I strongly urge you to have heart to heart talk with your bf. Not all problem is the same across couples. As one former pointed out, as time goes by, the frequency will be less and the quality of the lovemaking should count.

Quite possible that 8 years on, you guys are more established in your careers and carrying more responsibilities. That does tire a man/woman out easily from the everyday stress and that does affect the ability for the man to perform. From experience I find mornings to be the best time to have sex as you're both fresh from sleep and not drained from work/other commitments.

Lastly, maybe you both can talk it out on how to spice things up in the bedroom. Maybe he has some secret fetish he would like to try. Maybe you have some secret fetish you want to try as well. Stimulate the brain and that's the beginning to stimulating other parts of the body.

sometimes this reason is the best to cover "hes eating outside food"

if got caught just say kena "black magic"

thats how guys go thru all this

u need try harder to stimulate him... make him exciting...
like putting ice cream on a ice cream

Hmm... thank you for the advice..maybe morning might be a good time for some exercise, will try it out  thanks!

Wouldnt ice cream's coldness give shock to it? sorry to ask    i have no idea on this

For quality wise... I think i have kept myself quite fit with regular kegel exercises... and quite flexible in terms of sex. Is there anything that men won't get bored with?

thats the thing..so guys memang like that ke?

communication is the key... maybe u guys need to open up to each other more...

Hello ladies, i need some serious opinion here. Me and my bf have been together for almost 8 years now. I believe almost every relationship also goes through the same periods ie; start with sparks & fireworks, then slowly subside, then stabilise and then here's the scary part which is getting bored/ nothing much to talk about. I think im around the stage of getting bored/ lesser things to talk with each other.

The thing is, sex is no more a regular or exciting thing. I am not sure if I did not perform so well (like the beginning of a relationship) but I am pretty sure I did my part as a gf or girl. Last time we can have it twice or even 3 times a day but now, its only once a week or not even once a week! and i freaked out that maybe he is having an affair outside???

FINALLY after a few rounds of confrontation and argument, he spilled the milk. He said he is encountering a problem with his 'brother'. He finds it difficult to stand or stand long enough to satisfy me. He only tell me about his problem after we fight and almost had a break up. Is this how guys work???? They just cannot let down their ego, be honest and open about anything? It is not like i am going to leave him if i know about his problem although this is a serious problem.. I still love him a lot though but im afraid what if next time he is still good with his ego and hide things from me?

do you ladies have this 'guy ego' problem too?