Good evening lowyat member.. i am involved in a triangle love.. the story is like this

There were a pair couple, they already engaged for 2 years, signed all the paper/document, we all worked in same company,
ok..then i fall in love to that girl, and that girl also have good feel towards me, (the time i fall in love to that girl i already know the situation), just at last december, the girl suddenly confess her love to me, and then everything get started. (means underground love)
and she told me that she want to leave her current husband/boyfriend? and then i believe on what she said, and i fork out rm 4k for her and find a lawyer firm and lawyer for her, just to help her get back her freedom. and i spent quite alot of money to her, to buy her everything..

Now everything already at halfway (in progress of getting back her status) , she staying with me for already 1 month, and i am very good to her, take care of her everything, unfortunately, on this valentine day, she got surprised from her ex husband/boyfriend at my company..and eventually, she move out from my house and move back to her ex's house..
i am so upset , what the fxxk , she told me that she decide to leave her ex due to her ex is not good to her, and then i determine to help her in everything, and end up become like this, so in this past 2 weeks, i keep on ask her to move back, and she did said she regret to move back, and i told her, just leave him and come back to me, i will take care her for everything, and i got her answer is.."i am considering" ..seem like she is dragging me more than sincere want to solve the problem..and her ex already start to held the wedding party and hear that they will go to taiwan for wedding photo shoot in Mid of March..

...and i admit...i very love her, i feel like lost everything when she move out..become no motivation, even my colleagues and supervisor also notice that.

so my question is:

am i did something wrong that cause her to move back??

is it still worth to wait her?do i still have a chance? i set a deadline to myself, which is before they go for photo shoot. If by that time, she still do not have any response, what should i do??
i already pay out everything for her, but why end up i get this kind of pay back?

Kindly please advise..thanks for reading my story and sorry for bad English.

*we are all just 25 years old

*edit : each time i ask her still love me, she will answered she still love and miss me, is she trying to entertain me or i still really have chance?

i feel like i am lost

This post has been edited by yong88: Mar 1 2014, 07:33 AM

you're just a doormat

Get out of it.

Imagine this. She went back staying with her husband, f*** like no tomorrow, and then go back to u. When u fck her, can u imagine shes doing with the guy? My advise is play around with her and be friends with benefit. Shes just nt worth it

Piap her 1st

do not continue. If she can leave her fiance for you, you think she wont do the same to you? and what's wrong with you man.. never ever ever go after another man's fiance.

I hate to keep repeating this,if he/she can leave others for you,he/she will leave you for other too

she is playing on u

hmm i do feel bad about you. you're like a rebound, but much worst than that. sorry bro

next time when you piap her, give everything you got. make it worth all your total investments towards her.

Here is my answer and sound advice.

1. He did everything out of love to her and cherish her. You did the right thing.

2. Since she is already married and time for you to move on. If she really determine to gain back her freedom, she would do it herself and not asking you to fork out any money at all. This can be a signal of indecisive and possible using you as bait to make her hubby jealous.

3. This is a painful in terms of emotion and money loss. You are still young and I am sure you can take its as life lesson and move on. The problem is your heart do the thinking and not your brain in this case.

4. Personally I feel that she is indecisive and will still go back to the hubby

bottomline is, she is getting married.
your effort of spanar-ing is not working and she is making the full use of your unconditionally kindness.

Thanks for replied, even criticism, sarcasm comment i will accept,

am i a dumb ass in this situation??
i personally feel that i am definitely a dumb ass who gave all effort, believe fairy tales will happen,
eventually...make myself upset...

i really dunno how to handle this kind of situation as i have no much friends, and i am not those kind of LOVE player..

sorry dude when the heart decides you love her there is nothing you can do but you can help urself by not giving her anymore money and stay faraway from her and give u time to heal

Everyone makes mistake in relationship, so do not called yourself a dumb ass.

As what all the other replied mentioned, it is not worth involving yourself more in the relationship.

Somehow you will still feel insecure in the future although you manage to wrestle her back from her so called hubby.

PS: If you want to be evil, piap and cum inside her. Do at your own risk

Let me gip you a piece of advice.

While it's not ok to tap other people's gf\wife, sometimes life just throw you some free pusseh, question the cost and quality of the pusseh, eat it and then forget about it.

It's like some bosses treat you a free meal, you don't go weeks or months on end reminiscing the free meal that you get. The food goes into your mouth, digested, then came out as a shit few hours later.

Eat free pusseh as long as she's your type, but don't go on and on being emotionally attached to it unless the free pussehs bring values into your life.

The free pusseh you just tap ain't free, it just cost you 4k and an heartache of emotional cost that needs real money to solve(psychologist, and haagen dass ain't cheap yo), in addition of setting 2 man to fight over it.

The fact that the other guy didn't come and beat you up is just a fact that there's 2 pussehwhipped men fighting over a pusseh, lulz.

No pusseh are worth fighting for. Pussehs are fungible, there's like 3 billion or so pussehs in the world. I heard they're growing some pussehs in a farm at China.

drillz please... show us her face.

Yup... this is how stupid msian men are.

