I don’t know if this is a problem but it’s really getting into me now. To cut the whole story short, it’s just basically about me and this girl – a very special girl in my life, but we are only friends, and you could say that we are sometimes more than friends, yet at the same time, just friends.
I’ve known her for years, we’ve grown so close, we’ve grown so far apart from each other and we got close again. This is a big loop some kinda relationship going on in a circle.
Things just got so heated up when she was posted here in Melbourne for work and she is just around for a few months. (I moved here 2yrs ago and we were just like strangers after I got here) but now since she came here and I am so available, we hang out really frequent and we started sleeping with each other again. I admit I am one playboy, but she is a bigger player than I am! This is what is bothering me, I thought I am the cool one but it seems like she doesn’t even care about this.
As a guy with a big ego, I am afraid that I might get hurt for real this time because I think I am actually falling for her now after all the years.

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hi, dupe

Fubu good wert, all the benefits without the headache.

Don't listen to your heart.

yah, i just prefer not to use my usual account to stay anon. prob?
anyway, let's just focus on the real issue here, thanks

+1

to play the game, you gotta follow the rules..
if you want to get a proper and committed gf, then ditch her to prove it. else you are just making excuse for yourself.

the thing is I thought that I know the rules all these while and I'm fine with it. But thinking of her as a bigger player and a heartbreaker, and me starting to have some feelings for me just drive me nuts.

she confessed to me few yrs ago but I told her we are just friends and she will always be special to me. That is because I do not like to be in a relationship. So, to me, I thought that she likes me all these while, but I just can't feel that from her anymore now eventho we are so close now to each other.
Life is funny, I want her to like me or love me now but she doesn't.
This is one of the bigger parts where I can't accept it, maybe due to my ego as well.

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This post has been edited by vegas007: Nov 3 2013, 11:51 AM

even if there is a replay button, would you give your very best on the first go or rely on the replays?
in life, there is only one chance. once screwed, you're screwed.

mayb u can just let her know how u feel...

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This post has been edited by vegas007: Nov 3 2013, 11:50 AM

I dun know how to answer this but better end tis.

rule no.1: no personal emotion

as long as u can continue f*** and enjoying it ... go maximum ahead

no fubu relation ever last more then 2 years because the love feeling comes naturally even u trying to deny it

as a guy like me, it's hard to say it out... and we hardly talk about our feelings

yeah sucks man, now even when she caught me looking deeply into her eyes but I don't see any reactions from her. Sads

man.. we had this kind of rel. way back before I moved here and we slept together right before I flew and now we are doing it again. Has been going on for about 3-4 yrs on/off. Love? I thought I do not know what love is, what is this love? I just want to know if I am the only guy for her now.
But we don't talk about this

1st rule of Fubu....not a single emotion is given in. Treat watever sweet words she say as just "I wanna fck". Even if she requests "can u keep ur hair long for me?" <==="I wanna fck". Simple, condensed, plain. If you can't do that, don't dip your finger into the chocolate.

End it right away.

You are breaking the cardinal FWB rule. Your problem.

If it's hurting you, why still do it?

Funny people these days.

You only have few options:

1. Speak to her; potential risk of ruining even your friendship
2. Keep to yourself and just stop doing it
3. Keep to yourself and continue doing it; hence the continuous hurting

You make your choice. This is not a world problem.

Sex is one of the weakness for a some guy........Coz guy only must have feeling for the girl only can have sex with the gal....

remember to do STD screening regularly ya, don't bring your own past disease to your future permanent partner, IF you can get any.

do u wear "safety equipment"? if both parties consider just sex and leave then should be no much troublem bah

go n watch the movie "No Strings Attached"

then u will learn the consequences...

traditionally is love then sex

but end of the day sex will turn to love anyway

so to those gal who think guys only want sex is a big wrong!!

Those that think that way only have sex to offer.

its happening but they did not notice it.
One willing to hurt while another willing to sacrifice..
but in FUBU relationship, its never about being committed anyway.

haha i think its kinda romantic!! aweee...

Actually, this is true of most guys. Very few men can have sex without feeling the desire to be attached to that woman. Women, on the other hand, is very good at separating sex from love. It's probably a biological thing.

no, we shall continue this

worst he got toy ard with his feeling then suicidal

ugh u r PUSS-EGO

u let her fck u, screwed u, played u, timed u and never bother about you... the issue of YOU and HER. Feelings.

so u wanna talk it here?

the thing abt fubu is tat..its as good as sex gets.. tats it.

once you mix with your feeling, you know what you are into.

solutions.

find another girl to make her jealous or if she isnt, then she is not yours.

its either you walk out the merry go round or dwell within till you make a home of her.

If you fall for the person, then you clearly don't understand the parameters of FUBU in the first place.

yeah im so screwed this time. I thought that I am the cool one.
and how can a guy say NO to the girl he likes? LOL
I dunno what's she thinking but we're just good this way. It's just me.
Oh man, we all know the rules of the game but sometimes shitz jz happened.

why is this romantic? me falling for her? T.T

Speeedless

Tell us why are you thinking that you are actually falling for her..

