well...maybe true....
i have a lot of reli close frens...and i mean it..reli close...frens that are girls....
have been frens with them since their single and im single...after that they have bfs, engaged married.....i have my gf....now still close....

not all guy is buaya.....
but most guys are?

cant help the fact that our gfs are open to this spannaring from other guys....
we just have to work hard.
and be strong....

relax man...
this things happens...

i tot u know adi?

of coz la bcoz other guy.

i didnt think u reli believed when she said exam stress.

i saw u posted that u cant believe thats the reason or something like that.

My xgf b4 worse liao...
She liked another guy oso...(i dont know if spanar or not..dont wanna know, it is the same oso)

so...to break up with me...she said i have another girl.
tell everybody.
then break-up with me.
everybody thinks bad of me.

den...a few months after that...i know the real reason...(another guy)
but nobody else knows...

i suffered oso....
worse even....

so...just relax okie?

sorry...i was in a meeting just now....
wahh..so sleepy today...

anyway...yeah....i know it hurts man....

i felt like the malay saying..."Sudah jatuh ditimpa tangga"
u fell down adi...then the ladder fell on u....

in my situation.....
i lost my girl...
thinking it was my fault....my attitude (so she says)
she spread lies about me....telling others i was 2-timing her....
and i was the last person to know this!!
even spread i the internet.....
my father accidentally found it...read it....
asked me about it....
then....after all that.....
i saw with my own eyes....hear from a very reliable proof.....about the real reason....y she left me...
another guy.
i was devastated...
i tot i was wrong. my attitude. my ways. i blamed myself for the failure of the relationship before.
what make things worse....
I am the one responsible to make her befriend that guy....


all these problems made me wanna kill myself.

it is not "sudah jatuh ditimpa tangga" anymore.

it is jatuh, and then down there got shit....nails....broken glasses....
then the ladder fall on u.....after that a 10 wheeler trailer lorry come and sapu me.


after that...i call her beyotch.
but now...to move on...i learned to forgive and forget...
nevermind...to me she is still a b****...
but...ill forget what has happened.....

was afraid to be in a relationship for almost 2 years after that...

now...have my quebix with me (well, not with me, she is in mesia)
pray for us u guys!

Haha...
sorry for letting my feelings out here....

im stressed out.

what do u care about that guy.....
he is actually doing a favour to u meh.
Just dont think about him and his frens liao...

he showed u how un-loyal ur xgf can be.
Be grateful la.

better breakup now than later....
when ur with kids...have to get divorce..worse....

u gained a lot from this.

just tell urself....
she doesnt deserve my love.

u deserve someone better.

Dont worry.

Be strong.

did u read this?




i felt wanna kill myself oso.
and so alone.
my frens all think im the bad one.
she is the angel.

dont layan ur emotions too much

haha....
very good miyoko....

me as a guy dont wanna be flamed(by girls mostly) if i say things like that over here. Coz i dont think any of the girls here are dat selfish...

it is good for a girl to admit to these things u sed....point of view from a girl.

jdreamer....i think Miyoko had made it quite clear here....
She found the way of telling u what many of us dont dare to tell u.
we are afraid ull get emotional.
tell u what?
that the xgf of urs is a PLAYA.

and about bein selfish....here is another example....
CLICK HERE
especially page 2.....

u see la it is in the real world....
i bet that guy's girl oso got another guy....haha...
mebbe....

but dont u be like this ok?
dont do to others what u dont want to be done to you.

i hope so too.....
and i hope those people 2 timing other people realize what they do is wrong and hurtful to other people.

life is fair.
maybe the best cure for them is to be hurt by being 2 timed oso.

haha

wah....
darklight here?

haha....
welcome

how come u are here?
yeah....this thread is just like what miyoko said....

a lil community helping each other....

one day i wanna meet these guys....

i dont know about harsh....
but u are being honest. thats good.

we guys over here can never say things like that here.....
dats like picking a fight with a woman.....i bet if guy say like u say....will be flame one.

surely the guy will be called sexist eventhough it is true.
especially when it is true. lol

do i sound like a sexist? haha

huhu ....
so....
we have all learned something here....
and i think i learned oso in how to deal with what ur going thru.
now i know what i shud have done after my last breakup.
So...jdreamer...
u dont have to learn the hard way dealing with this.....
not like i do....

take it from me who has gone thru hell....
dont blame the other guy.
u can say its her fault.....up to u,
but the best way to heal fast is...forgive and forget....
move on.

let those Playars be with their life....
be with other Playars and Spanar (and a little SCREWing in between)

This post has been edited by quiksilver: Oct 26 2006, 11:28 AM

if this is any consolation for me...
i dont know....

but the guy my xgf left me for.....
didnt accept her as gf.......
she was turned down after had fun.

haha....yeah...
but if all girls reali think like miyoko.,,,
and they remind themselves about it all the time, (most of the time is ok too)
no problem...less trouble for us guys....

