Just broken up with my 7 yrs gf. Live in my house for 5-6 yrs, seldom hlp with house work (I think only help less than 20 times in 7 yrs), we ware planning to get marry this yr, thus I've spent around 130K to upgrade our hse and she doesn't spend anything. Moreover after arrive home always ask me to do misc task (sitting there ask me go down stairs take water, etc...), and I always pick up her mess. She just went HK, said want to look for our wedding ring as its cheaper there, I'm not rich so I told her you can get anything 2000 and below, whereas for mine, just around 100+ enough (as I don't really care about jewelry), but she didn't manage to find it. Just came home frm HK yesterday, and today as usual she left her things everywhere after using it, I just said 'haiyo why you so 'mou sau mei' (always didn't put back things after you use it), she replied 'why you always complain me, best we seperate',then she packed her stuff and went home today.....funny though I don't feel that sad, infact thinking if I ended up marrying her it may not be good for me also (a person who live in my hse for free and never contribute anything, still complaining regularly, and never supported anything I do), well it's ok if she goes........but nd to find new g/f again also sien, well better focus on my job, nowadays girls all 'ada wang, ada amoi', you wanna get girls like in the movie, that'll be with you during sunny and rainy day and support whatever you do? forget it i guess....

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 30 2011, 10:28 PM

no need gf so lazy...

good job..right move

uh okey

agreed with TS. they will only support u if u go as their wish. others than that no way

This is why i always say ... best way to know if u compatible ... live together. Better to live together than to divorce later. Somermore i think ur gf sot sot one ... go HK buy ring ... well cheaper ... say 10-20% .. but if u plan to buy diamond then its ok .. if u say 2k worth of ring .... then u spent 1k on flight 1k on acco ... so no point liao. cuz u wont get back the investment

you are lucky u know b4 marry this kind person. this kind person is waste. better you focus to yr work may find good girl in the future.

good for u for doing the rite thing..lucky u not married yet.. if married, dunno wat to say lor..pokai

maybe she is tired and bad mood after back from HongKong?
7 years, your both qing chun wor... try discuss nicely lor

if u can't stand her even before marriage, what about after married? you don't have to worry about what other's say or feel about this. do what makes you happy, even if it means leaving her. no point marrying someone you don't see yourself being happy with. and why is she so fussy? like those chinese ah ma and ah lians.

already spent a bit loh, buy car I sponsor 4K, her birtday presents (laptop - 2K, psp - can't remember how much I bought 2 yrs ago, jewelry-few K, paying for her misc debt she owe to friend, etc....), the most expensive gift she bought for me for my b'day is a box of ferrero roche chocolate (guess its my fault,as i'm not a materialistic person, every time she ask I just say no need lah, save money...), too much pampering end up up like that.. hai...

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Added on March 30, 2011, 10:52 pmmmm... dunno woh, she seems happy, moreover she's the 1 that have the opportunity to travel everywhere (but mostly on her own expense), I never have the opportunity to travel at all due to commitment not to her only but also to my own family....

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 30 2011, 10:52 PM

zapris - who lazy ?? the girl lazy eh ..... ts is doing the rite thing ..hehehe

craw - Yup

wsrulez - yeah loh ..... this is bored ... damn

cala99 n jujubi - thats rite

Mind if i ask .. how young r u?

TS, you're better off without her.
Money can earn back, don't feel so sad about the money spent on her.

This post has been edited by munkeyflo: Mar 30 2011, 10:55 PM

ya...i guess i know what you mean, in actual fact I didn't say anything at all, she's the one who say wanna break up, i just keep quite but said well if you wanna go home, just drive carefully.mmm.....too much pampering i guess....right now I just wanna stay single for awhile and focus on my job 1st....

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Added on March 30, 2011, 10:57 pmnot young lo my friend, I'm 30 already...

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 30 2011, 10:57 PM

Tired and bad mood doesn't give her the right to say break up, pack up her things and leave the next day.
If you are in a serious relationship and planning to get married, you would know that doing this is a very immature move. If there was any conflicts or dissatisfaction, the couple should discuss about it and not straight away say break up and leave. TS's gf doesn't seem to value their relationship. 7 years isn't that long. It's better to let her go now than after 20 years of marriage, she bo song and just pack up, leave and divorce.

Her loss ...

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Added on March 30, 2011, 10:52 pm
mmm... dunno woh, she seems happy, moreover she's the 1 that have the opportunity to travel everywhere (but mostly on her own expense), I never have the opportunity to travel at all due to commitment not to her only but also to my own family....

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OK, understood. Is she a pretty girl?
Anyway you can just go ahead to focus your career.

u r lucky that u see her real face before u marry her. better to move on and find a better one who really appreciate you

[quote=munkeyflo,Mar 30 2011, 10:55 PM]TS, you're better off without her.
Money can earn back, don't feel so sad about the money spent on her.

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yeah, i guess you're right, not too sad on the money though, also not too sad that she left, but sad and wondering why on earth that you've saved everything and mostly buy things for ppl around you, treat you nice, never ask you spend anything on the house, never ask you do house chores (but did highlight to her that since she's living here, pls hlp abit if can), hlp her out when she needed hlp, and after 7 yrs and ended up like that. Make me feel that most girls are just with you when you are doing ok, but just leave you when are doing not ok.....

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Added on March 30, 2011, 11:05 pm[quote=leo_gaga,Mar 30 2011, 10:58 PM]

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Added on March 30, 2011, 10:52 pm
mmm... dunno woh, she seems happy, moreover she's the 1 that have the opportunity to travel everywhere (but mostly on her own expense), I never have the opportunity to travel at all due to commitment not to her only but also to my own family....

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OK, understood. Is she a pretty girl?
Anyway you can just go ahead to focus your career.

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not very pretty, just regular cute type...

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Added on March 30, 2011, 11:14 pmBut tks to all on your support, it really helps, hope every 1 is living their life to the fullest!

This post has been edited by tempxyz: Mar 30 2011, 11:14 PM