Welcome Guest ( Log In | Register )

Bump Topic Topic Closed RSS Feed
7 Pages  1 2 3 > » Bottom

Outline · [ Standard ] · Linear+

Advice Wanted Screw-up life of a jerk & 2 angels, I is attention whore

views
     
TSsotong-king
post Dec 28 2010, 12:23 AM, updated 15y ago

New Member
*
Junior Member
21 posts

Joined: Dec 2010


Following from this topic: http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/1691607 but a more serious + detail version.

I've been single for a couple of years until I met girl A. I met her in an event on 10/08/2010. Anyhow, we didn't really talk much to each others until we met again on 6 to 8/10/2010. She added me on facebook on 10/10/2010 and we went out together on 17/10/2010. Since then, we've been chatting with each others online until she finally agree to become my gf on 8/11/2010. Its a long distant relationship. Everything seems to be going alright and I felt as if she is the one for me (as I love my singlehood a lot) until I met girl B on 17/11/2010 in another biz-event.

Call me an ass but I found her attractive. Anyhow, I didn't take any action but just talk to her like how you meet new friend. She is not a local and live overseas. I pass her my biz-card and she added me up on MSN and we start chatting with each others daily starting 22/11/2010. She ask if I am still single, being such a BIG ASS, I found my mouth sealed and could not tell her the truth because I know she will stop talking to me once she know I already have a gf. At that period of time, I thought I could lie my way through and have 2 gfs at the same time.

17/12/2010, I went on a biz-trip and meet up with girl B and we had a lot of fun together until she found out the truth that I have a gf on 25/12/2010 because my GF call me that night when I am with her. I choose to tell girl B the truth because I couldn't bare lying to her. After knowing the truth, she said she would leave and i must be good to my GF. Anyhow, I talk to her to still be with me and give me 3 months to come up with a decision.

26/12/2010 is the last night of my biz-trip, I spend the night with girl B. She shampooed my hair and start crying. I burst into tears and couldn't control my emotion feeling very bad to screw up everything and put myself and the girls in such condition. It is so not me, because I wouldn't cry for a girl ... but this time, I did and its the first time ever that I felt so lost in a relationship.

27/12/2010, girl B send me off to my taxi and me seeing myself leaving her and I thought a selfish guy like me would have done well, like I always do. Girl B said she will leave me and block me on MSN even thought she said she love me loads, the guy she love most after her dad. That should be a good deal for a jerk like me. I tried to take her advice by trying to be good with my gf but my gf weren't available for me.

Anyhow, I was wrong. I miss her and I stare blankly on my monitor screen waiting for her to come online but to no available. I dropped a PM to my gf on facebook asking her if she really love me cause we seldom have time with each others.

Suddenly, girl B came online. We chat on MSN for a bit but due to some connection problem. I did not receive her msg and she said she is going to bed. I called her right after she went offline. I felt very stress up and almost cried when I heard her voice, she scolded me and all I could do is just listen. She ask me what she should do? She wanted to forget me but she really love me loads. I ask her to give me few days so I could break up with my gf for her but she said she doesn't want to be the 3rd party to snatch other people bf and she won't feel the same too if i do that. She said she doesn't want me to do that for her, but she also don't know what she should do.

After I hang off the phone, my gf call and I didn't pick up. I end up writing my story here in LYN hoping to hear whatever comments that everyone could throw to me. I am so so lost .... so confuse, for the first time in my life when it comes to a relationship.

Please advice, for those who feel that its too long to read, please proceed to http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=1691607&hl=




~Battousai~
post Dec 28 2010, 12:29 AM

Look at all my stars!!
*******
Senior Member
4,477 posts

Joined: Jan 2003
From: Bandar Utama,PJ,Subang Jaya, TTDI



well dude..u basically screwed yourself over.. but if u really love B i would say just break up with A..and patch things up with B..

if she really loves you like u say she does in the post, she should be able to forgive and u guys jz make it a stronger relationship to move past this stage
emperor_kiva
post Dec 28 2010, 12:34 AM

Getting Started
**
Junior Member
257 posts

Joined: Aug 2009


Who is easier to reach? Girl a or b?
TSsotong-king
post Dec 28 2010, 12:40 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
21 posts

Joined: Dec 2010


QUOTE(~Battousai~ @ Dec 28 2010, 12:29 AM)
well dude..u basically screwed yourself over.. but if u really love B i would say just break up with A..and patch things up with B..

if she really loves you like u say she does in the post, she should be able to forgive and u guys jz make it a stronger relationship to move past this stage
*
I personally think being single is the best. I enjoy my single life a lot and I never thought of myself getting into this deep shit. I am not sure if many of you would agree with this but I love both girls as they are both nice girl. Anyhow, I have to admit that my feeling for girl B is more now cause I rather breaking up with girl A than not seeing girl B.

