Topic merged. All dating agency/match making reviews/questions/dilemma/opinions to be posted in this thread.

I have never believe for one second that dating agency actually works. Those that pay alot expect alot.
and the above is one of the problems with dating agency both for males and females.

When you pay alot of money to a dating agency, you tend to have over the top expectations (both for male and female) coz like you said, you have paid so much money and therefore have to right to your own set of preference.
So the guy will expect to meet some girls who are smoking hot, pretty, funny, docile, etc while the girl will expect to meet a man who is tall, dark, handsome, rich, cares for her, etc. In short, there is a mismatch in expectations.

And let's face reality. The really good girls and the really good guys won't need to pay alot of money to meet people. They are well sought after. Its those who lack the above qualities but want to get the "perfect" match that would resort to these type of agencies thinking by paying a hell lot of money they can nab a partner of their dreams. In short, dating agencies prey on people's imagination.

Then they go on to sell you the fact that they are targeting the busy high flying executives who have do not have time to meet new people. I mean seriously? You want a gf/bf who is busy most of the time? Who probably need to schedule dates like 3 months in advance? I sure as hell don't want someone who is too busy. They should stay single. Its best for them and everyone else (except for the dating agency).

Then these dating agencies also known to stroke your egos by telling you how you are the type of guy/girl the opposite sex is looking for, etc. hard truth:If you have to resort to dating agency to find dates, you probably aren't what they said you are. Seriously, if you don't have the guts or are too busy to meet new people, then you're probably better off single. Really. No point signing up

This post has been edited by Gazprom200: Oct 26 2014, 11:16 PM

Fully agree!!!

Yes, I know this concept and I agreed with you too, for these years I met guys and chasers but I didn’t meet the one that clicks. It is under my fren encouragement that I should get help from the agency. Actually I was visiting this agency merely to get some insights on dating agency and see if there is any normal table for six or table for eight events. I oso dunno why on the earth I would trapped in their persuasion and gt the membership signup. It’s a real impulsive decision and I regret hell for that. I really soooo regret….

This, my dear sir, is the kind of objective review I'm looking for. Well, in term of price, one would have to ask, for the same price, can one get a more effective service?

I'm glad the other service worked out for you.

@gazprom: I'm not sure what kind of terrible experience you had with dating agency, but you need to be a bit more specific here. Saying that they prey on ppl imagination, so did the agency promise anyone that their clientele list include Chris Evans and Robert Downey Jr, Jessica Alba kind people? Even Lunch Actually promise no such thing in the form of physical or emotional perfection.

And saying cynical things like, if you dont have the guts to meet ppl, and therefore you deserve to be single? I would like to know what sort of experience did you go through to come up with that statement.

You sound like you're paid to promote Lunch Actually

Ma'am, take your time and explain, if its not too personal, what sort of terrible experience did you have with this agency of yours? Depending on your personality type, it could give some relieve writing it out. I'm not going to judge you.

Let these question give you some idea on what to explain...

Did they conduct the typical 16 personality test?
Did they ask the most/least question that most job interview include?

Does the agency match you according to above, or some similar form to it? Or do they just interview you directly?
Did they show you photo and allow you to decide if you're going for it or not?

@s2pe: Yeah, I should sign up for their online spokeperson. Anyway, I had a thread talking about 'putting things in proper context', probably buried or closed by admin, I dunno.

I just enjoy persuading ppl to see things the other way.

@General Fahmy: Well, thanks for the idea. I wouldnt go out of my way to SG to look for dates, but if I happen to be there working, then its a possibility.

I believe everyone has a right to an acceptable level of expectation for what they're paying for, no? And a lot of people feel that it's not worth to pay thousands just to have half a dozen "dates".

That's why I try to get people to be specific about what's their expectation and stuff. If your criteria is only Phd level and earning more than >20k. And you get 6 dates a year for the low low price of 3k? I would say damn worth it. But someone might think that even 3k is too much for that.

But as long as I manage to get people to explain this sort of fact, then its ok. You can decide whether its expensive or not.

To YOU it might be worth that. To others it is not, and just because you think it's worth it, does not make the opinions of others invalid.

