TRUST ME: Something I am experiencing right now. It's not always about looks, it's about how well you can connect to her emotionally and mentally. Physically is often a bonus.

Some of this advice applies to girls too.

Things you should NOT do if you want to kao a girl (you're not dating her yet):

1. Please don't say "You know you love me". It is extremely irritating, even as a joke.

2. If she has rejected you, do NOT pursue her anymore. No more flirting, no more hints, no more. It makes girls uncomfortable and dislike you more. If the girl wants you even after she has rejected you, she will continue to flirt on her own, don't worry.

3. When you meet her in person, don't get too touchy with her unless you KNOW she likes you. Please, don't be that guy who can't keep his hands of whether it's sexual or not (even touching the shoulder or not respecting personal space)

4. Please don't don't don't tell her about your ex stories/sexcapades/etc if you're interested in her (idk why but a lot of guys use this tactic)

5. Please please please don't tell her what you want to do with her unless you know she likes you for sure. It doesn't just mean sexual. It can be "I want to hug and kiss you so much" or "I feel like cuddling you".

6. Don't OVER compliment. It loses its value and it's annoying. Do it like once maybe twice. Keep her on her toes.

7. Don't be an asshole (duh). Don't act like your machoness is better than our girliness, don't laugh at our girliness, don't make it a point to laugh everytime we squeal or purposely scare us. Respect us, tease us as equals, then it's cool man as long as we can kacau you too.


Things you should do if you want to kao a girl:

1. Be attentive to what she likes. You don't necessarily have to buy it for her, but just remember and make note of it. Mention it sometimes when the topic comes up.

2. Talk to her and actually care and be there for her.

3. Look for common interests - TV Shows, Cartoons, Hobbies and connect with her through that. Look for activities that you can invite her and spend time with her without making the situation uncomfortable. (No frills brother) Best if she was comfortable with you.

4. Make her laugh - a sign of a real connection.

5. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Sometimes when girls reject you, it's neither of your faults. It just didn't work out because she probably didn't like you that way. There doesn't have to be a specific reason you are not emotionally attracted to someone and there is no one to blame for that.


Advice in general:

1. If a girl expects you to pay 24/7, she may not be in it for the love. Prepare your heart. Chivalry is one thing, but gold digging is another. It's not worth it.

2. You are equals, in every healthy, mature relationship, you are both lucky to have each other

3. The way you feel about each other definitely affects how good sex is for you.

4. Don't expect anything from each other. Be happy you have their love. You don't automatically become entitled to certain things just because you are together.


Feel free to add! I'd love to hear your experiences with relationships.