For me, I don't use online dating anymore.
But it depends on your condition, case by case basis....

lets say if you are good looking and successful at age around 30, I will encourage you to pay and try CMB.....
If you are a normal appearance guy with an "okok" job at around age 30, you can pay and try CMB for one month and see the result.....
If you are a normal appearance guy with an "okok" job at around age 40, forget about CMB, try speed dating or seek help from agency is much better....

Nowadays, girls in 20s won't dig guys in 40s. 20 years of age gap is too wide. Unless, that particular guy in 40s is rich and handsome, some girls in 20s would consider to date him and don't even mind to be his mistress.

I tried a few days ago and did not really like it. The experience was just no different from Tinder

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 4 2024, 09:15 AM

I think they are still similar also. I mean Tinder and Bumble....
I got some matches but most are silent. I guess those silent profiles don't subscribe. For these girls, they could just be there to kill time, not serious at all....

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 4 2024, 09:49 AM

How long you have been using Bumble???

Yeah, really no different from Tinder....
Yesterday chat with a Trans in the app. As an extra conservative guy, I was a bit disappointed with all the matches....

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 4 2024, 11:51 AM

lol....I will just talk to anyone who swipe right on me. Sometimes we can learn from each other even though we don't vibe.
And yeah, conversation without emotional attachment to protect myself.....

Well, it doesn't really waste my time as I rarely match with people.

After so many "meet up" from apps, could you find a potential girl to settle down?
I am just curious to know your experience, please do not be offended. thx

IC. It is quite normal that guys prioritized girls appearance. To be honest, same goes to girls.
For me, I have been using CMB on and off since 2018. Until last year, I noticed that those girls who chatted with me before COVID time were still active in the app, most of them.
I admit that my criteria is not up to their standard. And maybe my choice was really limited as I just date girls with the same religion as me and I mentioned it in my dating profile.
But, anyhow all these reasons justified my decision to quit using dating apps. Save myself some time and money to do other more important things. One of my new year resolution....

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 12 2024, 03:06 PM

After reading so many of your comments, I actually agree with your mindset on meeting up multiple girls at the same time. Just that I don't buy your approach towards sex in dating, but that's another story.

Well, please don't be offended. My stand is agree to disagree with our sex theory differences.
Actually I am not a sage to think of girl's disadvantages in this area.
But for my own health, I prefer not to f**k around.
for me, sex is created to firmly bond husband and wife together physically, mentally and emotionally.
If we do it with multiple person, this function of our body will somehow lose its effectiveness, like a glue losing its adhesive nature gradually.
That's why when we broke up with a person, we would feel more hurtful if there is sexual relationship.
Without sexual relationship, the broke up will be less hurtful and we could recover faster.
For me and many conservative people I know, it works this way.
But for you, sex might be just a game to enjoy without other effects.

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 16 2024, 09:23 PM

We as conservative guy have to beware of woman players also. Yeah, of course we want a partner who can really accept our appearance and vice versa. And it is not that we want a virgin girl or healthy body to have sex with. That's really superficial. There are girls inside dating apps who played around during their 20s and wanted to settle down during 30s. At this stage of their life, they started to consider to "date" those less attractive and conservative guy (like myself). As a loser to them during 20s, I don't understand why I suddenly became dateable at 30s.

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 17 2024, 11:44 AM

I totally understand your opinion here. Just that not every guy wants deep throat and anal sex. I myself just want a girl who is not against sex. This is my minimum requirement in this area. That's all. And I don't want to marry a sex enthusiast with model look. And they won't give a f**k to me also.

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 18 2024, 12:24 PM

erm....the answer is yes or no....
Appearance wise, I reckon I am average....
Some female friends told me I am above average. Some said I am average....


However, I have financial (or poor) and religion (must be same religion as me, non-negotiable) constraint....

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 20 2024, 10:16 PM

yes. be aware. nowadays the effect of feminist ideology started to become rampant in East Asia (China). I am not saying they are gold digger. But if you can support their lifestyle after you married them, by all means, go ahead with your pursue. If you don't have this confidence., it is wiser to stay away from all these "worldly troubles". At least, for the sake of your mental health....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2IQr-Bpt2k

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 22 2024, 06:25 PM

Regarding this, there was a "30+ years old pretty girl" in dating apps mentioning she was independent a few years back. Graduated from oversea with photos of YOLO lifestyle fully displayed in CMB. In our conversation of that 7 days, we kept on chatting about money issue. Until the last day, she revealed to me that she is still living with her parents with 4 figure saving in bank account.....Yeah...of course, no phone number exchanged.....And I think she is still finding it hard to define her "independent"

That's why I don't debate/discuss with you in the area of financial and account....lol...you talked about FIRE in other thread and I already knew you are well aware of these issues....
The lifestyle of wealthy boomer and successful Gen-X is hardly applicable to the normal folks nowadays. These girls are still dreaming to have a leng zai husband wearing suit to go out to work in the daytime and being a full time housewife taking care of children at home.

I have relative in their 30s married and settled down well in SG with children some more. Not to say prosperous but a happy family. All the best in your future endeavour. Enough for me to spread negativity. Wanna look at the bright side of singleness in the midst of seeking my partner.....

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 23 2024, 01:50 PM

How long you have been seeing her before she telling you this "Lets just be friends"??? After 3 months from the first date???

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 28 2024, 01:49 PM