My mind tell me to walk away from both girls and live back my single life cause it is my heart that I couldn't trust. I might fall for girl C in the future after decides to give up girl A for girl B. I think I have loyalty issue.

QUOTE(emperor_kiva @ Dec 28 2010, 12:34 AM)
Who is easier to reach? Girl a or b?
*
Both girl A & B lives quite far from where I live. Girl B is elder than girl A and she took care of me better than girl A. I like how girl B pamper me.

I am so confuse right now, I don't know if my feeling for both of them are true or its just temporary.
myboo_1988
post Dec 28 2010, 12:44 AM

Love The Way U Lie
*****
Senior Member
754 posts

Joined: Sep 2007
From: klang
go with someone u cant live without..not go with someone u can live with it
kaiying
post Dec 28 2010, 12:48 AM

Getting Started
**
Junior Member
181 posts

Joined: Nov 2008
u love girl b. so obvious. then just go for it.
tell girl a the truth. hard but still. no need to hide here n there.

i think girl a will feel happier and bless u n girl b
TSsotong-king
post Dec 28 2010, 12:50 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
21 posts

Joined: Dec 2010


QUOTE(myboo_1988 @ Dec 28 2010, 12:44 AM)
go with someone u cant live without..not go with someone u can live with it
*
to answer this question, i don't think i can live without girl B. It might be because i spent more time with girl B than girl A.

as for girl A, i feel bad for her because she is supposely my gf and she claims that she love me too.

my brain is feeling so heavy right now, am tired, feeling dizzy and very piss off with myself for allowing myself to be in this condition.


Added on December 28, 2010, 12:51 am
QUOTE(kaiying @ Dec 28 2010, 12:48 AM)
u love girl b. so obvious. then just go for it.
tell girl a the truth. hard but still. no need to hide here n there.

i think girl a will feel happier and bless u n girl b
*
cry.gif cry.gif cry.gif *hugs*

This post has been edited by sotong-king: Dec 28 2010, 12:51 AM
egyprince
post Dec 28 2010, 12:53 AM

On my way.....getting stronger each day
******
Senior Member
1,277 posts

Joined: Sep 2010


y u make yourself so complicated....try make life simplier a bit.....only love one ppl at a time....
Lelouch
post Dec 28 2010, 12:53 AM

Getting Started
**
Junior Member
236 posts

Joined: Jun 2008


obvious that u love girl B more so just go for her.
Break-ups happens all the time and we can't be responsible for every thing
toda_II
post Dec 28 2010, 01:01 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
20 posts

Joined: Jul 2010
dude. erm.
be cruel a bit lol. without considering anyone's feeling,
who will you choose? ah-ah, be careful here.
who do you think will make a better girlfriend for you lol.
myboo_1988
post Dec 28 2010, 01:02 AM

Love The Way U Lie
*****
Senior Member
754 posts

Joined: Sep 2007
From: klang
QUOTE(sotong-king @ Dec 28 2010, 12:50 AM)
to answer this question, i don't think i can live without girl B. It might be because i spent more time with girl B than girl A.

as for girl A, i feel bad for her because she is supposely my gf and she claims that she love me too.

my brain is feeling so heavy right now, am tired, feeling dizzy and very piss off with myself for allowing myself to be in this condition.


Added on December 28, 2010, 12:51 am
cry.gif  cry.gif  cry.gif *hugs*
*
hey my dear...i been in yr situation...watch out u lose both of them...do not be greedy..and if i were u go with someone u love..not go with someone u feel bad...if u feel bad why still do it.DO U LOVE IT IF THE SITUATION REVERSING AND U ARE THE VICTIM DO U REALLY LOVE IT...STOP BEING JERK...WARNING

PLS TELL HER THE TRUTH RATHER THEN PULLING AND PULLING...ALL OF THEM ARE SUFFER...i cant barely read anymore..haizzz..so heartache i saw this sad.gif sad.gif
TSsotong-king
post Dec 28 2010, 01:03 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
21 posts

Joined: Dec 2010


QUOTE(egyprince @ Dec 28 2010, 12:53 AM)
y u make yourself so complicated....try make life simplier a bit.....only love one ppl at a time....
*
If only I could do that, thing wouldn't be this complicated right?

