Hi, Maybe someone can help advice abit. Feeling so tired now...

Already finish JPN counseling and have submitted the document to lawyer to proceed with the divorce.
Married 12 years.
1 daughter 8yrs old.

Situation wife:
Does not wash dishes.
Does not clean/tidy house.
Have a habit of hording.
Destroy my personal belongings without any remorse.
Wash cloth in washing machine but leave it inside few days, if even put outside basket will not put to hanger to dry it.
(All the above i have to do it for her)

No family value.
Her mother die when she is young, most of her young life live in nanny house. No one teach her about basic things)
Chinese new year she rather stay than follow me back, give many excuses.
Abusive to me mentally and physically. (Multiple police made against her.)

Lies and deceive.
A history of gambling(supermarket contest, lucky draw, need buy certain x to participate).
An active member of MLM Axxxy, call the up line diamond step father.(What type of business ethics is this?)
Many fight during her Axxxy active period.
Like to go 3~5 day fraser hill for those Axxxy seminar/course.
Now currently doing so call property agent but mlm style.

Bad finance planning
- her 1st car viva, multiple late payment get confiscate by bank but manage to pay off at the end.
- sell of viva buy herself vios, multiple late payment more than 6~8month, now dont dare to drive out the car from the parking lot. Family member try to persuade her not to commit to buy car but wont listen.
- Got people come to house knocking door to collect money.

I cant use my own car because she sent my daughter to school. Petrol i always pump full tank, i have to use bike to work everyday.
My House she is not paying anything at all, not help even paid a single bill.

As far as i see, she is not making any money, but is 24hour busy on the phone.

i know "its take both hand to clap". But enough is enough, i cant continue with all her bs.
Am i taking the right step by divorcing her?

do the right thing and take custody of your daughter. She deserves at least a loving parent.

Why after 14 years now only complain? Prior to marriage, you didn't know she have all the behavior? If you know why marry in the first place? If you don't know, why no quickly divorce before having a daughter and after 14 years only take action? Divorce now because of petty reasons will destroy everyone life including your wife and daughter. Don't want do house chores, then hire a full time maid. Settle half your problem. She work many mlm jobs, if she bringing home some revenue, why not? Not all mlm are lies. Financial problem, then you as husband take charge and control household financial and her financial lo.

She will have full custody of my daughter and my house.
I'm so tired around in same house.

but she's not earning and doing anything to support the child.

1. you will need to provide for your daughter until she's 18 or 21?
2. the house is under joint or sole owner is you?

Yup,i pay alimony. House under my name.

Material stuff i can always find ways to get it.

"When there is a will there is a way"

Some say i got to let go of my ego. but i really got no ego left to let go.

ok. it will be a tough 10-13 years ahead.
cos the wife will be happy leeching off you during that time.

i would have done it differently, will record all the proof necessary to show the court that she's incapable financially and domestically.
have the daughter follow you instead and you keep the house to raise the family and she move out. Alimony settle to the minimum until your daughter is 18 or 21.

the topic of me taking custody daughter did pop up, she threaten me she rather suicide with my daughter than let me take her.
Alot of time she will use my daughter as a shield in her argument.

and when that happen i back off. Dont want to continue be toxic infront of my daughter.

Infact almost most of the time she use this method coz she know i always will backoff. (Sound spineless right?)

I dont know how to balance my job and daughter if i alone take care of her.