Fork out money for a woman to leave a guy whom he doesn't even know is bf or husband, then the woman goes back to the bf/husband, and this dummy wants her back, even though she has no feelings for him.

No wonder things that are a flop in other countries are lucrative here, like Pandora's bracelet

Get out of it.learn to m0ve 0n.she"s just playing b0th of u..she's taking advantage of b0th of u..i think she's enjoying it.bet she must be really pretty en0ugh to make two men to go crazy b0ut her ..

feel like you've been used, like a tool.

It's call karma, many in /k don't believe.

She didn't end a relation clean but you didn't refuse the underground relationship either .... so both are suffering the consequences right now.

Lucky for her the ex/husband is stupid enough to woo her back despite that rocky relationship.

Hence now you are suffering the full blow of the effect.

Maybe love blind you for a bit, but you where not thinking straight in the first place.

Sacrifice is worth nothing when you bind them with hopes and wishes, what you give you must accept it as a lost, otherwise you are just making a trade in hopes of benefits.

i think, if she truly love u, she never let u fork out money in the first place.
and if she truly loves u, she the one who make that sacrifice to take care of you.

recently my gf is giving me expenses like food n bills. i truly in debt with her sacrifices made for me...

p/s : my gf is lowyat beauty... hahahah

Imagine she just gave her bf a BJ, then she come to ur house and kiss u. It's like u just kissed the guy's d***. LOLOLOL

leave her, she's a douche. if she can do that towards her hubby, what's the chance of her repeating this mistake of finding a diff guy again? really not worth it, move on I say

Good evening,fellow low yat member,

I think you know that you have to leave herm she is gong to be with that guy and they are going to have a family with children also, the girl already sleep with that many times also you want already used many times by the future husband, marriage also got party d, you no hope d la, just give up la, what else can you do, if you still want to see her again, just attend their wedding dinner la make sure you get an invitation and you can give bigger ang pau and more money to her. Her husband must be a very rich guy can bring the gurl go taiwan for photo shoot.

Well you must be a rich guy also can pay so much money to make her breakup and buy so many thing for hr, if you are so rich than go and find other gurls la so easy since you have so much money to spend on gurls.

Yes you are not very smart because the girl is smarter than you, use you and your money and make you buy things for her also, if you really wan revenge ,post her pictures her la so that we all can see and where she work haha.

Bro dont be so sad , next time be smarter and dont ruin people marriage life la, not good, got karma you know, money can always earn back dont be dumbass again get used by girls

My bet, she had an argument with him and wanted to make him jealous. She made use of you to tick him off. And staying with you, did you piap her daily? If yes, you got your part of the exchange, no complains plz.

On why you get such payback, it's because u hook someone's gf. Now you kena back. Karma

haiz..want to clarify something...i din use spanar to hook her, before she make such decisions, i do ask her to think wise, i also said to her, once she step out, there will be no turn back..(perhaps i am wrong to say no turn back)...and she did said she already think till so called mature, that y i dare to bet my everything for her...who knows...haiz..

The main question is did you think wise to make such decision ? If you think properly you won't in such situation like this Kena cheated by the girl . Leave her alone n get yourself a proper n loyal wife not like her

sorry for your situation. but it sounds like the girl is an indecisive beeeetch and will hurt u in the end.

u know what they say, if she cheats on her husband for u, be sure she will cheat on u too. people who wouldn't commit generally don't do so in the end. my humble advice is just to move on with life and let her go.

but eh what do u mean that u spent 4k on lawyers, did she file for divorce already? how is that possible if the husband doesnt know about the affair?

This post has been edited by shenonymous: Mar 4 2014, 02:42 PM

He used the 4000 for a lawyer fee so that the girl can leave the guy legally since they have signed a marriage registry cert, n now after only just a month she left him and went back to that guy, losing 4000 a month must be hard for him TS must be a rich guy he sure can get other girls

- First of all, You should not interfere in her relationship which already engage. Try think if you were the other way round? if you were her fiance? Rude to say <<A**Ho**>>

- If you really believe her, then wait till she done a correct paper work and procedure.

- Should not support 100% financially

- Just stay as close friend is more then enough.

Solution:
- Get out of this mess/ sh*t
- Ask back your refund if she willing to give or just think you make a big donation/ learning fee lo.
- If she can do this to her ex? do you think she wont do that on you? Think twice b4 crushing people relationship

well..thanks for every comments, yours comments really did help me in recover..maybe i am really too stupid...
but i also wonder why am i did that at the 1st place, maybe of her sincerity? or maybe i really wish to have future with her? i have no idea, what i know is, i just messing up everything..

No you are not stupid yong88, you just decide to trust her because you beleive her, only that girl is the stupid one who dunno how to appreciate you, if you can , ask her to giv you back your 4000 ringgit and all the money you waste on her!!!!!!

