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mowlous
post Mar 2 2014, 03:56 AM

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QUOTE(yong88 @ Feb 28 2014, 10:07 PM)
i already pay out everything for her, but why end up i get this kind of pay back?
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It's call karma, many in /k don't believe.

She didn't end a relation clean but you didn't refuse the underground relationship either .... so both are suffering the consequences right now.

Lucky for her the ex/husband is stupid enough to woo her back despite that rocky relationship.

Hence now you are suffering the full blow of the effect.

Maybe love blind you for a bit, but you where not thinking straight in the first place.

Sacrifice is worth nothing when you bind them with hopes and wishes, what you give you must accept it as a lost, otherwise you are just making a trade in hopes of benefits.
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post Mar 2 2014, 04:04 AM

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i think, if she truly love u, she never let u fork out money in the first place.
and if she truly loves u, she the one who make that sacrifice to take care of you.

recently my gf is giving me expenses like food n bills. i truly in debt with her sacrifices made for me...

p/s : my gf is lowyat beauty... hahahah
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post Mar 2 2014, 03:32 PM

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Imagine she just gave her bf a BJ, then she come to ur house and kiss u. It's like u just kissed the guy's d***. LOLOLOL
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QUOTE(yong88 @ Feb 28 2014, 10:07 PM)
Good evening lowyat member.. i am involved in a triangle love.. the story is like this

There were a pair couple, they already engaged for 2 years, signed all the paper/document, we all worked in same company,
ok..then i fall in love to that girl, and that girl also have good feel towards me, (the time i fall in love to that girl i already know the situation), just at last december, the girl suddenly confess her love to me, and then everything get started. (means underground love)
and she told me that she want to leave her current husband/boyfriend? and then i believe on what she said, and i fork out rm 4k for her and find a lawyer firm and lawyer for her, just to help her get back her freedom. and i spent quite alot of money to her, to buy her everything..

Now everything already at halfway (in progress of getting back her status) , she staying with me for already 1 month, and i am very good to her, take care of her everything, unfortunately, on this valentine day, she got surprised from her ex husband/boyfriend at my company..and eventually, she move out from my house and move back to her ex's house..
i am so upset , what the fxxk , she told me that she decide to leave her ex due to her ex is not good to her, and then i determine to help her in everything, and end up become like this, so in this past 2 weeks, i keep on ask her to move back, and she did said she regret to move back, and i told her, just leave him and come back to me, i will take care her for everything, and i got her answer is.."i am considering" ..seem like she is dragging me more than sincere want to solve the problem..and her ex already start to held the wedding party and hear that they will go to taiwan for wedding photo shoot in Mid of March..

...and i admit...i very love her, i feel like lost everything when she move out..become no motivation, even my colleagues and supervisor also notice that.

so my question is:

am i did something wrong that cause her to move back??

is it still worth to wait her?do i still have a chance? i set a deadline to myself, which is before they go for photo shoot. If by that time, she still do not have any response, what should i do??
i already pay out everything for her, but why end up i get this kind of pay back? cry.gif  cry.gif  cry.gif

Kindly please advise..thanks for reading my story and sorry for bad English.

*we are all just 25 years old

*edit : each time i ask her still love me, she will answered she still love and miss me, is she trying to entertain me or i still really have chance?

i feel like i am lost
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leave her, she's a douche. if she can do that towards her hubby, what's the chance of her repeating this mistake of finding a diff guy again? really not worth it, move on I say shakehead.gif

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post Mar 3 2014, 10:39 AM

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QUOTE(yong88 @ Feb 28 2014, 10:07 PM)
Good evening lowyat member.. i am involved in a triangle love.. the story is like this

There were a pair couple, they already engaged for 2 years, signed all the paper/document, we all worked in same company,
ok..then i fall in love to that girl, and that girl also have good feel towards me, (the time i fall in love to that girl i already know the situation), just at last december, the girl suddenly confess her love to me, and then everything get started. (means underground love)
and she told me that she want to leave her current husband/boyfriend? and then i believe on what she said, and i fork out rm 4k for her and find a lawyer firm and lawyer for her, just to help her get back her freedom. and i spent quite alot of money to her, to buy her everything..

