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Yea, I think if TS give us BMI index it's a better gauge.
Also, TS hygiene ok? Any body odour or too strong smell? No offense, just probing questions.
My BMI is about 21-22, see pic for gauge. And my face isn't that hard to look at either, in case it may be lingering on u guys punya mind but u felt it was too blunt to ask @blofeld ... BO, well, occasionally just before my period but i handle it:thumbs: . Btw, since u brought this up, my husband is kinda OCD. Not towards BO but towards his own mouth breath. One of the reasons he gave me about not wanting to kiss frequently is because he needs to ensure its cleanliness = brush teeth. So he said he needs to prepare before kissing. He used to brush his teeth about 5 times a day until the dentist said it wasn't good for his enamel. Sigh i've not experienced this with anyone else. But then how come first year, he wasn't like that? And sometimes even after brushing teeth, he still doesn't really take the initiative to french. Sad, coz i love it...as a bonding ritual and moreeee gaahhh i feel so deprived. Also, TS hygiene ok? Any body odour or too strong smell? No offense, just probing questions.
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bookmarked. im somewhat a male version of TS
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i read that part, that's why it even urged me more to ask that question. Bcos I have heard the same response from some female friends who said the same thing above but who are on the heavy side.
I'm not skinny, but i'm not round either hahaha... Why be fat when one can be fit/slim?? Food is great, I'll admit...but I believe in self control and self discipline. For me, exercise has been ingrained into my life since i was a child and i naturally am competitive and enjoy sports, so... ^^
I'm more toned than my husband. And I can definitely do more abs and leg exercises than my husband huhu i joined Viper and Spartan Race (tho i didn't complete all the challenges)
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It is divorce threads like this that makes me ask 'What happened to the sparks during dating?' Aren't they supposed to last forever?
I hear ya. Honestly, I always wanted to be the ideal woman for my man. Luckily most of the things come naturally to me; eg i used to imagine that at 60-70 years old, when both of us have grey hair, that i'll still be my playful silly self, jumping on his back and so forth (u get the picture). I always thought that i'd keep the passion, love and chemistry alive by language love touches that only a couple would know, still doing on/off romantic or thoughtful actions to let my partner know I still care for them deeply, sexual intimacy 3 times a week on average (yes yes until i'm 80 if possible lol), be respectful to one another etc but seriously, difficult to clap when only 1 party is working at it. I've had 2 rships where my exes and I had an excellent bond and an excellent chemistry. With one of them, even when we were with other ppl, we were often lost in our own world talking. I think sometimes, it is just chemistry between 2 ppl and it is unexplainable as to why; because it's likely to be made up of many many small things (recipes).
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Hearing from your story I feel sorry about your relationship. However, listen 1 side from you make me feel biased towards you and I think your husband should come out here to post his story in this forum. He is an IT/Tech guy for sure Lowyat forum is a frequent place for him to visit.
No leh, I asked him before.. he said he only reads the forum when he needs info but no account. But yeah lor.. no choice, u only can hear my side.
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From my opinion, there are communication breakdown in between both of you. I believe your husband his hiding his some unsatisfied things that you have done previously which he might voice out but you have ignored him.
For example, maybe he found out you are flirting some one outside or someone is trying to flirt or have intention to win your heart yet you denied it and said it is just friend. Many girl like to use this kind of excuse especially those people doing marketing or business dealing with people or socialist people. I do not said you do this but is just as an example.
For example, maybe he found out you are flirting some one outside or someone is trying to flirt or have intention to win your heart yet you denied it and said it is just friend. Many girl like to use this kind of excuse especially those people doing marketing or business dealing with people or socialist people. I do not said you do this but is just as an example.
Communication breakdown, most definitely. Coz i like to communicate and talk, then he keeps on blocking me by ignoring me. Seriously, most of the time when I try to talk about our issues, I feel like I'm talking to a wall. #frusSial Regarding him being unsatisfied, no leh...coz he still treats me like normal, talk to me like normal (not like merajuk-ing over something) and sometimes when he is out, he'll buy me my fav food. And actually my husband is not the kecil hati type of guy, and he is totally cool with me having guy friends coz most of my friends are guys. Even when i wanna meetup with my exes who are still my friends, to him no big deal at all. His motto is: If ppl wanna cheat, they can find all sorts of way to cheat. So don't need to waste time being angry and try to control your partner. This one i totally agree with him.
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If your husband pushing you away on bed, there is something might make him turn off towards you or he changed his taste into men but I think impossible because gay usually love to do house chores and you said he don't like to help you doing house chores or work
Actually, this gay thing has crossed my mind in the first few years of us dating. Coz he has close friends who are gay. Butttt the gays i know, all of them jaga badan, damn stylish etc this is totally not my husband. Sometimes he looks homeless! I didn't know that gays like doing household chores tho LOL Btw, a few months ago i asked him to rate his libido and to rate mine, 10 being the highest. He said he is 5/10 and I'm 9/10. I dunno lah...but guys i've been with (can count with 10 fingers), they've never been as unhamsap as my husband
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Last question, your second house purchase, do you include husband name as ownership of the house? If yes, he is really a CB husband and if no, you are CB wife because asking husband to help finance but he have no ownership to the house.
Huh?? Why do u think i asked him to help finance the house???
It's only in my name & i'm the only one paying for it yah
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Let him do the chase.
When a woman loves a man more than he loves her, when she shows more care than he does, he will take her for granted.
When a woman loves a man more than he loves her, when she shows more care than he does, he will take her for granted.
Actually i am not so sure whether it's me who loves him more. I think it's more of the fact that it is my first relationship where I tried so hard to be patient and worked on it (almost all my exes i dumped once there were any signs of trouble) and I just didn't want my effort and my prime years to go wasted. In fact, before I made this decision to leave him, i thought of waiting it out....to my 40s or 50s etc but at some point, i think it is best to know when to cut one's losses, before one loses even more.
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In other words, don't be desperate. Stay cool. Be more resolute and stand by your principles. Loving a man doesn't mean throwing away your own principles and letting him cross your boundaries over and over again. Make a firm stand. Show your seriousness using silence and formal communication.
I'm not desperate...but I m the kinda person who finds it a bit difficult to stay cool coz I've got a temper. If I'm in rage, definitely the volcano will letup. Sometimes my husband really says some hurtful and cutting stuff when I'm trying to talk-out our issues. So hard to be silent >_< I jus tahan this long because i thought marriage was supposed to be hard work and i can't throw in the towel at the slightest of things. But the negative list just keeps growing whereas the positive list is getting shorter.
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I hope your husband will pursue you again and have a change of heart after this. If he doesn't do anything before the 8 weeks is up, feel free to dump him. You deserve a better man.
Thanks, this means a lot!
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Sorry for the late replies. Coz probationary acc can only post 3 times in a 12 hr window zzzz They shld have made it 5 posts man. Can't even edit my original posts! Then waste another post, Gah!
This post has been edited by Sensualpassion: Apr 4 2022, 04:16 PM