TRUST ME: Something I am experiencing right now. It's not always about looks, it's about how well you can connect to her emotionally and mentally. Physically is often a bonus.

Some of this advice applies to girls too.

Things you should NOT do if you want to kao a girl (you're not dating her yet):

1. Please don't say "You know you love me". It is extremely irritating, even as a joke.

2. If she has rejected you, do NOT pursue her anymore. No more flirting, no more hints, no more. It makes girls uncomfortable and dislike you more. If the girl wants you even after she has rejected you, she will continue to flirt on her own, don't worry.

3. When you meet her in person, don't get too touchy with her unless you KNOW she likes you. Please, don't be that guy who can't keep his hands of whether it's sexual or not (even touching the shoulder or not respecting personal space)

4. Please don't don't don't tell her about your ex stories/sexcapades/etc if you're interested in her (idk why but a lot of guys use this tactic)

5. Please please please don't tell her what you want to do with her unless you know she likes you for sure. It doesn't just mean sexual. It can be "I want to hug and kiss you so much" or "I feel like cuddling you".

6. Don't OVER compliment. It loses its value and it's annoying. Do it like once maybe twice. Keep her on her toes.

7. Don't be an asshole (duh). Don't act like your machoness is better than our girliness, don't laugh at our girliness, don't make it a point to laugh everytime we squeal or purposely scare us. Respect us, tease us as equals, then it's cool man as long as we can kacau you too.


Things you should do if you want to kao a girl:

1. Be attentive to what she likes. You don't necessarily have to buy it for her, but just remember and make note of it. Mention it sometimes when the topic comes up.

2. Talk to her and actually care and be there for her.

3. Look for common interests - TV Shows, Cartoons, Hobbies and connect with her through that. Look for activities that you can invite her and spend time with her without making the situation uncomfortable. (No frills brother) Best if she was comfortable with you.

4. Make her laugh - a sign of a real connection.

5. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Sometimes when girls reject you, it's neither of your faults. It just didn't work out because she probably didn't like you that way. There doesn't have to be a specific reason you are not emotionally attracted to someone and there is no one to blame for that.


Advice in general:

1. If a girl expects you to pay 24/7, she may not be in it for the love. Prepare your heart. Chivalry is one thing, but gold digging is another. It's not worth it.

2. You are equals, in every healthy, mature relationship, you are both lucky to have each other

3. The way you feel about each other definitely affects how good sex is for you.

4. Don't expect anything from each other. Be happy you have their love. You don't automatically become entitled to certain things just because you are together.


Feel free to add! I'd love to hear your experiences with relationships.

Like to add 1 more important point:

Be Confident. The girl can sense if you feel inferior or worry that she might reject you, etc, etc. Women's intuition.

Sorry, you sound very immature, and very naive.

Some of what you said are common-sense. The rest are your assumptions on how things should work for OTHER people.

What you think should work, is not how it actually may or may not work for other people.

Not too sure but general consensus from the male population states that one should take advice from a girl with a grain of salt as such advice are usually generalized and most girls dont know what they are talking about...Thus sending one too many boys into an early relationship grave

+1

This should be in cupid corner.

There is always a reacher & a settler.

i mistakenly read it as stupid corner

The general advice is that guys should never listen to an advice coming from a girl.

Because what girls say and what they really want are always different.

regardless, why is it always the girl who set a list of rules to judge a guy while a guy doesn't? it is like always guy who is suppose to attend an exam rather than the girl

It's simpler to say not to be clingy to girls and do not make girls your no 1 priority.
That can cover like 70% of the points above.

I kao a girl doesn't mean im not dating her lmaoooooo
Dating doesn't mean have to be in exclusive manner

Because pussies seem more valuable than d*cks in the market
simply mean, societal conditioning.

You don't have to follow them.
Problem is guys nowadays are so wussy that they think they have to follow them to get the girl. They become followers/ beta guys instead of leaders.

What it should be is to follow what is in your best interest not the girls.
You don't have to care what girls say because at the end of the day even when you proof that what girls say are wrong, they are not going to feel sorry for you or will they admit that the advice that they gave were wrong.

For example there was this girl in this forum who gave the advice that said that to get the girl, the guy "must always be there for her and care for her".
In another time , there was this male forummer who complained that the gf called him stupid and guess what the advice from girls was. "Bring her out for a nice dinner to show that you care". Wow a reward for calling your bf stupid. LOL.

This post has been edited by Drian: May 19 2015, 10:16 AM

wht if the guy wan pay all the time ? lel

Things you should do if you want to kao a boy:

1. spread your leg

Feel very childish what ts said.

Actually it depends on what type of girl you going for. Smart women they will test you so by applying ts method automatic fail.

Since ts so newbie give u a special hint. If you can't get a girl you like or uncertain do not target her but target everyone around her to help you seal the deal because her decision will be influence by her friends and family.

Then your so called ''smart'' women are testing u based on her friends' and family influence?
Then i can say she's not that ''smart'' loh

Why you always confuse? It's just a different approach. You think easy to influence all the friends and family.

Testing you is to see are you the jerk among man

There is only 1 true advice on relationships in this world, and I happen to stumble upon it, which I will share with you for free:

There are over 3 female humans on this planet. To think that a set of advice will apply to these 3 billion women is sheer folly.