why scared?? don't put her on a pedestal. there are many girls out there


try to a step further. if she still resist while still sucking your wallet then u better cut your contact with her.

Uhm... So you're telling me that you're 22 this year, dated once, shy, awkward and girls doesn't come often in your life. Then you're also telling us that you both make out intimately often, like everytime you both meet; and you think that you can onz with her soon. Hmm.. You don't sound shy and awkward. The things that you mentioned kinda contradicts each other.

Either way, thanks for creating the topic to entertain us with your imaginary girlfriend, if you're a dupe. And if you're not a dupe:

I would like to suggest to give yourself more time before deciding to make her your GF. You're just 22, still very young, and you have just started working in KL not long, there's so much more opportunities for you to get to know more girls. Choosing the first girl that gets close to you sounds like buying your very own first car just because you've test ride on it before on Grab.

You've also mentioned that she doesn't pay for her meals and only chooses to go to mall/hotel restaurants. Do you know that if you're going for a long-term relationship with her, the cost of the food that you're gonna pay for her will surpass any LV, Gucci, Prada, Burberry, Balenciaga, etc expensive gifts? She might not be a girl that asks you for an iPhone for her birthday, just a Nokia 3310 will do... But man, paying for mall/hotel restaurant on a daily basis costs more than just an iPhone... Do the math.

Here are the several red flags in my opinion:
- You're 22, she's 28, when you reach 34, she will reach 40. Boobs starting to swing backwards, her lil' sister's lips gonna touch her knee (okay I'm exaggerating, but you get the point), and you'll be craving for younger women by then, because most of your friends around your age will typically have younger gf/wifes.
- She's just the first girl that you've met in KL, don't need to settle or choose so fast, give yourself more time, give yourself more chance, get to know more girl first.
- Everyday also expensive meals, your wallet will burn a big whole soon. She don't expect you to pay her bills or buy her expensive stuffs now because your "level" is just maybe 'more than friends', but not 'boyfriend' yet. Once you've leveled up, your responsibilities will be different, and you might need to pay more for maintenance as you unlocked more features from her *cough*. If you know what I mean...

But in the end, the choice is yours. Goodluck and have fun, let us know if you "onz" already with her. Let us know if the experience is good or not~

This post has been edited by RubMyGenie_: Feb 20 2019, 04:22 PM

grow a pair of balls n tell her straight la.. rather than guessing in forum lol

wow thats some reallly good read. As mentioned im naturally introverted and shy, and im generally awkward at social situations that involves more than 5 ppl. As such, i only have a small circle of friends, most of of which i have to call them out to hang and chill as they normally wont ask me first. I met this girl through my best bro, who brought me to another frens bday and thats how i met her. Its been 5 months in kl and ive only met one girl, that just sums up my personality. Normal ppl adapt easier and probably have met tons of girls within such a time span. Yeah age is probably a big factor, and she will turn 30 yrs soon where many ppl often describe as the 'expiry date'. Also not everyday la, probably 2-3 times a week? Nonetheless its not that i really cannot afford, i drive an Audi A5 so financially i wont say im in any tough situation. Its just i dont want the feeling of a girl leeching me off everytime. I want a girl who has a sense of caring, like someone who maybe has thoughts of sharing responsibilities; in my case sometimes offering to pay the bills.

There really arent much girls out there

There are alot of girls in kl that are already taken, and even if they arent there are a shit load of competition i have to fight off from guys because of the gender imbalance...Thats why it comes back to the feeling of me feeling sad if i cut contact with her because i know deep down i dont really meet much girls in my life due to my shy and introverted personality. The only thing i stand out is that i dont have much financial restraints so i can pretty much afford what a girl wants. I graduated from a UK uni and working in my grandfathers company in KL. But my aim is to find a girl next door that is pretty confident with her goals and dont leech too much from me. Im looking for a girl that wants to share responsibilities financially with me too and treat me equally as much as i treat her. those sort of vibes

If you like her then should let her know, or you want to maintain this situation until she meet her mr right in future?

If what you are telling is true, graduated from a UK uni and working in grandfathers company in KL. Is mean that you don't have fanincial issue for paying the meal.

-Drive Audi A5.
-Work in Grandfather's company.

No wonder she still haven't left u and dont mind u are young.

Vibes? Ok, tell me something, how well do you both connect emotionally and mentally? What kind of conversation do you both have together? What are the common interest you both share?

