I stay with my MIL

1st time married the mother in law (wife comes from a single parent family) is a fiercely independent Austrian woman. She valued her independence and privacy more than anything else in the world which is atypical of most Alpine region people.

Not in their culture :-

1) Help you take care of children, she would have told us to send them to daycare.
2) It won't be boring because she and wife will be fighting.
3) She'd rather die than have us take care of her.
4) NO such thing as working late in either Austria or Switzerland.

Therefore we mostly kept visits to no more than 2 or 3 days and only for special occasions. The same way if she came to visit.

Money? She isn't wealthy but she would never take any money from us.

2nd time married, her parents are from East Malaysia and they do come by to take care of her as they deem my standards are not good enough for their daughter who is now pregnant.

Conflicts does significantly reduce if the parent is her parent rather than his parent. Things are easier to handle as well as she has a problem then she is dealing with her own mum not my mum. Oh yes her mum is a very difficult woman as the mum is used to being big boss.

There are ways to make it work but best to be avoided if possible.

i'm staying with my in laws..there are no problem..only when sis n bro in law come and treat the house like food bank..come only to eat and and never buy any groceries for their own parent..come only playing phone in front of tv and wait for their mom to cook anything then eat..usually 1 or 2 week after pay day no come..go jalan2..then near the end of the month only come..

agreed.

Parent stay with me to take care of my kid n they know i'm head of the house.