For example, if I can get dates with women at very minimal expense, I would find paying RM3k to get half a dozen dates to be overpriced.

Awesome fantastic business strategy to squeeze every penny out of a despo on top of paying that blardy date and don't even know if he is gonna like her face even? HELL NO~

For RM3K, I rather walk up to random woman that I find myself attracted to, tell her that i'm doing a social science study looking for female participants to interview on dining habits for RM50 bucks. She gets to pick a restaurant with budget of RM100. With RM150 bucks each, I get 20 dates for RM3K. At least, I know I like the face, tits and booty.

C'mon...I'm sure this will work even if I lost my hair, my teeth and probably diagnosed with erectile dysfunction.

Dude, we're of the same opinion and yet you misunderstood me.
The whole topic wasn't about the price or how expensive is things. Its about the experience you get (from hiring an agency), and how objectively you describe it. Whether its worth it or not its up to the reader.

@fahmy: Again, I would like to stress that, not a single post by me mentioned anything about expectations of looks.

It is actually logic.
Yes, many agencies or so called agencies prey on people's imagination.
Because you paid alot for something (i.e. exchange alot of money for the purpose of meeting someone , hopefully a partner in life) you expect nothing less.
Its a simple rationale. For example If I pay RM 300k for a mercedes benz for example, do you think I will expect anything less than the luxury, comfort and safety of typical of a Mercedes Benz? Would you be happy if you paid RM300k for a mercedes benz that looks, feel and rides like a Proton? Absolutely not, right? The same applies to dating agency.

What do dating agency sell? Ans: The promise of an eventful date. Now by paying so much money, do you think you will go in with zero expectation of your date i.e.(in the above context) do not mind paying RM 300k for a proton? Absolutely not, right? Think about it. As a fairly attractive girl (i assume) to be forking out RM 3k for dates, do you think they will settle for some nerdy, socially awkward guy who they can easily hook up with outside the dating agency? Absolutely not.

As for the cynical saying, it is an observation. If one do not even dare or are too shy (esp guys or even girls these days - gender bias is no longer in play. Its called equal rights) to approach someone and talk to them, what chances do you think they have even if they have a prefect person in front of them? Not going to work, right?

This post has been edited by Gazprom200: Oct 30 2014, 11:03 PM

Precisely. And to add on, do you think women who pay RM3k for dates are going to settle for some nerdy, socially awkward guy that are a dime a dozen in their office? Absolutely not. Right. Why waste so much money just to have dates with men who they can get anytime (assuming they are attractive enough). And if they are not attractive enough, what makes you think the guy paying RM3k will want to settle for her, right? It works both ways. Expectation kills the dating game. Best is just to keep it simple, no expectation, no money (maybe just pay for the meal that's it). That is my opinion

This post has been edited by Gazprom200: Oct 30 2014, 11:01 PM

Man, you guys are a riot.

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This post has been edited by dilemma1234: Nov 4 2014, 09:13 AM

Well, if most of the client writes "pleasant personality" ONLY in their preference, I'm sure they will also hire women from, unisex saloon, sales person, event promoter, or girls working at handphone shop. The thing is, are you gonna just write "pleasant personality" as only preference for RM3K right?

Does women need to pay for such services too?
I thought all they need to do is just leave their contact.

Thanks, I appreciate your courage.

I don't know the exact system if this agency you applied to. Is someone that was never active for 1 year still considered a member (and are they paying anything during this duration?). Of course the agency should check their member from time to time, like are you still single or not. But if a person lies, not much they can do about it either, at most cancel their membership. They are a dating agency, not private investigation. Thats a risk consumer like us need to take into.

Regarding refund, this is Malaysia, so its shitty no hope here, I wouldnt suggest anyone to take them to court unless you have the time and energy for that.

I'm going to assume that the agency has other consultant beside the one youre dealing with. Would you try another shot, if your membership still valid ?

Well, I won't ask you about your economic situation, it could have caused you a lot of damages when you needed the cash. But I would try to frame it another way, like say you signed up for a gym and just went for a few session before you got bored (but you need to pay for a year).