Oct 31 2006, 04:11 PM
QUOTE(miyoko @ Oct 31 2006, 04:55 PM)
well, i'm not actually wanna comment on your post. however, i just would like to discuss about some of the issues mentioned in your post.
1) girl likes to test on guys ---> yes, some girls likes to do this. however, i strongly disagree with doing so. i mean, who are we to test on our guy. yes, it's suppose to be "US", not "you & me". we shouldnt test our partner in order to know whether they are the one for us or not. we should work together with our partner to go through obstacles that comes in the way, not test our partner by simply saying breakup or divorce. it's really stressful and emotionally tired when the word breakup/divorce is always brought into the situation, just to test or to seek attention. why is only girls testing guys? let's look at it the other way around, what if guys do that to test their girls? how would girls feel? i myself certainly wouldnt want my guy to test on me like that. it would be so emotinally stressful for me. that is why i dont test my guy in such a way. however, being a girl myself, i was guilty of doing that before. however, realizing that it's really a stupid and silly move, i quit it. it's just not healthy to a relationship by testing it that way.
2) joshua is trying to be reasonable by turning off hp ---> that's not reasonable. that's a bit immature. the way her gf handles it also a bit immature. i mean, if joshua really needs to be alone, why not just tell his girl? turning off handphone just created another one problem, whereby his girl handled it immaturely and using the breakupword to threaten him in order to ask him not to do that again. in this kind of situation, i would always put myself in my partner's shoe and think how i would feel if my partner treats me that way. it certainly dont feel good to call into a voicemail everytime when my partner is not in the mood. what if anything happen to me and i needed to call him urgently to ask for his help and couldnt get him? therefore, joshua's girl certainly have a reason to be mad. however, she used "threatening" as a mean to get joshua not to do that again. which isnt a very proper way, because other than serving as a warning, it also created stress. now, everytime joshua wanted to be alone, he might still think of turning off his hp but he would be afraid that his girl might breakup with him. then he will feel stressful because he cant even get his own time to be alone. so, problem arise. however, if his girl tell him how she feel when joshua turn off his hp, then maybe next time joshua will not do it, because he knows how she feel. anyway, joshua, since you say that things are back to as sweet as ever with your girl, then i'm also happy for you. i wish you good luck, yeah.
3) jdreamer, how are you doing there? try not to keep in touch with her liao, at the moment. i'm just saying at the moment, not forever. keeping in touch with her now will only bring you torture. please quit torturing yourself.
that's all from me, now. i hope it's not too long. sorry if it's too long, i apologize in advance.
i sed Joshua was acting reasonable coz i tot he told his gf he will off his phone...(i assumed she knows and this is not only to stop her from contacting...it is oso to stop other people too.) coz sometimes...guys just need to be alone.1) girl likes to test on guys ---> yes, some girls likes to do this. however, i strongly disagree with doing so. i mean, who are we to test on our guy. yes, it's suppose to be "US", not "you & me". we shouldnt test our partner in order to know whether they are the one for us or not. we should work together with our partner to go through obstacles that comes in the way, not test our partner by simply saying breakup or divorce. it's really stressful and emotionally tired when the word breakup/divorce is always brought into the situation, just to test or to seek attention. why is only girls testing guys? let's look at it the other way around, what if guys do that to test their girls? how would girls feel? i myself certainly wouldnt want my guy to test on me like that. it would be so emotinally stressful for me. that is why i dont test my guy in such a way. however, being a girl myself, i was guilty of doing that before. however, realizing that it's really a stupid and silly move, i quit it. it's just not healthy to a relationship by testing it that way.
2) joshua is trying to be reasonable by turning off hp ---> that's not reasonable. that's a bit immature. the way her gf handles it also a bit immature. i mean, if joshua really needs to be alone, why not just tell his girl? turning off handphone just created another one problem, whereby his girl handled it immaturely and using the breakupword to threaten him in order to ask him not to do that again. in this kind of situation, i would always put myself in my partner's shoe and think how i would feel if my partner treats me that way. it certainly dont feel good to call into a voicemail everytime when my partner is not in the mood. what if anything happen to me and i needed to call him urgently to ask for his help and couldnt get him? therefore, joshua's girl certainly have a reason to be mad. however, she used "threatening" as a mean to get joshua not to do that again. which isnt a very proper way, because other than serving as a warning, it also created stress. now, everytime joshua wanted to be alone, he might still think of turning off his hp but he would be afraid that his girl might breakup with him. then he will feel stressful because he cant even get his own time to be alone. so, problem arise. however, if his girl tell him how she feel when joshua turn off his hp, then maybe next time joshua will not do it, because he knows how she feel. anyway, joshua, since you say that things are back to as sweet as ever with your girl, then i'm also happy for you. i wish you good luck, yeah.
3) jdreamer, how are you doing there? try not to keep in touch with her liao, at the moment. i'm just saying at the moment, not forever. keeping in touch with her now will only bring you torture. please quit torturing yourself.
that's all from me, now. i hope it's not too long. sorry if it's too long, i apologize in advance.
at this moment.....anything discussed will only be worse...nothing good will come out of it.
yeah.....if emergency than it wud be troubling....
but i guess Joshua ald took that into consideration. Only he knows his limits...and i think if he says he needs time alone...then leave him alone.
But thats what i think.
i cud be wrong.
Lately no news from Jdreamer.....wonder whats he doing...
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