Now everything already at halfway (in progress of getting back her status) , she staying with me for already 1 month, and i am very good to her, take care of her everything, unfortunately, on this valentine day, she got surprised from her ex husband/boyfriend at my company..and eventually, she move out from my house and move back to her ex's house..
i am so upset , what the fxxk , she told me that she decide to leave her ex due to her ex is not good to her, and then i determine to help her in everything, and end up become like this, so in this past 2 weeks, i keep on ask her to move back, and she did said she regret to move back, and i told her, just leave him and come back to me, i will take care her for everything, and i got her answer is.."i am considering" ..seem like she is dragging me more than sincere want to solve the problem..and her ex already start to held the wedding party and hear that they will go to taiwan for wedding photo shoot in Mid of March..

...and i admit...i very love her, i feel like lost everything when she move out..become no motivation, even my colleagues and supervisor also notice that.

so my question is:

am i did something wrong that cause her to move back??

is it still worth to wait her?do i still have a chance? i set a deadline to myself, which is before they go for photo shoot. If by that time, she still do not have any response, what should i do??
i already pay out everything for her, but why end up i get this kind of pay back? cry.gif  cry.gif  cry.gif

Kindly please advise..thanks for reading my story and sorry for bad English.

*we are all just 25 years old

*edit : each time i ask her still love me, she will answered she still love and miss me, is she trying to entertain me or i still really have chance?

i feel like i am lost
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Good evening,fellow low yat member,

I think you know that you have to leave herm she is gong to be with that guy and they are going to have a family with children also, the girl already sleep with that many times also you want already used many times by the future husband, marriage also got party d, you no hope d la, just give up la, what else can you do, if you still want to see her again, just attend their wedding dinner la make sure you get an invitation and you can give bigger ang pau and more money to her. Her husband must be a very rich guy can bring the gurl go taiwan for photo shoot.

Well you must be a rich guy also can pay so much money to make her breakup and buy so many thing for hr, if you are so rich than go and find other gurls la so easy since you have so much money to spend on gurls.

Yes you are not very smart because the girl is smarter than you, use you and your money and make you buy things for her also, if you really wan revenge ,post her pictures her la so that we all can see and where she work haha.

Bro dont be so sad , next time be smarter and dont ruin people marriage life la, not good, got karma you know, money can always earn back dont be dumbass again get used by girls
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QUOTE(yong88 @ Feb 28 2014, 11:07 PM)
Good evening lowyat member.. i am involved in a triangle love.. the story is like this

There were a pair couple, they already engaged for 2 years, signed all the paper/document, we all worked in same company,
ok..then i fall in love to that girl, and that girl also have good feel towards me, (the time i fall in love to that girl i already know the situation), just at last december, the girl suddenly confess her love to me, and then everything get started. (means underground love)
and she told me that she want to leave her current husband/boyfriend? and then i believe on what she said, and i fork out rm 4k for her and find a lawyer firm and lawyer for her, just to help her get back her freedom. and i spent quite alot of money to her, to buy her everything..

Now everything already at halfway (in progress of getting back her status) , she staying with me for already 1 month, and i am very good to her, take care of her everything, unfortunately, on this valentine day, she got surprised from her ex husband/boyfriend at my company..and eventually, she move out from my house and move back to her ex's house..
i am so upset , what the fxxk , she told me that she decide to leave her ex due to her ex is not good to her, and then i determine to help her in everything, and end up become like this, so in this past 2 weeks, i keep on ask her to move back, and she did said she regret to move back, and i told her, just leave him and come back to me, i will take care her for everything, and i got her answer is.."i am considering" ..seem like she is dragging me more than sincere want to solve the problem..and her ex already start to held the wedding party and hear that they will go to taiwan for wedding photo shoot in Mid of March..

...and i admit...i very love her, i feel like lost everything when she move out..become no motivation, even my colleagues and supervisor also notice that.

so my question is:

am i did something wrong that cause her to move back??

is it still worth to wait her?do i still have a chance? i set a deadline to myself, which is before they go for photo shoot. If by that time, she still do not have any response, what should i do??
i already pay out everything for her, but why end up i get this kind of pay back? cry.gif  cry.gif  cry.gif

Kindly please advise..thanks for reading my story and sorry for bad English.

