continue to provide there is 0 problem. but makan a married woman whose husband still alive thumbup.gif thumbup.gif thumbup.gif

lj gatal shiok that time really shiok, when ppl husband find out how u settle?

This post has been edited by darksider: Feb 19 2023, 03:23 PM
AEROZ
post Feb 19 2023, 03:42 PM

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TS,

Your colleague will age as well later.
Most women will get fat with auntie look after their 30's.
Are you going to change partner again after that?

End the affair now before your wife finds out and leave you.

Work togteher with your wife (eg. enroll her for gym, yoga, etc)).
Also go for date again to bring the sparks again.

Love is a commitment and requires workout everyday,
Love is not just about romance & sex.

Honestly you haven't reach the "real" love stage yet.
That's when you're old/sick with disease even to the extent of your partner needs to clean you up.
Trust me when you get there, you'll regret what you did today.
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post Feb 19 2023, 03:51 PM

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QUOTE(AEROZ @ Feb 19 2023, 03:42 PM)
TS,

Your colleague will age as well later.
Most women will get fat with auntie look after their 30's.
Are you going to change partner again after that?

End the affair now before your wife finds out and leave you.

Work togteher with your wife (eg. enroll her for gym, yoga, etc)).
Also go for date again to bring the sparks again.

Love is a commitment and requires workout everyday,
Love is not just about romance & sex.

Honestly you haven't reach the "real" love stage yet.
That's when you're old/sick with disease even to the extent of your partner needs to clean you up.
Trust me when you get there, you'll regret what you did today.
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no need after 30s.

most women especially chinese one will have auntie look at age 30 onwards, unless born with genetics of forever young.
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post Feb 20 2023, 03:41 PM

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QUOTE(darksider @ Feb 19 2023, 03:51 PM)
no need after 30s.

most women especially chinese one will have auntie look at age 30 onwards, unless born with genetics of forever young.
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Even if the body no run, the looks sure age wan.
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post Feb 20 2023, 03:57 PM

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QUOTE(PropStar04 @ Jan 4 2023, 11:49 PM)
i have been married for more than 10 yrs now and with kids as well. My wife is a good one and I m a good husband and father as well.
i m in my mid 40s now and am a family man.
I m about to share something and would like to know if this is normal.
i love my family, but like all marriages, after 10 yrs, my wife is getting old and body is also out of shape. To make it short, she is not attractive anymore after giving birth. Problem is we tried to have sex but i seem hard to have erection. it disappoints her but i cant do anything if she isnt attractive to me. Sometimes i take pill to make her happy but i also dont like doing it everytime, although we only do it once a month.
I thought i m erectile dysfunction, however, i m attracted to women and sometimes i can feel it strongly too.
Unfortunately or rather fortunately, i have an affair with my colleague, she is 15yrs younger and i m very much attracted to her. sexually was satisfying but that also brings to another problem where sex gets more difficult with my wife. i know it is wrong to have an affair but i m still very much horny at this age and it sort of dream comes true. To cut it short, i am still very much committed to my family but sexually i need to find satisfaction as well. is this something normal ? can i maintain feeding my family well and continue to have affair with another woman ?
Unfortunately or rather fortunately, the woman is also married. hence we both know we cannot ask for more.
my question is can i still love my wife but not sexually aroused by her, and yet still having an affair ? is this normal or too much to ask for ? i m more than willing to take care of my family for the rest of their life and also willing to live till old with her but i have not much interest with her. maybe it is commitment but commitment is part of love also, right ?
Shoot me !
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post Feb 20 2023, 04:32 PM

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oh shit the comments already started, glad the fuzz ain't here to kill the party yet.
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post Feb 20 2023, 05:50 PM

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Let's say you're the one that gets fat and she doesn't get aroused by you. Then she goes out and has an affair with a guy that's 15 years younger. But she still helps to take care of the kids and do other stuff for you. Would you be able to accept that?
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post Feb 22 2023, 10:04 AM