How about "maybe its not feelings like what you think.. its just that u can't get over the thought that she is a bigger player."

the whole rship LOL!
its funny how certain things turn up...wish u best!

you gotta find a greater fubu to ditch the current fubu.

usually mens with lots of fubus always win vs love to fubu.

need to be stone cold sex oriented only multiple fubus.

no love.

bro, just walk out from her life.....
face it or leave it.... your choice .....
All the best dude....

cos i started to really care about her, spilled out that i'm happy when i see her, told her she's the best and all but she didn't say anything back. just no comment. and i kept thinking about her, which is not usual for me.

LOL sounds like some typical chinese / taiwanese drama huh

man... ure da man! r u talking based on ur own experiences? but i don't do so many fubu at the same time, one gal at a time and usually will be once/ twice then no more contact. but this girl.. i don't know what to say, she's just special. nvr had enough of her

a pro player always wears a helmet

This post has been edited by magnusEd001: Sep 13 2013, 06:28 PM

haha..ts since u re at the edge now, turn it into real relationship or leave her, ure already getting urself burned.

TS got a big tool? i'm wondering..

never attach with ur fubu
serious...
u will be in deep shi!t in long run

Personal fable might tell us no real feelings will be involved and it will all be ok. However, when there is so much intimacy, love is seeded and will bloom. stop it when u start to doubt your ability to control

repeated

This post has been edited by Eric_Chia: Sep 14 2013, 03:38 PM

Though of all, I think TS is quite a good guy. He just dont really f*** around without fall to the girl....

Let the girl has all her fun first, one day she gonna settle down too....

so TS ... r u saying ur perfectly cool with such a girl becoming ur steady gf / future fiancee / future wife / mother to ur kids?

do u know her history how long she has been FU-BU-ing around like this and how many guys she FU-BU-ed already?

Knowing all that are you still ok to be committed in her?
Not knowing all that, are you ok to just let the past slip pass and lead a ever happy relationship with this girl?
If you are not ok in NOT knowing and assuming you ask her, and if the answers she provide to u is a relatively small number, will u choose to believe her or will u have doubt in her answer? will u let this doubts shatter ur trust u have on this girl and further damage the relationship?

Can you look into her eyes 5 yrs from now and pretend ntg of that ever happen?

TS,

How's things going after you told her you really care for her?

I think if everything happens for some reason, she said she liked you last time, and you turned her down, yet you 2 still FUBU, now your turn to fall for her. Perhaps you should tell her also how you are feeling just like how she did so.

If something meant to happen between you two, it will happen. You just do your part.

After all, you make regrets, it's better sorry than regret.

Fubu relationships should start and end in bedrooms, if both of you still mingle around outside of it, you're only asking for further trouble.

Deswai you don't date your fubu, and don't invest in their lifes. You don't need to work on what's she's doing with her life. You just don't care.

Whenever you need to have your nuts drained, just text her a time and place for sex, have sex, and get out. Do not attempt to establish any contacts further than that because it's unnecessary.

hmmm i tot feelings cant be controlled?
Dont think we can control who we end up loving rite?

Hmm.....so gals who FUBU should end up with no one but guys who FUBU should only marry someone who is considered "clean"?

LOL!! for all u know....those who thought that they had the best gal in the world is letting u wear the green cap :/
Guys are not really as sensitive as gals in these kind of things....gals r really good in going behind your backs if they want to ok!


This post has been edited by mIssfROGY: Sep 17 2013, 05:53 PM

couldnt agree more

yup 5 fubus at a time, get the job done with no regret what so ever.

hahas

y u care? his fubu care?

TS is the one with prob, his fubu is okay stone cold as she lovely fak him.

This post has been edited by Mr_47: Sep 18 2013, 02:17 PM

You guys are wayyyyyy luckier than what I have experienced. I was fortunate to have two but four-five at the same time? Dayum

Hello Magnus,

Your condition is the same thing happened to one of my friend's. In result they both end up together as a couple. =) They both are happy and they accepted in what they did in the past and present.

There is no right or wrong here, when you fall for your FUBU partner... only God knows what will happen not you not her not your friends not anyone.

It's all up to you to be precise. Can you accept everything what's going on if lets say she say she likes you and want to have the real commitment with you. Do you consider yourself ready for it? Or you are just going to accept and stepping brek when things don't happen as what you expected. People can fall for each other when you have a FUBU partner for long term. Feelings does exist for each other. But if you both have a mutual agreement which is agree to sex only no feelings. Or u agree to sex but if there's feeling arise you both will decide on what to do. If it's better you both have to sit down and talk in what you REALLY want or need from both sides.

Good luck...

+1

This post has been edited by fir3man: Sep 25 2013, 03:30 PM