*we are all just 25 years old

*edit : each time i ask her still love me, she will answered she still love and miss me, is she trying to entertain me or i still really have chance?

i feel like i am lost
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My bet, she had an argument with him and wanted to make him jealous. She made use of you to tick him off. And staying with you, did you piap her daily? If yes, you got your part of the exchange, no complains plz.

On why you get such payback, it's because u hook someone's gf. Now you kena back. Karma
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post Mar 3 2014, 09:53 PM

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haiz..want to clarify something...i din use spanar to hook her, before she make such decisions, i do ask her to think wise, i also said to her, once she step out, there will be no turn back..(perhaps i am wrong to say no turn back)...and she did said she already think till so called mature, that y i dare to bet my everything for her...who knows...haiz..

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QUOTE(yong88 @ Mar 3 2014, 09:53 PM)
haiz..want to clarify something...i din use spanar to hook her, before she make such decisions, i do ask her to think wise, i also said to her, once she step out, there will be no turn back..(perhaps i am wrong to say no turn back)...and she did said she already think till so called mature, that y i dare to bet my everything for her...who knows...haiz..
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The main question is did you think wise to make such decision ? If you think properly you won't in such situation like this Kena cheated by the girl . Leave her alone n get yourself a proper n loyal wife not like her
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QUOTE(yong88 @ Feb 28 2014, 10:07 PM)
Good evening lowyat member.. i am involved in a triangle love.. the story is like this

There were a pair couple, they already engaged for 2 years, signed all the paper/document, we all worked in same company,
ok..then i fall in love to that girl, and that girl also have good feel towards me, (the time i fall in love to that girl i already know the situation), just at last december, the girl suddenly confess her love to me, and then everything get started. (means underground love)
and she told me that she want to leave her current husband/boyfriend? and then i believe on what she said, and i fork out rm 4k for her and find a lawyer firm and lawyer for her, just to help her get back her freedom. and i spent quite alot of money to her, to buy her everything..

Now everything already at halfway (in progress of getting back her status) , she staying with me for already 1 month, and i am very good to her, take care of her everything, unfortunately, on this valentine day, she got surprised from her ex husband/boyfriend at my company..and eventually, she move out from my house and move back to her ex's house..

i am so upset , what the fxxk , she told me that she decide to leave her ex due to her ex is not good to her, and then i determine to help her in everything, and end up become like this, so in this past 2 weeks, i keep on ask her to move back, and she did said she regret to move back, and i told her, just leave him and come back to me, i will take care her for everything, and i got her answer is.."i am considering" ..seem like she is dragging me more than sincere want to solve the problem..and her ex already start to held the wedding party and hear that they will go to taiwan for wedding photo shoot in Mid of March..

...and i admit...i very love her, i feel like lost everything when she move out..become no motivation, even my colleagues and supervisor also notice that.

so my question is:

am i did something wrong that cause her to move back??

is it still worth to wait her?do i still have a chance? i set a deadline to myself, which is before they go for photo shoot. If by that time, she still do not have any response, what should i do??
i already pay out everything for her, but why end up i get this kind of pay back? cry.gif  cry.gif  cry.gif

Kindly please advise..thanks for reading my story and sorry for bad English.

*we are all just 25 years old

*edit : each time i ask her still love me, she will answered she still love and miss me, is she trying to entertain me or i still really have chance?

i feel like i am lost
*
sorry for your situation. but it sounds like the girl is an indecisive beeeetch and will hurt u in the end.

u know what they say, if she cheats on her husband for u, be sure she will cheat on u too. people who wouldn't commit generally don't do so in the end. my humble advice is just to move on with life and let her go.

but eh what do u mean that u spent 4k on lawyers, did she file for divorce already? how is that possible if the husband doesnt know about the affair?

