I was in a relationship with a guy after knowing him for less tan a week . And now i regret for being too serious too soon. After orientation day at uni all the seniors came back. and this guy aprroach me anter a few days msging each othe he call me out. and i agree. At that moment i was not really in love wit him. I was just interested coz he was such a fun guy. so when he asked me to be his gf...i didn't hesitated...good things don't last long. I was just experimenting since i was neva in a relationship. Now its has been almost 8 months we r together. So what and why i regret being with him.

1. my parents will never agree coz he is not the same religion as i am. And i'll never convert.

2. He is not the type of guy i am looking for

3. I am loosing out in this relationship. I am often depressed because of this.

4. when i say i'm serious with him...i mean SERIOUS!!!

But the prooblem is i can never seem to break up with him. He says he is too dependent of me. i am in love with him. I can't hurt him. Recently something traggic happen to his family. So i had to be his moral support. Coming to think of it. i really don't mind being with him if not for our religion coz the last person's heart i want to break is my dad's.

You'll either be branded as unfillial or heartless.

*LOL*


I think you should wait a while until everything's cool down then make a decision.

first thing's first..may i ask why r u losing out? u do everything for him and he just depends on u? not saying thats wrong though if ur losing out from the relationship that means he has treated u badly or something like that.if ur saying hes not ur type of guy..then what is meant to be is meant to be...if he has done something meaningful than perhaps u may consider ur position..but if ur relationship is based on heartache and arguements..than i suggest u move on..there is no point clinging onto a broken relationship..for me religion is not the issue since ur relationship has just only lasted 8 months..if ur talking bout 3-4 years and he did proposed to u than its a different story.u should never feel guilty if he has done bad things to u..bcuz u r suffering from it and thats not good for u mentally..but try to talk things slowly.let the incident just slide by and try to talk to him about it..but the question is?..what type of relationship is it based on..does he make u happy or does he often argues wif u?

This post has been edited by cursed: Apr 18 2007, 09:43 PM

Love is a 2 way thing, not because of sympathy or responsibility. It hurts even more if you drag it longer. It is hard to ask for a breakup, but it will only be harder later. You seems to have no more feeling towards him, time to take action.

i sacrifies a lot for him...support him, motivate him. But he does't do the same all the time. There was something i was very interested in den he asked me to quit coz he don't like the ppl there. But he is carin...and most of all he loves me. he motivates me to study. give me encoraging words whem i'm down.

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Added on April 18, 2007, 9:57 pmHis dad just past away, i'll be heartless to do it now. I love him

This post has been edited by iluvlavender: Apr 18 2007, 09:57 PM

okay..fair enough..so u feel less appreciated? have u talked about it to him?does he get mad when u asked for something more from him..i mean like support...perhaps hes saying hes dependant on u?? but for wat for motivation and support..come on u only knew him for a couple of days and u wanted to experiment rite?i'm asking if he treats u badly for these 8 months then its no point staying in the relationship

if its a one way thing...and ur left unhappy..then like the other poster said ur just gonna hurt urself more if action has not been taken..judging by ur words that he restricts u from doing certain things so that u r by his side 24/7..thats abit possesive..relationships shouldnt be restrained or tied up..he should be encouraging u to take that thing u were interested in..but why does he not like the ppl there?but is it more boys there? then perhaps he feels threaten and jealousy may come into play..

to me,i know it hurts more but u should not be contained in his hands..try to talk to him about this that u feeling less appreciated and if he is wiling to support u more than perhaps thats good..but if hes angry and hes more possesive.my guess its best to move on and not linger..if u wait more..like i said ur only gonna hurt urself more...

hi iluvlavender .... seems like we have some similarity ... can we be friend ?

dun worry, there r so many other guys here... rite ppl???

Including yourself ah? *AHEM*

i wrote guyS, so that means all of us, not necessarily me...

There are many guys out there...but only a very few that can make u fall in love wit them

so u tried with how many liao la???

thats true..but very few would really mean it

I think you already got your answer so MOVE ON. Just treat him as a friend.

It's such a critical time now since his father just passed away. i cannot comment anything other than feeling sorry for you that you cannot satisfy both sides as well as your own future. If I were to be in your shoe. I seek my God.

First time is really hard.
My first love was a bit mess up like yours too. We got together just after a week. I guess most ppl messed up on the first love too.

You'd be plain heartless if you broke up with him right now. Think of the guy. Be in his shoes. Losing two of your life pillars of support would kill him. Literally =/

if the cons > pros .. well you know.

do what i do in judging a relationship (yeah right, coming from a guy who posts on the fubu thread, but anyway). first of all, ask what you want in a relationshiip. it could be anything, a kind person, someone to have intercourse with, financial security, whatever, i don't care. then see if the man is providing you with it.

after that see if you're really comfortable around that person, like joking about, or she pushing you into a pool or something, something which you can see yourself not just during the fun times when your heart goes soft seeing the girl but when its quiet and you look at her and say, she's the one. that's when you got a proper relationship. all that religion and other stuff can come later.

also check if you really are the woman of his dreams. that's important as well. that's your part of the bargain to hold up.

What exactly is your question?

Sometimes u just have to forget and doesnt need to think the unnecessarilly stuffs but think only the main point..

if u're not happy, just get out of it.

why are u torturing yourself?