hey, dont think like that... she can be your whole world but you cant expect her to put you in the first place oh... with no expectation, there will be surprise. with expectation, there will be disappointment.

anyway, seems like you are a bit down with your relationship. i think it's better if you could talk with her if you think it is disturbing you a lot. anyway, all the very best and meery christmas oh.

by the way, everyone, very sorry for missing in action for so long. miyoko reporting in.

anyway, merry christmas and happy new year to everyone!!! have a great holidays.

merry christmas everyone.

To the one who said this is LDR failure thread, this is LDR thread, not LDR failure thread. mind what you typed and read the title of the thread correctly to avoid misleading to other people.

everyone is busy ah? no reply one... so quiet... merry christmas to everyone, hohoho...

how come mandy no longer replying here? busy pakto with her bf liao ah?

try not to always bring up the "breakup" word in everyday conversation or quarrel.

just call. dont worry, everything will be alright.

me, on christmas eve, fall sick liao. so, wasnt enjoying much on christmas eve. hahaha...

yeah, a new year, a new beginning. let go of the past. all the best to you!

hello everyone... sorry for not reporting in for such a long time. seems like you guys are discussing about trust issue. I would like to comment on the trust issue. actually, not only in LDR that trust is really important. in SDR too... in fact, trust is very very important in any kind of relationship. be it, boss and subordinates, parents and children and lovey dovey relationship. try not checking on bf/gf and it really does hurt their feeling if they got to know it. try not violate the trust that you guys build on each others. if you really wanna know about her/his whereabouts, just call and ask. and believe what she's/he's telling you. i know that there are cases of liars out there. however, for me, trust is very important. it would be impossible for me to continue with the relationship if my partner dont trust me. remember, it takes forever to build trust but it takes only one second to destroy it. all the best to everyone!

there's many girls who think like me out there. however, points to ponder is ---> everyone is unique. it's impossible to actually find another replica of me or you

what suiteng said is true. it seems to me that you do most of the things is just cause of her. this shouldnt be the way. you should think of your own future first, then only both of yours future. it's not your responsibility to think for her future. it's hers. also, you do thinks to improve yourself, for your ownself, not for her. same goes with you studying degree, it's for your ownself, not for her.

anyway, whether to give up or not, it's not up to me to decide. you gotta think about it and evaluate it by yourself. if you think you couldnt think about it, leave it for a while, then take out a piece of paper and write out the reasons why you wanna give up and also the reasons why you dont wanna give up. hope this will help you more in guiding you. all the best!

erm... i dont really know what's the situation and what's both of you and your gf's temper is like. however, if you ask for my advice, i would say that the cause of your argument is really very petty matters. no need to argue mah... you suggest to her to format the pc, it's up to her to decide whether to format or not. you dont have to force her if she doesnt wanna format it. you gotta let go and dont take the responsibility into your hand. she gotta learn how to make decision mah... you give her your expertise advice and let her decide lorr...

then on the other hand, about her scolding rude words to you, did you do the same thing to her before? if you never scolded her with rude word, maybe you ought to talk nicely with her to discuss about this matter. well, about you not thinking her mom will scold her, well, it's again a petty matter. so, tell her that next time if you decided that you wanna fetch her, ask her opinion regarding it. simple ---> dont make decision on behalf of her. all the best, yeah.

so, if you have decided that you dont wanna breakup, you can still write the reasons in a piece of paper. nevermind if you dont wanna break up, just write down the reasons you think you wanna give up. then look into it and see what's the problem in your relationship, then work out solution together with her.

maintain a good LDR? there's many factors. trust, commitment, respect (both respect our partner and respect ourself), love, care and etc... it's up to the couple to decide which is most important.

sounds like small kid playing only. just tell the bf not to compare and it's not his say to ask the gf to go keep fit or whatsoever.

went sabah to study? UMS ah?

hello there, miyoko reporting in. i'm very busy with work nowadays.
wish everyone all the best of luck and Happy Chinese New Year!

joshua, sad to say, it seems to me that both of you and your girl isnt matured enough for this relationship. it's silly for your girl to purposely wanna cause a quarrel between you and her just because you said that you dont wanna quarrel.

and it sounds like you are not confident of your relationship ---> you are kind of expecting quarreling everytime. try not to always play around with quarreling and break-up. it's just gonna mess up your relationship. all the best yeah.

hey, sorry for the late reply. many things happened in my life now. my life is messy now but i'm sure that it will be a better one ahead.

yeah, i totally understand your situation. has both you and your gf comes to an agreement before making the decision? have you guys talk things out? you know, this decision to put an end to a relationship due to mutual understanding cannot be only one-sided. both have to be ready. if not, either one party who isnt will suffer a lot.

if you guys really have made the decision, i wish you guys all the best. i know you'll suffer and be sad, but be strong. the saying is that, at least both of you guys are still together in terms of friends. stay happy, ok.