This post has been edited by shenonymous: Mar 4 2014, 02:42 PM
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QUOTE(shenonymous @ Mar 4 2014, 02:34 PM)
sorry for your situation. but it sounds like the girl is an indecisive beeeetch and will hurt u in the end.

u know what they say, if she cheats on her husband for u, be sure she will cheat on u too. people who wouldn't commit generally don't do so in the end. my humble advice is just to move on with life and let her go.

but eh what do u mean that u spent 4k on lawyers, did she file for divorce already? how is that possible if the husband doesnt know about the affair?
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He used the 4000 for a lawyer fee so that the girl can leave the guy legally since they have signed a marriage registry cert, n now after only just a month she left him and went back to that guy, losing 4000 a month must be hard for him TS must be a rich guy he sure can get other girls
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- First of all, You should not interfere in her relationship which already engage. Try think if you were the other way round? if you were her fiance? Rude to say <<A**Ho**>>

- If you really believe her, then wait till she done a correct paper work and procedure.

- Should not support 100% financially

- Just stay as close friend is more then enough.

Solution:
- Get out of this mess/ sh*t
- Ask back your refund if she willing to give or just think you make a big donation/ learning fee lo.
- If she can do this to her ex? do you think she wont do that on you? Think twice b4 crushing people relationship



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post Mar 4 2014, 09:41 PM

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well..thanks for every comments, yours comments really did help me in recover..maybe i am really too stupid...
but i also wonder why am i did that at the 1st place, maybe of her sincerity? or maybe i really wish to have future with her? i have no idea, what i know is, i just messing up everything..
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QUOTE(yong88 @ Mar 4 2014, 09:41 PM)
well..thanks for every comments, yours comments really did help me in recover..maybe i am really too stupid...
but i also wonder why am i did that at the 1st place, maybe of her sincerity? or maybe i really wish to have future with her? i have no idea, what i know is, i just messing up everything..
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No you are not stupid yong88, you just decide to trust her because you beleive her, only that girl is the stupid one who dunno how to appreciate you, if you can , ask her to giv you back your 4000 ringgit and all the money you waste on her!!!!!! vmad.gif vmad.gif vmad.gif

Are you sure she is so sincere?? if she is so sincere then she wont go back to the ex husband/fiance, next time dont trust people so easily just because they have a pretty face and have a sad story to tell you. Dont feel sad when you see their wedding photo
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TS, have you ever thought that you are being used for her to get out of the marriage, with you giving her the money to hire the lawyer for her?
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post Mar 5 2014, 03:46 PM

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you are being used by her to get her husband to treat her better? do you get your money worth? piap2 i mean
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Clearly she has tricked you. Did you follow her to the lawyer firm to get a divorce? Or you just gave her 4k in cash and let her handle the divorce herself? She could just be using you for money and getting you to buy things for her. Her husband doesn't know about you meh? And you all working in the same company?
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QUOTE(munkeyflo @ Mar 5 2014, 03:56 PM)
Clearly she has tricked you. Did you follow her to the lawyer firm to get a divorce? Or you just gave her 4k in cash and let her handle the divorce herself? She could just be using you for money and getting you to buy things for her. Her husband doesn't know about you meh? And you all working in the same company?
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you seemed rather orientated when it comes to $$ lol
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QUOTE(PhilHellmuth @ Mar 5 2014, 04:17 PM)
you seemed rather orientated when it comes to $$ lol
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Cause $$ is a sensitive topic. laugh.gif
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QUOTE(Jackofree @ Mar 2 2014, 03:32 PM)
Imagine she just gave her bf a BJ, then she come to ur house and kiss u. It's like u just kissed the guy's d***. LOLOLOL
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Ada listerine la bro, ask her gargle dulu before kissing.

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My advise - You gotta take it hard and just leave her. Show your macho, ignore her and see if she will ever come back to you. If no, end of story, investment done.

You are being kite around because you still care her, which she thinks she still has the value or option to choose between you and the husband.

Once she screw up with the husband again, if she ever come back to you, then you better be smart not to fall into the same trick.

Bring her to the lawyer firm and husband together, fix it up, otherwise, dont ever step into that relationship again.

25 year-old, market is open big and wide la bro.
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post Mar 5 2014, 04:42 PM

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if indeed its true that she's playing you, then tell her to pay back ur 4k lah.

if she doesnt, tell the husband about your affair. these kind of people should learn not to use people for their personal gain.

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