i have been married for more than 10 yrs now and with kids as well. My wife is a good one and I m a good husband and father as well.
i m in my mid 40s now and am a family man.
I m about to share something and would like to know if this is normal.
i love my family, but like all marriages, after 10 yrs, my wife is getting old and body is also out of shape. To make it short, she is not attractive anymore after giving birth. Problem is we tried to have sex but i seem hard to have erection. it disappoints her but i cant do anything if she isnt attractive to me. Sometimes i take pill to make her happy but i also dont like doing it everytime, although we only do it once a month.
I thought i m erectile dysfunction, however, i m attracted to women and sometimes i can feel it strongly too.
Unfortunately or rather fortunately, i have an affair with my colleague, she is 15yrs younger and i m very much attracted to her. sexually was satisfying but that also brings to another problem where sex gets more difficult with my wife. i know it is wrong to have an affair but i m still very much horny at this age and it sort of dream comes true. To cut it short, i am still very much committed to my family but sexually i need to find satisfaction as well. is this something normal ? can i maintain feeding my family well and continue to have affair with another woman ?
Unfortunately or rather fortunately, the woman is also married. hence we both know we cannot ask for more.
my question is can i still love my wife but not sexually aroused by her, and yet still having an affair ? is this normal or too much to ask for ? i m more than willing to take care of my family for the rest of their life and also willing to live till old with her but i have not much interest with her. maybe it is commitment but commitment is part of love also, right ?
Shoot me !

Pertamax!

Keduax!

better scandal with janda, more safer.

Any cow loyal to only one female cow?

Go ahead if this makes you happy with amazing sex session, make sure reward original wife accordingly as well. Cover wife pilow when try to sex with her.

it is biology, try to handle it the humane way

No such thing as free sex. You will eventually ‘pay’ for the sex with your colleague. Ie- facing the angry husband of the colleague.

Better look for chicken. At least you pay after the deed is done. No more hassles after the sex.

makan 2 timer... wah lau

Some said, make sure you eat and wipe your mouth.

some also say dont shit where you eat

Wow, I got mind blown when I read this.
First, you don't find your wife attractive anymore which means you are dang superficial bro, like literally only the physical attraction matters. Sometimes being with someone, is not about just physical appearance but more to the heart. Yes, in beginning you will find her physically attractive but after being the family caretaker for 10 years and not focusing on maintaining herself, I think it's hard to maintain shape UNLESS she is super jaga her badan.

Second, your wife didn't do anything bad to you and you had affair AND IT'S A MARRIED WOMAN? I feel like I just lost hope in humanity. So the woman is married and you are married and both of you just affair? I feel this is so wrong. Not to say if the woman isn't married, it's right but you need to consider, what will happen IF your wife finds out OR the husband of the woman finds out.

Well, you can't cover fire with paper.

I think its common to lose sexual interest in a partner.

But married man with affair with married woman? This can be a very complicated thing. The potential headache is probably not worth the sex.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Jan 5 2023, 11:38 AM

I agreed with this. How leh ? Not easy. Fap je.

You maybe a good father but are not a good husband.
She has done her responsibility to "bagi you" in return "you bagi" other people's wife which has nothing to do towards making your child and a home.

I will not shoot you. Sukak hati lu.
G.Luck

I think you better stop seeing that married women though, have you seen the video about the husband get caught by wife with the cute 3rd person? Well at least the 3rd person looks cute to me, not saying I support her about destroying others family but villain can be handsome and beautiful too.

Anyway, back to the topic. Again you need to stop, I pity your wife more than pity you. As you just horny and prefer to have sex with some hot or at least not overweight women. Still you care about her and your kids, I respect that.

Think again, what if you be the next "husband caught cheating" and this time is your colleague husband came with bunch of guys and beat the crap out of you? I mean if I found out my wife sleep with another dude, yes I would definitely divorce her and oh yea damn sure I would beat the F out of that guy too.

So, leave the married women be, try to persuade your lovely wife to get in shape or better yet, go work out together with her. I know, easy to say than done, she's busy with kids and the house. It just my suggestion though since you post a topic here...

Wow, both cheaters on their partners eh. I guess you both deserve each other then..

No I don’t think it’s normal and I don’t reckon this behavior can be normalized. You call yourself a family man , a good husband and do this? Ohh boy , gotta kidding me

You already checked out of the marriage by being unfaithful. Don’t bother to justify it

Ask yourself what happen when the other woman grows fat and become unattractive? Will you move to younger, prettier girl?

Hello?!? Of course her body would go out of shape after giving birth. She was basically eating for 2 ppl so that u, son of a bitch could have a healthy baby. Not many mums have the luxury of having time to work out especially those working mums. She sacrificed her figure n youth for u by popping out yr kids n taking care of them tirelessly for the past 10 yrs but u rewarded her hard work by cheating on her REPEATEDLY n showing absolutely zero signs of remorse. U definitely deserve the "husband of the century" award!

To save yr marriage n sex life, u could have suggested her to work out, cook healthy food or see a marriage counsellor with you but no, u just took the easy way out like a useless coward that u are.

Have u ever thought abt her finding out abt yr affair which might lead to a divorce? Have u ever thought abt how yr divorce would traumatise yr children who might have a fear of commitment in future? U're basically destroying yr entire family with yr effing stupid affair. I hope that yr colleague's husband will find out abt yr affair soon n beat the shit outta u

This post has been edited by kitkat86: Jan 5 2023, 01:29 PM

Just a question.

U 40 and she 15 years younger means 25 atleast. And married.
But why she want to affair with u i dont get it

Maybe TS hot bod and hot face like Chris Hemsworth?