This post has been edited by quiksilver: Oct 26 2006, 03:35 PM

this goes to both genders.
and when girls spana us.....we shud remember not to do anything stupid oso.

we can give many reasons.....
the girl is nekkid or...
the girl kissed me 1st or...
the girl hugged me 1st or...
the girl this, the girl that...
but in the end...it is our choice, our responsibility.
our fault if we make the wrong decision.

haha...how true....
sometimes this thread is the oni reason i surf lyn.(besides football of coz...haha)

Anyway, hows everybody doing?

havent heard from Suiteng for quite some time liao....

my bday card just arrived this morning.....OMG...it costed her rm45 to send a few cards to me....via Poslaju....

So sweet....cant wait to be home.

lately many sad stories in this thread....
i just hope everybody is ok dealing with their problems.

chatted with jdreamer a lil while ago...

i remembered something.

After breakup....after all the sh*t i went thru...
after i began to accept the fact and move on...
i realised something.

I am thankful for every single thing happened between my xgf and me.
i am thankful for the love we shared.
i am thankful oso for the pain we costed each other.
i realised, without being hurt so badly,
i would never ever appreciate and understand the true meaning of happiness and true love.

i am a better person.

thanx.

This post has been edited by quiksilver: Oct 26 2006, 09:25 PM

oic...so u are fine.....hows the haze in msia?

is it better adi?

thats good to know...hopefully it will be like that for the rest of the time....

im hoping to go back to mesia next week....just for 3,4 days...some work to do....

something to do with work...
have to do my research.

yeah....girls like to test us guys....
there was once this lady who always threaten her husband with divorce everytime they have a fight.....testing.
Reverse psychology and testing is ok ...if done appropriately, but doing it to much (doing anything too much) is not good.
Too much of a good thing can be a bad thing oso.

back to the story of the lady threatening her husband with divorce.....
end-up....they divorced..but it was the husband who wanted to.
U know y? Because the husband cant live with a thought clinging to his head....that if he does sometihng wrong....he will be ask for divorce. He is mentally tired, mentally scared, unable to move on to farther lengths in his life with that disturbing thing in his mind.

For the lady...she never thought of divorcing with her husband actually....she cant live without him actually....

So...for the gurls out there....
Be careful when ur testing guys....
Dont be too selfish and think about urselves..is he gonna be there for YOU if this happens or...will he still loves YOU if that happens or how much does he loves YOU...etc

relationships arent about YOU only...it is about YOU and HIM. it is mutual. it is a 'US' and 'WE' not just YOU or just HIM.

Guys have limits oso. We are only human. Guys have feelings too. Gurls and guys are of coz from the same species, but if we look at our way of expressing ourselves, our attitudes, we are like from 2 different species. Yeah...people say, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

We are different. We dont have to understand why we are different, we only have to understand the fact that we are different and tolerate our differences.
For example....I dont understand why gurls love to shop...( i shop once or twice a year) but i understand that they love to shop...and i dont argue with them. i let them be. it is a gurl thing.
just like why men do things they do.Gurls dont have to understand why we do it. u only have to understand we do it.its a guy thing.

and like what happened here....
Joshua is trying to be a reasonable man...he knows he is in bad mood...and dont wanna be disturbed. This is a guy thing. Guys under stress or bad mood keeps quiet....because he needs time and space. they dont wanna be disturbed. They keep quiet and think (unconciously they are thinking). Only if he is truly needing someone to talk to...he will turn to someone(his gf maybe)

Gurls...on the other hand....when having problems and stress....they talk. they need to get it out. tell someone. These are the differences that couples should know. so they can tolerate and know what to do to each other.

Sorry for the long post.

I hope some gurls read this and can comment on it oso.

edited: Of coz this is for majority between guys and gurls. Of coz they are some minorities of gurls dont like to shop etc...u know la what i mean.

This post has been edited by quiksilver: Oct 29 2006, 05:47 PM

haha....i waited for someone( hopefully girl) to comment on my long post....
reli wanted to know what they think....
but nobody commented...

aiyohh....