Are you sure she is so sincere?? if she is so sincere then she wont go back to the ex husband/fiance, next time dont trust people so easily just because they have a pretty face and have a sad story to tell you. Dont feel sad when you see their wedding photo

TS, have you ever thought that you are being used for her to get out of the marriage, with you giving her the money to hire the lawyer for her?

you are being used by her to get her husband to treat her better? do you get your money worth? piap2 i mean

Clearly she has tricked you. Did you follow her to the lawyer firm to get a divorce? Or you just gave her 4k in cash and let her handle the divorce herself? She could just be using you for money and getting you to buy things for her. Her husband doesn't know about you meh? And you all working in the same company?

you seemed rather orientated when it comes to $$ lol

Cause $$ is a sensitive topic.

Ada listerine la bro, ask her gargle dulu before kissing.

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My advise - You gotta take it hard and just leave her. Show your macho, ignore her and see if she will ever come back to you. If no, end of story, investment done.

You are being kite around because you still care her, which she thinks she still has the value or option to choose between you and the husband.

Once she screw up with the husband again, if she ever come back to you, then you better be smart not to fall into the same trick.

Bring her to the lawyer firm and husband together, fix it up, otherwise, dont ever step into that relationship again.

25 year-old, market is open big and wide la bro.

if indeed its true that she's playing you, then tell her to pay back ur 4k lah.

if she doesnt, tell the husband about your affair. these kind of people should learn not to use people for their personal gain.

normal tactics for girls to tarik harga with her husband. TS is just a temporary tool

She used u .. that's it. u are damn wrong to get involve with an engaged women.

so leave her and move on.Let her be and don't care about whatever she said. She just tipu u for her own sake.

I think you are just seeking for comfort here. I know it feels not good. Just let time perish everything.

you are already wrong start from the beginning. you know that she is married and yet you still start the forbidden relationship. at least wait for her to settle with her problems before starts the relationship. you may provide helps to her but not love.

conclusion: you are the one who caused troubles in their life. although the girl has her wrongdoing.

ts wat happen

let me update my case,
in this few weeks...i admit...i did ask her many times to think clearly, since she still said she miss and love me (i dunno she just tell true or just entertain me)...but..what make me feel angry is...she still follow him go to taiwan on this coming wednesday, i ask her not to go taiwan, just for me, and what the explanation she told, she told me: already bought air ticket booked hotel, so have to go...i mean...wtf is all this...if i really love someone, i will dump everything and put her as my 1st priority, shouldn't be like this??
i really feel upset and start to have some disappointed feeling on her already..as chinese quote said " 路遥知马力，日久见人心...As distance tests a horse's strength, so time reveals a person's heart"
being very kind to her, means being very x 10 cruel to myself..

Let go and live your life ba
You still have many more miles to go

做人要潇洒。

think to be 潇洒 at the 1st place.. but i really cant do it...so therefore, i am dragging...the longer i drag..the more things i learn, the more i can understand what kind of this girl is...
if compare now and month before, i think now i can handle more well..maybe the fox start to reveal its tail liao...hahaha

拿得起，就要放得下。

Pssh. From your bad english to your bad common sense, no wonder you end up in such a situation. Youre like what, 25? And cant even realise that this girl is merely messing with you to get $$ or see which guy offers the better deal. Your silly enough to put up with her game and buy her this and that and let her be the queen or some shitz. If she can ditch her fiance for you, she will most likely do the same thing to you again. Its like a broken record playing over and over. You're worth it. Not from loreal. But from being such a spanna.
Gosh. Cc never fails to make me laugh.

This post has been edited by Mikolee1314: Mar 18 2014, 01:45 AM

Ok so the fox has reveal the tail wat are you going to do about it???? Hav u got you rm4000 back n all the mobey that you spent on her???hav you ask her to giv u bacm the money?? That almost two months salary fr u n u need repair your car also



pls go n get your money back

thanks bro for concern...if possible, i really dont wish to go until that step...if really go and take money...that means it is really over , i can take out rm4k in one shot, but doesn't means ppl can return 4k in one shot...haiz...dunno what to do..my life so miserable..

wat???? "that means it really" -youe words say that you still like her, bro why do you still like her, she took your money and dont really love you, this kind of people must need punishment lar, go take back your 4k and spend on another girl dont be scared, she is a fox and you need to beat this fox. How can you not feel angry after wat she do, too bad lar bro she cheat you and your money and you still dont learn your lesson

If she loves you, then she should choose you, if I love another girl, I will leave the current girl whom I love because if you love another one mean, you love another one than current one. By the way, you guys can go threesome also don't worry just upload threesome videos

Wonder if ts made the video yet

I don't like 3 some, it is done by some losers, some loser only did this. A Real man only cares about his girl

Yes, leave her and move on with Strawberry, btw Strawberry, I miss so much

Got your 4k back??

nasi kangkang..comfirm....

4k down the drain d la.

well, she stayed with u for a month, so consider it as the paiping fee lor.

Money spent is experience gained. Just think of it as a very expensive cheong...

leave liao lah.These type of gals,just wanna double dare the other party to get double getback.Save your money,save your troubles and enjoy.move forward. Your value and integrity is higher than that!

Heard of the Song, I would do anything for Love ... but I won't do that.

Son, don't be played and used.

25, still young. Cut your loses, supplementary CC, joint Bank Accounts

And, if she suddenly ask you for money cos the Baby is yours, do a DNA test first.

legendary Spare Tyre ?

you piaped her or not during that 1 month