Good evening lowyat member.. i am involved in a triangle love.. the story is like this

There were a pair couple, they already engaged for 2 years, signed all the paper/document, we all worked in same company,
ok..then i fall in love to that girl, and that girl also have good feel towards me, (the time i fall in love to that girl i already know the situation), just at last december, the girl suddenly confess her love to me, and then everything get started. (means underground love)
and she told me that she want to leave her current husband/boyfriend? and then i believe on what she said, and i fork out rm 4k for her and find a lawyer firm and lawyer for her, just to help her get back her freedom. and i spent quite alot of money to her, to buy her everything..

Now everything already at halfway (in progress of getting back her status) , she staying with me for already 1 month, and i am very good to her, take care of her everything, unfortunately, on this valentine day, she got surprised from her ex husband/boyfriend at my company..and eventually, she move out from my house and move back to her ex's house..
i am so upset , what the fxxk , she told me that she decide to leave her ex due to her ex is not good to her, and then i determine to help her in everything, and end up become like this, so in this past 2 weeks, i keep on ask her to move back, and she did said she regret to move back, and i told her, just leave him and come back to me, i will take care her for everything, and i got her answer is.."i am considering" ..seem like she is dragging me more than sincere want to solve the problem..and her ex already start to held the wedding party and hear that they will go to taiwan for wedding photo shoot in Mid of March..

...and i admit...i very love her, i feel like lost everything when she move out..become no motivation, even my colleagues and supervisor also notice that.

so my question is:

am i did something wrong that cause her to move back??

is it still worth to wait her?do i still have a chance? i set a deadline to myself, which is before they go for photo shoot. If by that time, she still do not have any response, what should i do??
i already pay out everything for her, but why end up i get this kind of pay back?

Kindly please advise..thanks for reading my story and sorry for bad English.

*we are all just 25 years old

*edit : each time i ask her still love me, she will answered she still love and miss me, is she trying to entertain me or i still really have chance?

i feel like i am lost

This post has been edited by yong88: Mar 1 2014, 07:33 AM

Thanks for replied, even criticism, sarcasm comment i will accept,

am i a dumb ass in this situation??
i personally feel that i am definitely a dumb ass who gave all effort, believe fairy tales will happen,
eventually...make myself upset...

i really dunno how to handle this kind of situation as i have no much friends, and i am not those kind of LOVE player..

haiz..want to clarify something...i din use spanar to hook her, before she make such decisions, i do ask her to think wise, i also said to her, once she step out, there will be no turn back..(perhaps i am wrong to say no turn back)...and she did said she already think till so called mature, that y i dare to bet my everything for her...who knows...haiz..

well..thanks for every comments, yours comments really did help me in recover..maybe i am really too stupid...
but i also wonder why am i did that at the 1st place, maybe of her sincerity? or maybe i really wish to have future with her? i have no idea, what i know is, i just messing up everything..

let me update my case,
in this few weeks...i admit...i did ask her many times to think clearly, since she still said she miss and love me (i dunno she just tell true or just entertain me)...but..what make me feel angry is...she still follow him go to taiwan on this coming wednesday, i ask her not to go taiwan, just for me, and what the explanation she told, she told me: already bought air ticket booked hotel, so have to go...i mean...wtf is all this...if i really love someone, i will dump everything and put her as my 1st priority, shouldn't be like this??
i really feel upset and start to have some disappointed feeling on her already..as chinese quote said " 路遥知马力，日久见人心...As distance tests a horse's strength, so time reveals a person's heart"
being very kind to her, means being very x 10 cruel to myself..

think to be 潇洒 at the 1st place.. but i really cant do it...so therefore, i am dragging...the longer i drag..the more things i learn, the more i can understand what kind of this girl is...
if compare now and month before, i think now i can handle more well..maybe the fox start to reveal its tail liao...hahaha

thanks bro for concern...if possible, i really dont wish to go until that step...if really go and take money...that means it is really over , i can take out rm4k in one shot, but doesn't means ppl can return 4k in one shot...haiz...dunno what to do..my life so miserable..