Hello ladies, i need some serious opinion here. Me and my bf have been together for almost 8 years now. I believe almost every relationship also goes through the same periods ie; start with sparks & fireworks, then slowly subside, then stabilise and then here's the scary part which is getting bored/ nothing much to talk about. I think im around the stage of getting bored/ lesser things to talk with each other.

The thing is, sex is no more a regular or exciting thing. I am not sure if I did not perform so well (like the beginning of a relationship) but I am pretty sure I did my part as a gf or girl. Last time we can have it twice or even 3 times a day but now, its only once a week or not even once a week! and i freaked out that maybe he is having an affair outside???

FINALLY after a few rounds of confrontation and argument, he spilled the milk. He said he is encountering a problem with his 'brother'. He finds it difficult to stand or stand long enough to satisfy me. He only tell me about his problem after we fight and almost had a break up. Is this how guys work???? They just cannot let down their ego, be honest and open about anything? It is not like i am going to leave him if i know about his problem although this is a serious problem.. I still love him a lot though but im afraid what if next time he is still good with his ego and hide things from me?

do you ladies have this 'guy ego' problem too?

So it is either he is really really bored with me or he is really cheating? I am not really sure if consulting doctor would be the best because sometimes when he really wants it, he can go really hard.

I don't think having kids to savage a relationship helps in any way as what if things turn out really ugly? I could work for some people but I do not think that would work for me though... I mean, wont all party suffer especially the kid to either lose the dad or mum if the parents were to divorce.

Another suggestion is to bring back the spark.. well okay, this might be a good idea but i don't think i will go with 3some or some fetish stuff.. or does guys actually like those things? I wouldn't mind to introduce some sex stimulants like toys or yeah maybe a little bit of enhancement supplement perhaps? Any suggestion on this?

I'm not trying to get him 1-3 times a day or even asking for it everyday. lets say if you really love your partner and your partner really loves you, wouldn't you want him/her to share everything with you? I cannot accept the fact that why do people need to hide things away from people they love? Yes, this might be a very depressing situation to a man but as a gf, i would prefer him to share everything with me be it happy or sad. I want to go through good and bad times with him. I would like him to share his life with me. I'm not only with him for his 'brother' or sex... he don't seems to get my point whenever i'm trying to tell him this

yes, ego it is

" BTW, 3 times a day, i think a normal guy's little brother would not be able to stand for 3 days after that battle." is that so hahaha

would the supplement help? would it trigger his 'ego' more by making him feeling kinda 'useless' that he need to take those supplement

exactly..thats why, nope, definitely not my way to solve this issue

I did try to bring it back to those days but it worked sometimes, and sometimes not. I made sure we have had more serious talk so that i get to know how he is doing as we are not staying together. Anyways, he reassured me that he is not having an affair outside.. but i'm still feeling kinda insecure. Sometimes he seems so tired and fatigued and totally not in the mood for it. I'm really thinking to sizzle things up maybe the supplements? anyone tried those supplements and how is the effect?

For quality wise... I think i have kept myself quite fit with regular kegel exercises... and quite flexible in terms of sex. Is there anything that men won't get bored with?

Hmm... thank you for the advice..maybe morning might be a good time for some exercise, will try it out thanks!

thats the thing..so guys memang like that ke?

Wouldnt ice cream's coldness give shock to it? sorry to ask i have no idea on this