You know there's always people saying that don't be too desperate, and i follow this rules and as oppose you say i should call her 100x.
I feel like calling her but u know later she feel like I'm desperate, and like annoyed.
If given the opportunity I would call her till she picks up.

It depends how you approach it. If call 100 times and given the right explanation the girl know you are concern and value the relationship.

If you call to complaint or scold her she sure will annoyed.

If your relationship can't withstand a little obstacles, your gf probably don't love you as much as you think, regardless of how long the duration of relationship is.

It is basic consensus that no one likes to be ignored, particularly but the one they like/love, and particularly if it is their significant other.


If someone ignores you, it's no different from someone giving you the finger, because ignoring people is a display of disrespect, kinda like that lady driver who wants to merge into your lane without looking and almost clips your bumper, and then when you honk at her or move to the side to glare at her, she pretends like nothing happened.

That is disrespect. Why would anyone put up with that?

Words of advice: Gf can ignore bf, but bf cant ignore gf, no matter who's wrong, SHE's ALWAYS right.

Even if arguments occured, you have to still msg her morning, ask her how's her lunch, tell her you're home from work, good night etc. (EVEN THOUGH SHE IGNORE YOU). Just continue to do so. Unless you want a breakup

Yea you are right. If you do it she forgive you pretty quick if you ignore the more emo and furious she will be.

TS,from my view is..ur gf dun wan to reply ur message and answer ur call maybe is bcoz she still under shilly-shally, she hv lose heart in the relation but not willing to broke up with u...
she dun wan face it..

Yep, the only way to overcome this is after she has forgive you (no matter who's wrong), try to tell her in a nice way, and hopefully she will understand.

But chances are if something happen it goes back to the same sh*t again. That's girls No use talking senses to them, but at least let them know how you feel and think when she ignores you.

Not being desparate if you trying to tackle girls la..
But shes ur gf..u need to be 'desparate'
Lol

did you do something to make your gf angry??

I am now on silent mode with my bf, he did something to piss me off. Best way to mend this is show her you still care, just as prometric mentioned.

I guess silent treatment shows how mature you are, instead of communicating like an adult on what your bf did that bother you, you choose to act immaturely so that your bf can play guessing game with you.

That shows how much you really cared about your bf.

you don't know my bf.

If I were to tell him, it will stress him more, and it doesn't do any good for our relationship. Silent treatment is the best. Time for me to cool off as well.

This post has been edited by freshstart: Oct 7 2013, 12:20 PM

Fren ah, you are her boyfriend not some pursuer la.

What is wrong with calling her until she pick up?

I a bit exaggerating, why don't you space out, call her 10am, no pick up, then 12pm, then 3pm, then 6pm, then 9pm. Don';t just sms and wait lah.

No you think ppl is mind reader. Silent treatment are for childish ppl. Mature will bring it up and talk about it.

Regardless your partner like it or not make it firm sit down and talk it out get it done.

Okay, she at last replied to my facebook messages but I think she gave up hope already.
I told her that if i didn't call you can call me. and she replied "You didn't contact me for a week so I assume you wont contact me la".
But her main phone still switch off, couldn't get her.
I guess this is really over d, I just want the chance to talk to her one last time and just gently part ways, and not just ignoring each other and move on. At least we've dated and think it of something like the last respect before I stop all communication with her and leave her alone.
I've tried to communicate but her reply just couldn't make it.


What do you guys think? Until then I can't really think properly and it affects my studying life.
Please give me insight on how do I bring this matter up.
Thanks in advance.

This post has been edited by Bangala: Oct 7 2013, 08:57 PM

be fierce to her ?

find someone to pretend to be your new gf to make her jealous ?

or just break up with her first before she dump u ..

Don't hope too much, just accept that you and her are no more. Even if you want to set a closure properly, but she just don't want to see your face anymore, do you intend to drag this problem until you failed your studies?

Just give her one long, final goodbye messages, fb or sms, tell her everything that you want to tell, ask her to forgive and forget, and then the final bye bye, respectfully.

And then go study.

My last advice to you is

Do you treasure her? Do you want her.

If yes,
Please ask her out to talk. Tell her what have happen and tell her you value this relationship . Provide a list of solutions let her choose if she dont get her to suggest.

Anybody can give up. It requires intelligence and loyalty to keep go on. If after talk still fails you have tried.

If No,
Move on

Bangla,life is short and so was your relationship, time to move on and fins a better one who wont be such an immature little girl always being sensitive about the little issues what happen when you get married and on your marriage night you argue over little things, that wudnt be so nice, stop thinking about her and focus on your studies score well and show others what a capable person you are then the other girls will come and you will forget about her and find much better and prettier ones, i guarantee you she will regret and will beg you to take her back

Precisely! Men have no idea how much they're stressing women out when they don't pujuk the woman back. Like I said, ignoring someone is a sign of disrespect, don't men know that they have to earn that respect from their women?

No wonder men live longer than women, because women are constantly being stressed out by men!

You go girl! Don't mind what the other guys here are telling you. If your bf doesn't pujuk you back, then he's not worth your time and effort anyway. Giving him the silent treatment is also great for him to reflect on the mistakes he's made, after all, men are clueless about what women want.