Good evening lowyat member.. i am involved in a triangle love.. the story is like this

There were a pair couple, they already engaged for 2 years, signed all the paper/document, we all worked in same company,
ok..then i fall in love to that girl, and that girl also have good feel towards me, (the time i fall in love to that girl i already know the situation), just at last december, the girl suddenly confess her love to me, and then everything get started. (means underground love)
and she told me that she want to leave her current husband/boyfriend? and then i believe on what she said, and i fork out rm 4k for her and find a lawyer firm and lawyer for her, just to help her get back her freedom. and i spent quite alot of money to her, to buy her everything..

Now everything already at halfway (in progress of getting back her status) , she staying with me for already 1 month, and i am very good to her, take care of her everything, unfortunately, on this valentine day, she got surprised from her ex husband/boyfriend at my company..and eventually, she move out from my house and move back to her ex's house..
i am so upset , what the fxxk , she told me that she decide to leave her ex due to her ex is not good to her, and then i determine to help her in everything, and end up become like this, so in this past 2 weeks, i keep on ask her to move back, and she did said she regret to move back, and i told her, just leave him and come back to me, i will take care her for everything, and i got her answer is.."i am considering" ..seem like she is dragging me more than sincere want to solve the problem..and her ex already start to held the wedding party and hear that they will go to taiwan for wedding photo shoot in Mid of March..

...and i admit...i very love her, i feel like lost everything when she move out..become no motivation, even my colleagues and supervisor also notice that.

so my question is:

am i did something wrong that cause her to move back??

is it still worth to wait her?do i still have a chance? i set a deadline to myself, which is before they go for photo shoot. If by that time, she still do not have any response, what should i do??
i already pay out everything for her, but why end up i get this kind of pay back?

Kindly please advise..thanks for reading my story and sorry for bad English.

*we are all just 25 years old

*edit : each time i ask her still love me, she will answered she still love and miss me, is she trying to entertain me or i still really have chance?

i feel like i am lost

This post has been edited by yong88: Mar 1 2014, 07:33 AM

you're just a doormat

Get out of it.

Imagine this. She went back staying with her husband, f*** like no tomorrow, and then go back to u. When u fck her, can u imagine shes doing with the guy? My advise is play around with her and be friends with benefit. Shes just nt worth it

Piap her 1st

do not continue. If she can leave her fiance for you, you think she wont do the same to you? and what's wrong with you man.. never ever ever go after another man's fiance.

I hate to keep repeating this,if he/she can leave others for you,he/she will leave you for other too

she is playing on u

hmm i do feel bad about you. you're like a rebound, but much worst than that. sorry bro

next time when you piap her, give everything you got. make it worth all your total investments towards her.

Here is my answer and sound advice.

1. He did everything out of love to her and cherish her. You did the right thing.

2. Since she is already married and time for you to move on. If she really determine to gain back her freedom, she would do it herself and not asking you to fork out any money at all. This can be a signal of indecisive and possible using you as bait to make her hubby jealous.

3. This is a painful in terms of emotion and money loss. You are still young and I am sure you can take its as life lesson and move on. The problem is your heart do the thinking and not your brain in this case.

4. Personally I feel that she is indecisive and will still go back to the hubby

bottomline is, she is getting married.
your effort of spanar-ing is not working and she is making the full use of your unconditionally kindness.

Thanks for replied, even criticism, sarcasm comment i will accept,

am i a dumb ass in this situation??
i personally feel that i am definitely a dumb ass who gave all effort, believe fairy tales will happen,
eventually...make myself upset...

i really dunno how to handle this kind of situation as i have no much friends, and i am not those kind of LOVE player..

sorry dude when the heart decides you love her there is nothing you can do but you can help urself by not giving her anymore money and stay faraway from her and give u time to heal

Everyone makes mistake in relationship, so do not called yourself a dumb ass.

As what all the other replied mentioned, it is not worth involving yourself more in the relationship.

Somehow you will still feel insecure in the future although you manage to wrestle her back from her so called hubby.

PS: If you want to be evil, piap and cum inside her. Do at your own risk

Let me gip you a piece of advice.

While it's not ok to tap other people's gf\wife, sometimes life just throw you some free pusseh, question the cost and quality of the pusseh, eat it and then forget about it.

It's like some bosses treat you a free meal, you don't go weeks or months on end reminiscing the free meal that you get. The food goes into your mouth, digested, then came out as a shit few hours later.

Eat free pusseh as long as she's your type, but don't go on and on being emotionally attached to it unless the free pussehs bring values into your life.

The free pusseh you just tap ain't free, it just cost you 4k and an heartache of emotional cost that needs real money to solve(psychologist, and haagen dass ain't cheap yo), in addition of setting 2 man to fight over it.

The fact that the other guy didn't come and beat you up is just a fact that there's 2 pussehwhipped men fighting over a pusseh, lulz.

No pusseh are worth fighting for. Pussehs are fungible, there's like 3 billion or so pussehs in the world. I heard they're growing some pussehs in a farm at China.

drillz please... show us her face.

Yup... this is how stupid msian men are.

Fork out money for a woman to leave a guy whom he doesn't even know is bf or husband, then the woman goes back to the bf/husband, and this dummy wants her back, even though she has no feelings for him.

No wonder things that are a flop in other countries are lucrative here, like Pandora's bracelet

Get out of it.learn to m0ve 0n.she"s just playing b0th of u..she's taking advantage of b0th of u..i think she's enjoying it.bet she must be really pretty en0ugh to make two men to go crazy b0ut her ..

feel like you've been used, like a tool.