There are plenty of single girls with matching characteristics with you in KL who are not taken. But, since you've fixed your eyes and mind on this girl whom you've met 5 months, you're probably too blind to notice the rest.

Being serious with someone who's 6 years elder at the age of 22, is different from being serious with someone who's 6 elder than you when you're 30! Girls mature in thinking faster than guys. Based on what you've mentioned so far, if the feelings between you both are mutual, she either would not have said that she's single when asked/teased or, she would have understood your hints and responded. Point is, by now, she already knows whether wants to be serious with you or not.

You have a long way to go. Being an introvert is not the end of the road. You can always mend your ways and meet new people who'll be much more worthy.

This post has been edited by Tanyaa: Feb 21 2019, 08:27 AM

a decent girl will probably be "paiseh" when you pay once too often......I believe she knows you have some feelings towards her too. girls got bloody got radar. like most forummer here said, maybe you should move up a level, maybe trying to hold hands (if you are too afraid to tell her face to face) or put your arm around her.....etc etc ......(*for more tips, go watch more love movies)........in any case, if you are stuck in "I am paying for meals" stage, then you will likely lose this girl too cos she might think you are a little too passive.

Dude, man up and tell her how you feel, you are feeling insecure and perhaps she is too..

Somehow, seems like you aren't into her rather you are just despo, u did mention yourself

stop giving yourself excuses. there are many guys like you out there that's why there will always be single and available girls. it's either you take action and approach more girls or whine in the forum when a girl starts milking you and giving you shit.

there's lot of education videos on youtube on how to approach girls, from both guy and girl perspective. spend some time and go study about it.

Yeah we started holding hands, and we moved up a level on our intimacy towards each other. Its just its mostly me starting to hold her hands first and always me that ones to initiate erhem in bed....Also i dont want her to be over dependent on me financially as she never offer to pay anything when eating/watching movie/clubbing. At this point im not sure shes just playing around with my feelings and i lowkey have the feeling that she will give excuses about her being 28 and not having the right perspectives and goals when i ask her about being together

at this stage, you will want to know and understand more about her. if you want to test her commitment to the relationship and you, maybe you should suggest going for a trip.....say still in Malaysia but different state (explore her state or yours if you are both from different state) and ask if you both can share the cost. if she is unwilling to share the cost, then you better be cautious since she might well be exactly the person you dread.....just sucking on you. and during the trip, you might want to take the opportunity to try to dig info like how long her previous relationship last.....what went wrong.....what went right......who was the most memorable ex-bf and what did he do.....etc etc......this would allow you to know what are you getting into.......and what are her expectation in a guy.

TS, what do you actually mean by this statement

We hooked up quite a number of times and we've became very intimate with each other

Intimate means more than holding hands. Have you

1) seen her naked

2) got a BJ /HJ

But seriously.. just enjoy this while it last.

I have dated younger men like 8-12 years younger than me...and yes, I prefer younger men. mostly, they pay for meals, movies, clubbing etc. Only thing I never wanted/request are expensive gifts from them and so far I see she is not doing that. Besides, financial is not a problem for you right? aiyo, just pamper her lah. If I had a bf, yes, he pays for our outings. Not say must lah, but to most women, it's just a normal thing a gentleman who can afford should do.

This post has been edited by michlove: Feb 21 2019, 11:25 AM

Yes and she was so fkin good at number 2 just swallowed it after i erhem

Not gonna lie that was so enjoyable and something i dont really expereince too often

This post has been edited by JimmyGainz: Feb 21 2019, 11:24 AM

Yes i asked her if she wants to go to bali and she agreed. I havent ask her yet about coughing up for the shared costs but she most likely will want me to pay for her air ticket the very least. To be fair we talk about her past relationships alot already, she mentioned she was abused and beaten by her ex really badly till police came...

Money is not an issue but you know, shes 28 and working with quite a descent salary, i would expect her to have more class and sometimes offer to pay. Im not saying i shouldnt pamper her and that but its just common courtesy to at least offer to pay up once at the very least? Tbh maybe im just a stingy person that only spends alot on himself and has barely dated or even went out with a girl thats why i feel this way now

You heard the lady! Be a "gentleman" and cough up yer dough!

To be frank and from what you have shared with us so far, I am not getting the vibe that she would like to go steady with you. But if she does anyway, more power to you!

read again what I wrote at the end there.....