another question is if auntie dun come n visit can i still get preggy?

oh ya i should add this... i got 5oz for this morning pump~!!

This post has been edited by nicKit: Jan 22 2011, 06:01 PM

phythia, after u gave birth how long did it takes for blood to stop? mine took abt 44-46days... a bit abnormal i think...

syd, 5oz... ya... may start to wean off bm after he reach 6mo... xian... super xian... initially hope to wean off by 1yo or preggy but ya... 6mo... 6mo should b good rite?

syd, ya lo tot at least start wean at 1yo then mayb end by 2yo... now 6mo... how to trust milk powder these days? but will b feeding them solid foods la... my stand is takkan ask me to stop immediately... u not pain i pain wor~!! so i told hb last nite slowly wean... i dun think there won't b a drop of milk after 6mo... but xian oso... kenot buy fresh milk coz hb sure say wah need expensive milk for him meh... n since i'm not working i have nothing to say... just depend on my online biz... the weaning off to try for 2nd one is purely my idea... i haven't mention it to him yet... dunno wat's his reaction... wanna put a 2 yrs gap coz they'll grow up together n i dun wanna reach high risk pregnancy although i'm not that old... yet...

5.5oz~!! happy n sad at the same time... if i'm making good production n stop at 6 mths, it's sooooooooooo pity le

This post has been edited by nicKit: Jan 24 2011, 01:54 PM

phythia, ya lo... i feel unwilling to wean him off so early... i dun think hb or mil will understand how i feel... anyway now i think being a mum is a thankless job... u c... if the kid misbehave the blame is usually the mum... any bad habit is the mum's fault (in my case suck to sleep n etc...) sometimes i would feel like doesn't the dad oso have to bear some responsibility? the kid is 50% mum n 50% dad... y is the blame 100% mum? i dunno... coz mum always beside kid? back to weaning, bf creates such a beautiful bond between mum n baby... dunno y should u blame the mum for suck to sleep? kenot let nature take its course ka? or mayb i'm lacking in discipline?

merchant, mayb more pumping session when ur boy's not wif u? ur boy's photo? get his clothes when u can n smell them? fenugreek? white radish soup? relax? mayb u're stress at work since it's ur first day? gambateh lo... so far, thank god, i haven't had any prob of decreasing... *touch wood*

syd, i have those too but always din bring the hp when pumping so not working for me

will u guys get diff oz from morning pumps n evening pumps? this morning i get 5.5oz then just now just manage to squeeze 3oz...

i'm oso one of the network...

sbux, dun worry coz things will get better like my case now he extracts milk better staring at ur boobs...


n the result of engorgement... i was like it's going overflow overflow~!! but alas, this sight will soon disappear... how can i make sense to hb? any ideas to help me? sigh... hb said i'm degil n not listening...

phtyhia, he'll still say i'm stubborn... wanna wait till big prob then bla bla bla bla... wanna make him eat solid without milk... easier for travelling... n my mind goes "i dun believe that even after 6 mths u all won't give him milk... dun let me c u guys give him fm... " we had lot of fights n disagreements since bb came... teaching, feeding, bathing... everything i do seems to b wrong... i dun hit him when he's misbehaving but i do scold him in a direct order (read from articles that we should give kids direct n simple order... n tell them y kenot) i'll spoil him they say... sigh... do i have a stand in the family i wonder... the last he ask when i was preggy, i said wanna bf till 2yo... then he said expected to 1yo then i agree... now force me to stop at 6mths... aiyo if i was a machine mayb lo... mayb i should turn into a take order robot... u guys want me to do wat just input ur order...

phythia, yes... will take deep breaths once in a while just to stay sane...

mygenesis, tried n done... still not working... n for bf for 9 mths now~!

it's actually easier said than done... sometimes i dunno wat he thinks... he's always mad at me for treating the ebm like gem... especially when the ebm is over 4 hrs, he will asked me to throw away n made sure i throw it away no matter how much left... i feel hurt when he could just simply say throw it~! i know after 4 hrs ebm shouldn't b consumed anymore but simply say like that hurts u know? another hurting remark is dun think u're sooo clever that u can pump all those oz... sigh... it won't change the fact that milk should stop at 6 mths... sigh... 3 more mths to go... will my fate b a bit different?

syd, ya... it's good not being like "other ppl" but it's really difficult sometimes... sigh... this thread is becoming from getting advice to ranting...

sbux, thanks thanks for reading n listening (to all too~!)... it really suck

merchant, i'm oso wondering the same coz i've been eating quakers for a few weeks now...

the 6mths bm topic has became to "u feed until 6 mths or u're on ur own"... so i guess i'm on my own... baby is my responsibility after all... no matter wat happen, whether i can or not, he's my priority now... i just have to do wat i have to do... i just hope n want him to grow up happy n not listening to his parents arguing n shouting n crying every other day (yes my eyes r swollen today)... i really want to bring baby back to mum's house n raise the kid on my own... coincidentally today is my last day at work... i'll put it up until after cny then decide wat to do next... my parents r coming back n i dun want them to worry abt me... just feel like all the things i've researched n read went down the drain... but dun worry abt the supply (i think) coz i try to think of my boy when i pump except for the evening pump coz i always feel like sleeping when i close my eyes i'm glad to know that at least i still have a place to rant... we r all mothers n i think we will do wat we think is the best for us n baby (n family)... hb n i may not b in toking terms anymore... he may not wanna hug or play with his son anymore... but that is his choice... my choice is staying firm...

