I need help
Serious help
Lately I seems can't to control my emotion anymore
Will get emotion burst and can't help myself but crying
Mentally weak right now
Now somehow have a hard time to control myself in front of others
Can someone help?

You are in need of professional help. Find a therapist near you.

lol.. what happen ?

Seems like you are under a lot of stress.

Do look for a friend/family member you trust to share your burden with. Remember you are never alone!

why bro? u need someone to share your problem.

Really stressed out during work
I understand as a fresh gradnite is the learning stage which definitely is difficult
But I can't really withstand the pressure

During work, I need to continue to pretend to be a bright cheerful person
But now can't pretend anymore and in the end just getting emotional
Somehow before still can continue to kidding about stress and slide it away
Until today really burst out in front of my employer

If I keep busy with stuff I still might be able to pull it off
But when someone asking me about my personal feeling and condition, really couldn't help but getting emotion burst

Actually I can't feel sad or anything
But just got the urge want to cry and finally cry out

This post has been edited by 13af: Jan 11 2018, 08:49 PM

get another job or take a break

Actually would like to do so
But it's hard for me

If like taking special long leave actually I can't really relax during break
Will more worry about job
And also my colleague will set me as someone specially treated
Now my direct superior is nut liking me so much right now

Also actually want to resign and finding a new job
But still worry about the job market shrinking now

Now still very hesitant

Depression is a very bad monster. Many people lost theur lives because of this like the korean star.

Try talking to your close family members who you can trust.

It is actually not too bad a thing. Just dont stress out yourself too much

there are medication for anti depresent for u need to see a doctor first for the description

This post has been edited by bmt261a: Jan 15 2018, 01:38 PM

are u a fem or mal?

Not sure if you are a guy or girl.
If you are a girl is pretty normal you feel depress on period. Just cry out loud and should be fine after that.

If you are guy, go to do some intensive exercise like run very fast or HIIT. At least 1 hour.

Based on my observation, there is always hormone control our emotion. And what we can do when we feel depress? Also, control our hormone.

When you do intensive exercise, your body will release endorphin that make you feels good and happy.

If you lazy do move, there are some other way. Example drink kao kao coffee. Don't too much, if too much you will feel anxiety.

This post has been edited by e_mc_square: Jan 15 2018, 01:44 PM

Try see a psychiatrist and take medicine to calm yourself down first.
Take a day leave or in the weekend try go to those less crowded beach and relax, look at the ocean will make you feel calm and let you think freely of what you really want inside. If your job is really bother you, then try to change job.
Take care.

i don't claim to know what you're experiencing right now but hang in there. time will heal your anxiousness. i think this is just like the first day of school where you are clueless about everything. but eventually you will turn out ok. don't make any irrational decisions like quitting your job or anything.

Actually it is worse that I am a guy in fact
Feeling pathetic for being mentally weak
Cried for two days straight for no reason (still can logically acknowledge that there is nothing worth to cry or bring sad, and actually I can't feel any sadness or so, but still can't control myself but cry)

Actually cannot get much interest in the things that I used to do anymore
Will just feel like staying in bed and do nothing, even when don't have the appetite to eat

This post has been edited by 13af: Jan 16 2018, 10:30 PM

Thanks for everyone's concern
Had an emotion burst in front of my employer
(Really pathetic)
Cried for two days straight
Now I think I am more or less back to normal (hopefully)

glad you're feeling better. what did you boss say if you don't mind sharing?

While i agree that hormones strongly affect our emotions a lot, but if someone tells you about depression and you claim that you are a girl, it's normal because of period and etc, guess how would the other person feel?

On certain level, yes having period do contribute to fluctuating emotions, but believe it or not, most women are very self aware when they experience these emotions and they know it's due to periods coming and etc.

Therefore I really think you need to stop that mindset or even comment about people feeling depressed because of their sexes, because you don't know if anyone who is in this thread is in need of real help and that comment can be very damaging and worst, very dismissive. Just because that person is a female and may experience mixed emotions during a certain period of time, does not mean their feelings are invalid on other times.

Before you argue anything further, I had a good friend who committed suicide just because her then boyfriend told her that she was just having her period when she tried to talk to him about her depression.

Don't call yourself pathetic, crying is a form of stress reliever for many people, even for dudes. And trust me, a lot of people break down from working once in a while in the office, nothing pathetic about it. Everyone has their own problems and walking on their own hard journeys.

I am glad that you are feeling much better, hopefully you find ways to cheer yourself up, everyone has their own secret ways to release the tension within, i hope that you have found yours.

You don't have to blame yourself. Everyone has a weak point and some people are just more sensitive than others, be it male or female. However, I hope you can make it a point to control your anger/ tears/ temper in front of your bosses or colleagues. If you think something is about to burst, excuse yourself and leave the room. Calm down then walk back in.

This job is making you depressed, so I suggest you try to work things out with your superior or leave. The job market is moving at the moment due to near-CNY period. People are leaving once they get their bonus. So if you're serious about leaving, these 1-2 months is the best time to job hunt.

You're not the cause of it. So make a change and feel better about it. Wake up 1 hour earlier than usual, go for a run/ jog around your park/ garden. Take a shower and hearty breakfast then get to work with a positive mindset. See if that will change for the better.

This post has been edited by sweet_pez: Jan 17 2018, 03:11 PM

Well, sorry for your lost.

But you misunderstood me. I said Girl felt depress during their period is normal. But I didn't said don't care about them if they felt depress. I do care of anyone including my gf when they felt depress regardless of they are boy or girl.

My message to TS is if she is a girl. Don't worry much if "she" is in period and just cry out loud. Coz "she" will fell better after that.