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QUOTE(PropStar04 @ Jan 5 2023, 04:57 PM)
yes, thank you. probably i m here to seek comfort on my guilt.
i know what i m doing is wrong, and yes i feel guilty too.
Sorry but i want to know how many guys out there that is loyal only to their wife. Nvr curi makan ? This is very difficult for me. But what i can assure is that i will treat my family well and be responsible. I also appreciate my wife. I m sorry but i still live in ideal world which is to own both of them. Is this not forgivable ? I seek for forgiveness from netizen because i cannot be getting it from my wife, right.
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And comfort you shall not have. You're trying to justify that cheating is ok. And if it isn't bad enough that you're jeopardizing your family, you're putting the other at risk as well. So, no. It is not forgivable. The world is not ideal, but people deal with it. If you have to sacrifice moral values and principles to resolve your urges, you should be asking if that's what you expect your children to do as well.
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This thread induce sadness.
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post Mar 14 2023, 06:28 AM

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Kesian the another girl bf or husband...........so unfair
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post Mar 14 2023, 03:37 PM

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want makan outside , dont la makan the married ones..
go for paid ones, settle one time, leave it behind no traces.

but if can try not to do that la.. horny, just fap or buy a real doll
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post Mar 16 2023, 12:25 PM

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Not going to judge you but what happened happened, can't turn back time. You have a couple of routes:

A) Break off the affair, find new job. Help your spouse get back in shape by going to exercises with her and buy diet package for her (and even go on diet with her). She sacrifice her body shape for your kids. - Save your family life but difficulty level = HELL mode.

B) Break off the affair and resign from your job but outsource your sex life. Just make sure you don't get caught during your outsourcing. However, this option will not help her get a satisfactory sex life unless you can satisfy her with your tongue and fingers. Again, you can salvage your family life this way and difficulty level = Medium.

C) Divorce and pay alimony and elope with your mistress. Pretty much scorch earth tactic. You'll be accused of being heartless etc but then who cares? Your life is YOURS! Just take note your new mistress might lose her figure someday and you might end up losing both family and your woman. Not the best choice but it IS a choice.

There are other choices and each with its own pros and cons (i.e. make your wife accept your mistress and have threesome etc) but you need to think what is it that you seek in life?
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I can list here all the things that you could do with your wife to spice things up or to improve your sex life but they don't mean nothing when you have already screwed up.

I ain't here to judge but fact is being sexually frustrated will never justify cheating. There's no way to sugarcoat this but you're officially an asshole to everyone you love and you pretty much deserve every bit of trouble coming your way, sooner or later. Hopefully your paramour's husband is not the physically violent type.

Good luck, TS!
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post Mar 22 2023, 12:14 PM

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It's normal to have urges, and since ancient times we've got the solutions for it legally, or through religious approach.

You had simply picked the wrong solution, so stop having affairs and work it out with your wife. Make her attractive, or teach her. Be more aggressive when conveying that while also helping her.

This could only be unsolvable if your partner have low sex drive. So stop the cap of trying hard enough already.

And you should know that it's not normal for people to cheat. It will broke up the family unit and communities overall. All because of the weak men & women who succumbed to urges.

At least TS should just pay up makan luar is my advice for now. Take it slow, and try to be responsible.
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QUOTE(squareballs @ Mar 14 2023, 03:37 PM)
want makan outside , dont la makan the married ones..
go for paid ones, settle one time, leave it behind no traces.

but if can try not to do that la.. horny, just fap or buy a real doll
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Pay one got std risk and restricted. Affair more excited as both can try different thing and can go raw
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QUOTE(kesvani @ Mar 25 2023, 11:40 PM)
Pay one got std risk and restricted. Affair more excited as both can try different thing and can go raw
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Besides some men (I know a few) prefer to have that emotional connection with the person they are mating with even if it's just affair.
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QUOTE(kesvani @ Mar 25 2023, 11:40 PM)
Pay one got std risk and restricted. Affair more excited as both can try different thing and can go raw
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fwbs also can have stds
dont be so black and white bro
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I am wondering how are you getting on and did you managed to solve your marriage issue and speak to your wife about this?
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