Latest Updates as of 29/12/2010

Girl A

I called off my new year celebration holiday with Girl A yesterday with the reason stating that I have to take care of my business work using facebook private msg. She said nvm and ask me to take care. We didn't talk on the phone nor online. Girl A is a very nice girl, sweet and cute looking type. Quiet and those that never would do anything to harm me.

The reason I pick her as my gf was because I do really love and have a feeling towards her. Anyhow, it seems that she fail to show her compassion in the relationship to me hence made me derailed from the relationship and went out with Girl B.

Girl B

We talked to each others for about 2 hrs+ yesterday. She said she would leave but kept asking me if I miss her and if I still love her. She ask me to come up with a decision fast as if I didn't, she would stop all kind of communication with me.

I explain to her that guy like me has got no right to choose between 2 good girls. I am the only person on fault in this case because I cheated on my gf and I lied to her. If I am force to make a decision, I will not choose any of em' and shall choose to be the one who leave. I also told her to give me some times as we are so far apart. So, there is no need to rush into making any decision as we ain't getting married next month or will be seeing each others anytime soon.

I also advice girl B to take these time to think throughly about this if I am really the right one for her because we knew each others less than 3 months. I might be the right one for her now but it doesn't mean I am the right one for her later because we are so far apart from each others. I told her that, I am not even a good guy to begin with because I lied on her and I admit to be flower hearted for having 2 girls at the same time. So, rushing into any decision is not the wise thing to do.

She will be back in her hometown today to spend new year with her family until 3/1/2011. I ask her not to get stress up over this matter anymore and to spend good time with her family because it is not good to carry stress from 2010 to 2011.

She compliment me for the answers I gave her yesterday.

Conclusion

Currently, If you ask me who would make a better gf or wife, I would definitely said Girl A.

If you ask me who is better. It should be Girl B. She is sweet looking, caring, more matured, better job with better family background than A.

I could see myself being with A and marry her but I couldn't see myself marrying B because in these relationship, she seems to be the one taking more initiatives and she is aggressive in it I got carried away. I doesn't like people forcing me to do things I doesn't like or making decision I am not ready, B does that and I am not very comfortable with it.

I am still thinking if I should really spend my new year celebration alone with myself in the room or find A.

My gf (Girl A) drop me an sms today saying that "she misses me loads and love me the most. No matter how busy I am with work, don't forget to take care of myself too. muacks"

My oh My

Its very unfair if u make any decision without talking to A...even if u decide to be with A, u shud be honest with her...otherwise how u gona spend the rest of ur life with her knowing that u lie to her ...day by day...

Anyone agree????

I agree. For me I'll choose miss A, tell her about miss B and if she can accept it, then i think miss A is really a very good girl that you should stick to....

else if she cannot accept it then go for B lo..... 

Its very unfair if u make any decision without talking to A...even if u decide to be with A, u shud be honest with her...otherwise how u gona spend the rest of ur life with her knowing that u lie to her ...day by day...

Anyone agree????

Following from this topic: http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1691607 but a more serious + detail version.

I've been single for a couple of years until I met girl A. I met her in an event on 10/08/2010. Anyhow, we didn't really talk much to each others until we met again on 6 to 8/10/2010. She added me on facebook on 10/10/2010 and we went out together on 17/10/2010. Since then, we've been chatting with each others online until she finally agree to become my gf on 8/11/2010. Its a long distant relationship. Everything seems to be going alright and I felt as if she is the one for me (as I love my singlehood a lot) until I met girl B on 17/11/2010 in another biz-event.

Call me an ass but I found her attractive. Anyhow, I didn't take any action but just talk to her like how you meet new friend. She is not a local and live overseas. I pass her my biz-card and she added me up on MSN and we start chatting with each others daily starting 22/11/2010. She ask if I am still single, being such a BIG ASS, I found my mouth sealed and could not tell her the truth because I know she will stop talking to me once she know I already have a gf. At that period of time, I thought I could lie my way through and have 2 gfs at the same time.

17/12/2010, I went on a biz-trip and meet up with girl B and we had a lot of fun together until she found out the truth that I have a gf on 25/12/2010 because my GF call me that night when I am with her. I choose to tell girl B the truth because I couldn't bare lying to her. After knowing the truth, she said she would leave and i must be good to my GF. Anyhow, I talk to her to still be with me and give me 3 months to come up with a decision.

26/12/2010 is the last night of my biz-trip, I spend the night with girl B. She shampooed my hair and start crying. I burst into tears and couldn't control my emotion feeling very bad to screw up everything and put myself and the girls in such condition. It is so not me, because I wouldn't cry for a girl ... but this time, I did and its the first time ever that I felt so lost in a relationship.

27/12/2010, girl B send me off to my taxi and me seeing myself leaving her and I thought a selfish guy like me would have done well, like I always do. Girl B said she will leave me and block me on MSN even thought she said she love me loads, the guy she love most after her dad. That should be a good deal for a jerk like me. I tried to take her advice by trying to be good with my gf but my gf weren't available for me.

Anyhow, I was wrong. I miss her and I stare blankly on my monitor screen waiting for her to come online but to no available. I dropped a PM to my gf on facebook asking her if she really love me cause we seldom have time with each others.

Suddenly, girl B came online. We chat on MSN for a bit but due to some connection problem. I did not receive her msg and she said she is going to bed. I called her right after she went offline. I felt very stress up and almost cried when I heard her voice, she scolded me and all I could do is just listen. She ask me what she should do? She wanted to forget me but she really love me loads. I ask her to give me few days so I could break up with my gf for her but she said she doesn't want to be the 3rd party to snatch other people bf and she won't feel the same too if i do that. She said she doesn't want me to do that for her, but she also don't know what she should do.

After I hang off the phone, my gf call and I didn't pick up. I end up writing my story here in LYN hoping to hear whatever comments that everyone could throw to me. I am so so lost .... so confuse, for the first time in my life when it comes to a relationship.

Please advice, for those who feel that its too long to read, please proceed to http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=1691607&hl=

realistic speaking, you are screwing yourself.. in the end, you will end up being single again.. right after breaking two girl's heart