But still, I will stand on my point that depression for different sex will need different type of care.

I think you are over react with this depress thing which related to your good friend.

So, is that mean you feel better after you cry? Find your friends better to find dudes coz you are male to talk about the shit that facing in work. It helps.

Given the limited information, I agree it was the best assumption made to respond with no ill intent.

And I love how people have same writing styles. Coincidence? Mayhaps, or maybe not.

We can only agree to disagree. Your words were very dismissive, point blank, any other explanations were only given after I called out on you. And note that I never anything wrong about everyone requires different care, regardless of sexes. So sorry, I do not know why you still need to stand on your point. OH WAIT, did you even mention anything about different people requiring different care? (Please read back your own post)

All I pointed out is that you were being insensitive and dismissive, because like I said, most women know and are self aware enough when their emotions act out of norm due to their periods, so when someone said I NEED HELP! Women or Men, they need help! Clearly, they already know this is beyond their norms.

Anyways, this is not about you or me winning. It's about TS and his issue.
Before you start biting your own tongue(s), i suggest that we move on.

Ciao.

This post has been edited by miyakochan89: Jan 17 2018, 05:11 PM

Depression can hit any one and it is just as devastating whether one is male or female. Please don't feel that it's worse because you're a guy or pathetic just because society's expectations is that men should be mentally strong.

Depression doesn't always have a particular cause or even a trigger. When I went through my dark period, I remember feeling extremely guilty for feeling the way I did because I had everything going for me in life. I came from a solid family background, I was given every chance I needed to do well in life, I was never in want of anything. I had no reason to be depressed. And yet I was. Depression doesn't make sense much less have a logical explanation.

The dark beast makes you see the most negative sides of yourself. Don't let it do that. Remember that the image depression paints of you is a warped one. It's not a true picture of who you are.

Crying is likely an outlet for all that you suppress inside because you want to maintain an appearance of being fine. It's okay to cry. Don't feel bad if you do so. But I encourage you to try and find other outlets of letting out the negative energy that builds up inside from fighting the dark beast daily. In my case, I found that doing something creative and active helped a lot. Dance was my salvation in that sense. So was writing out my feelings in the form of poetry and doodling. Different things work for different people so you need to look for an outlet that works for you.

See a medical professional if it gets really bad. Someone you feel comfortable with. Sometimes, medication can help but personally, I'd rather not be hooked on pills and powders. I was fortunate to find a doctor who was very understanding. She understood that I didn't want to get hooked on meds so I had monthly appointments for her to review and adjust the dosage of my medication which were actually just mild antidepressants. I was also given sleeping pills because I struggled with insomnia but I never took them unless it was absolutely necessary which turned out to be only twice or thrice over the entire duration of my depression.

Above all, if you, at any time, begin to have thoughts of self-harm please, please reach out to someone. I am deeply introverted and don't have many real life people I trust or feel comfortable with enough to reach out. So I reached out to strangers. In my insomnia, I'd google for depression forums and tell those who were online that I was in a vulnerable place and they tend to be very understanding for they suffer the same thing as well. Those that were having "good days" would help out those who were having "bad days". Usually, it was just some chit chat but it works to take you through that vulnerable moment. We all took turns to have our good and bad days. On some occasions, I was desperate enough to reach out to Befrienders.

I wish you well and I pray that you overcome this. Depression is a lonely fight in that you and you alone can battle the dark beast. But know that there are others who have fought and slain it before and you can too. Take it one day at a time. Take care.

Just too stressed sure to not able to cope with fast-paced working environment, which causing the schedule delayed and being rushed by everyone else
When having confession with the boss, they actually understand the situation, but they can't do anything
Decided t relocate mere into a new different department
Hope will be better

Well, when talking about work I am still fine
But talking about personal feeling will suddenly burst or for no reason
Well, will relocate to a new department
Hope will be better

Still can't really let out myself in front of my friends
Just always kidding about stress and resign, in a joking manner
not really have a friend that I am able to share my personal feeling with

Tell me how do you feel about your job.

It is weird that you can share with strangers like us but not your friends?
How about parents? Siblings?

Really stressed
Real stress
Had to learn everything and complete the task in a given time
Being rushed by several departments at once
Couldn't complete the job and keep piling
No one around to ask for help
Feeling isolated, and really frightened to go to work

I think the reason is that my identity will just remain anonymous on net
need to keep up the capable image in front of other people

This post has been edited by 13af: Jan 19 2018, 07:03 AM

Listen to Alan Watts.

Totally Agree.

Crying out loud might make a girl feel better if she is emotional due to her period .
And whether a girl is having or not having a period, just crying out loud will not help if it's because of depression . The emotions will still persist after that because the cause of depression is still there, not just the hormones caused by period.


Though i do agree that we should share with our closest friends and family but I think it's quite common (definitely not the word ''weird") that sharing with strangers is easier as it's harder for people to judge. Every individual is different, so it might be harder for some to open up. And that is why psychologists, counselors, Befrienders, and even this Mental Health & Counselling section in lowyat exist. p/s, good for you, as based on how you asked TS, it seems that you are able to share all of your problems and worries with at least someone you know.


Ts, I too have a similar situation with you in the past, problems in work and bursting without reasons. For me, what helps is to let the worries and emotions out by blogging and finding someone to talk ( it can be someone you know or don't). And from what I experienced is, I realized every single time when there are worries or feeling emotional, it should be released out the soonest you can. Because accumulating them in the long term will cause symptoms like bursting without no reason, and if it's kept in the heart even longer, it will led to serious depression to the extent of having difficulty coping with their simple daily activities. Hope that you are feeling better now. Till then, take care TS!

Hi
So far so good
Starting to get back to usual self
Thanks for caring