01. lots of trust, faith, understanding, and think from your partner's situation or point of view.
02. what my dear did was send sms to me and let me cool down and settle my problems and then, he called me to check on me. when situation is too bad and i cant settle it alone, he will guide me through.
03. fully support him. also, dont ask question like you are interogating their privacy. my principle is easy, i trust him and have faith with him. so if he wanna tell me, he will tell me eventually. if i force him, means i dont trust him. i respect his privacy.

you will definitely feel like this. glad that you guys could be friends again. try to look things with an open heart. all the best, yeah.

actually, it's good that both of you could be friends again. however, i personally think that it's still too early for you guys to start discussing about her relationship with her new bf, especially her problem which she is currently facing with her new bf. you still havent fully recover from the previous break up and she's rubbing a little salt on your wound each time she talked about her new relationship, no matter good or bad.

i personally think, it's better to refrain from discussing about her relationship. maybe you can talk to her politely saying that you are not ready to discuss about her relationship with her, but you guys could talk about any other things. also, maybe you should remind her and also yourself, not to compare her current new bf with you/yourself. get what i mean? there shouldnt be comparison here, cos everyone is different.

i hope my suggestions are of some help to you. all the best.

i personally think it's not the time yet for jdreamer and her ex-gf to start discussing or talking or even listening to her talking about her relationship with her new bf.

yup. for #1 and #2, only stable relationship will survive. but many things comes into it too. maturity is one of it. however, #1 and #2 will also lead to a stable relationship. hope you get what i mean.

picking up pieces now but is getting better. dont worry, nothing to do with my relationship.

sleepless night is no good. take good care of yourself.

Not really, mandy. it depends on the person. hey, maybe you shouldnt jump into conclusion so fast. give time to each others to make decision, ok? talk things through, dont jump into conclusion of breaking up.

about his mother hinting him to get married, you dont have to answer anything, cos he's just informing you. unless, if he proposed to you, that's the time you gotta think about marriage. i always believe, marry not cos of age, but cos of willingless to commit and love. because, after marriage, more commitments and responsibilities will come. and only a person with love is able to handle the commitments and responsibilities willingly thus, enjoying when he/she is doing it. i hope you guys get what i meant.

anyway, mandy, dont be so sad over it. things hasnt been decided. dont jump into conclusion. cool down, yeah. wait for his answer. he called you dear dear cos he wants to call you dear dear and you are indeed his dear dear. he told you he miss you cos he really does miss you, nothing more than that. dont think so much as to what hidden message he's trying to tell you. i believe, he's telling you what he wanna tell you. dont worry, yeah. it sounds to me that things are still good in your relationship. well, every relationship has it's down time. take it as a challenge and face it head up, yeah. all the best.

joshua, it's cos she's your ex-gf and you are suppose to be her partner at Genting, as the other 2 is a couple, that your gf is unhappy and might be jealous over it. it's not the matter about her not trusting you. it's the matter about her feeling. you see, anyone would feel not nice when their love is going out to a faraway place (vacation or trip) with the ex(s) without them being there personally. she's not feeling good about it and why is there a need for your to accompany your ex-gf if she's already your ex-gf and is just a friend to you? i mean, we can definitely say "no" to a friend's invite if we couldnt make it or the situation doesnt allow us to do it, right?

she's angry not cos she dont trust you, but because you are being insensitive of her feelings. after all, you are asking for her opinions/permission to go Genting with her, right? so, she's said hers and she's kind of not approving it. it's her right to say yes or no, cos you asked her in the first hand.

you might say that there's another couple there and you guys wouldnt be doing anything as to sleeping on the same bed. but the fact is, even when your gf is there, you let your pet-sis slept on the same bed with you, and this has really happened. so, you cant blame her for feeling bad and insecure when you said you wanna go Genting with your ex-gf this time.

just my 2 cents worth. hope you understand what i'm trying to say and it's of some help.

look things from another side. the purpose he tells you might because he's confessing his problem to you in order for both of you to work it out together. maybe you saying that you wanna break up have scare him off. hehehe...

why i think that things between you and him is still good? well, simple, it's because he's willing to call you dear dear, and he told you about his mom asking him to get married. if he things you guys are not gonna make it, he would have shoved her mom's request away by saying that he's got no gf now. he wouldnt even be telling it to you.

well, i think i will not be able to make it for the gathering this time. sorry, guys. enjoy yeah.

the point to ponder is that, girls are unpredictable and mysterious. things that she said might not really represents what she's feeling, yeah.

hey, yes, the way she's handling it is wrong, but quit blaming each others. you see, if you have been considerate enough to think that she might feel bad and insecure about it, cos she's your ex-god sis, then, you wouldnt be thinking of going also, right? you see, the blaming never ends. then you blame her for slamming the phone and being angry over nothing and not giving you the chance and bla bla bla, so the blaming goes on.

you see, take a step back, admit your mistake, and talk to her nicely, discuss it through. you never know what you might get. for all you know, she might also apologize to you for slamming the phone and not caring about your feeling too.

all the best, yeah

two-timing is definitely wrong. but blaming each others will not do you any good. just let it go. what is over is over. we cant turn back time. look positively. at least you got to know it before it's too late.

jdreamer,
my advice is not to start any relationship if you are not ready. as for your ex-gf, i dont quite understand what you mean by she's back. you mean, she's back to your hometown? or back to you? if she wanna come back to you, then i would advice you to think thoroughly. things might not be the same anymore. and if she's back to your hometown, then just let it be. it's not like she cant go back to your hometown, right? cool, dont think too much.

dont bother about her. tell her that an adult should be responsible of the things that they decide of do and shouldnt be regretting over it.