do what i do in judging a relationship (yeah right, coming from a guy who posts on the fubu thread, but anyway). first of all, ask what you want in a relationshiip. it could be anything, a kind person, someone to have intercourse with, financial security, whatever, i don't care. then see if the man is providing you with it.

after that see if you're really comfortable around that person, like joking about, or she pushing you into a pool or something, something which you can see yourself not just during the fun times when your heart goes soft seeing the girl but when its quiet and you look at her and say, she's the one. that's when you got a proper relationship. all that religion and other stuff can come later.

also check if you really are the woman of his dreams. that's important as well. that's your part of the bargain to hold up.