QUOTE(Lelouch @ Dec 28 2010, 12:53 AM)
obvious that u love girl B more so just go for her.
Break-ups happens all the time and we can't be responsible for every thing
*
it is that obvious that i love girl B more?

I am suppose to meet up with girl A on 30/12 for new year celebration.

options that I have now.

A) Let girl B leave and follow her wish to be good with my gf. I felt very pressured and stress out with this option.

B) Ask for breakup from girl A by telling her that I need time off.

C) Tell girl A of what happen and let her decide.

What says you?
toda_II
post Dec 28 2010, 01:04 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
20 posts

Joined: Jul 2010
QUOTE(kaiying @ Dec 28 2010, 12:48 AM)
u love girl b. so obvious. then just go for it.
tell girl a the truth. hard but still. no need to hide here n there.

i think girl a will feel happier and bless u n girl b
*
are you sure haha.
maybe girl a will start cursing him here and there cuz felt cheated.
TSsotong-king
post Dec 28 2010, 01:09 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
21 posts

Joined: Dec 2010


QUOTE(toda_II @ Dec 28 2010, 01:01 AM)
dude. erm.
be cruel a bit lol. without considering anyone's feeling,
who will you choose? ah-ah, be careful here.
who do you think will make a better girlfriend for you lol.
*
the whole problem is

1. Both of them are good.
2. I couldn't decide who make a better girlfriend for me.
3. I rather lose both of em' and go back single because I don't think I deserve any of them and I definitely have got no right to choose.

QUOTE(myboo_1988 @ Dec 28 2010, 01:02 AM)
hey my dear...i been in yr situation...watch out u lose both of them...do not be greedy..and if i were u go with someone u love..not go with someone u feel bad...if u feel bad why still do it.DO U LOVE IT IF THE SITUATION REVERSING AND U ARE THE VICTIM DO U REALLY LOVE IT...STOP BEING JERK...WARNING

PLS TELL HER THE TRUTH RATHER THEN PULLING AND PULLING...ALL OF THEM ARE SUFFER...i cant barely read anymore..haizzz..so heartache i saw this  sad.gif  sad.gif
*
the whole problem that makes me really worry is what u said, i don't even know who i really love and who i feel bad with.

I thought i love girl A, but it might be because of my commitment in a relationship.

I thought i love girl B, but it could also be because i feel bad of what I've done.

As said in the earlier post, I rather lose both than giving the option to choose.
toda_II
post Dec 28 2010, 01:12 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
20 posts

Joined: Jul 2010
lol. you got the answer.
myboo_1988
post Dec 28 2010, 01:14 AM

Love The Way U Lie
*****
Senior Member
754 posts

Joined: Sep 2007
From: klang
sad..look at wat u having now ...come out for drinks make ur life easier..
TSsotong-king
post Dec 28 2010, 01:15 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
21 posts

Joined: Dec 2010


QUOTE(toda_II @ Dec 28 2010, 01:12 AM)
lol. you got the answer.
*
What answer? shakehead.gif

QUOTE(myboo_1988 @ Dec 28 2010, 01:14 AM)
sad..look at wat u having now ...come out for drinks make ur life easier..
*
What I have no is a big mess. The thing that hurt most is thinking of how f***-tup i could be for hurting those girls. DAMN!!!!
toda_II
post Dec 28 2010, 01:24 AM

New Member
*
Junior Member
20 posts

Joined: Jul 2010
that you prefer to be single? tongue.gif
kaiying
post Dec 28 2010, 01:26 AM

Getting Started
**
Junior Member
181 posts

Joined: Nov 2008
QUOTE(toda_II @ Dec 28 2010, 01:04 AM)
are you sure haha.
maybe girl a will start cursing him here and there cuz felt cheated.
*
hahahhaa. curse only ma.. mai let her curse lo.. i dun think girl a loves him very much also..

Yong_5290
post Dec 28 2010, 01:26 AM

Getting Started
**
Junior Member
152 posts

Joined: Nov 2009
go with ur feelings man....which girls u prefer to be with most
which girl u feel really comfortable by just hugging her and doing nothing else


7 Pages  1 2 3 > » Top
Topic ClosedOptions
 

Change to:
| Lo-Fi Version
0.0204sec    0.64    5 queries    GZIP Disabled
Time is now: 15th December 2025 - 07:06 AM