This post has been edited by nicKit: Jan 27 2011, 10:07 AM

mygenesis, thanks... i'm obsessed as well but had to refrain la... else i'll really get push away in the house... sigh... if u're all alone (not same as alone in empty house) in the house n no one wanna play or hug or c ur kid, u'll feel like as if u did something wrong n hurt u know...

phythia, u haven't send me the car seat photo le...

err... i dunno abt fenugreek, oats or barley works for me or not coz i only know that if i eat enuf or full, i'll get nice oz~! luckily nothing happen yesterday after hb came back from home... i think the topic is put aside until the time comes again...

phythia, yaya... arigato... gong xi fat chai~!

to everyone out who's been reading n replying, gong xi fat chai~! may we all have good production on our liquid gold~!

syd, wanna breed like rabbit meh? y not nurse like rabbit? u go experiment all brands of storage bags ka? btw i finally found the baby room in jusco bukit indah... silly me... they'll write baby room if got... n oh... nice room... got hot water some more... but i just went in to adjust my sling... still not used to it la... my boy cried a lot...

today two of my milk turned a layer of yellowish on top of the milk... fear of spoilt milk i threw them 4oz down the drain... later i found out it was oil... but when i tasted it was sour... so i should throw them rite? rite now my throat hurts... dunno if i'm paranoid or wat... btw here's a something to discuss: can bm be heaty if u're a heaty person? can it be transferred to baby n baby becomes heaty too? syd? phythia? sbux? merchant? anyone? i couldn't find any answer from uncle google... any views?

u c y i ask this... hb n i r heaty ppl... hb n mil believe that my bm is heaty n somemore bb is oso a heaty ppl... so baby is feeding on heaty bm thus making him more heaty~! at first i tot ya mayb but then how did other heaty mummy bf their bb till 2yrs old n still b fine? hb is worried that his life will short live as we have family medical records e.g. high cholesterol, high blood pressure, etc... i'm cleared of any illnesses *touch wood*... just need to take k of my cholesterol level due to family record... hb has high blood pressure... so conclusion he scared baby will shorten his life coz baby is heaty n may have high blood pressure u must b thinking the same as me... mil on the other hand is warning me abt nipple deformed if baby can start solid food n stop bf then we all senang liao ... i still believe that bf is still the best against all odds... n still no one wanna believe me... who can b soooo sure that baby can take solid food without alergy or milk powder is not contaminated? i dunno... now i already stop pumping n just bf whenever possible when hb is not around... let mil complain to him... then we'll go another round of argument... xian... i already feel my milk supply is decreasing... but who else would care except me n baby?? should i go back to my scheduled pumping session n give bb fm since fm is still half pack? mil n hb is complaining that ebm is taking over the freezer (i only put 6 bottles there) if i pump where to put?

phythia, my hb believes the other way but still insist on giving water ... i've tried swirling the bottle but the layer keeps floating back... they said it's DHA... n i remember the taste of fish oil capsule... it taste exactly like that day... mayb it's not sour??? i should take more chocolate so my bm would taste like it yummy yummy... chocolate ebm anyone?

sbux, y do u need to force urself to eat?? just eat when u're hungry la... it should b pleasure n not torture...

i think i sort of had an emergency this morning... baby n i were lying on the bed feeding side by side... he was latching on then suddenly he struggled... struggling like need air or rejecting medicine... there was milk+phlegm like thing coming out from one of his nose hole... then i quickly hold him up n pat his back... then he cough n cough n that's it... wat in the world just happened?

sbux, she's just showing her concern la... i'm her first dil ma no matter how i wish to tok back she is after all mil n not my own mum should refrain refrain refrain... but she knows i'm not happy coz everytime she bring it up my face is a bit diff... u can't skip breakfast la... i used to skip breakfast n go for brunch... now if i dun fill up my stomach n then pump/bf, i'll get jelly legs... my boy is back to his usual self... mayb he din swallow properly from the nite feedings due to my very engorged breast...

i just read an article from babycenter... mayb i should say bf can protect me from cancer n baby from alergy... nego until 1 yr... i dun expect for 2 yrs now

This post has been edited by nicKit: Feb 1 2011, 01:33 PM

sbux, i have no answer for u hope others will have answers for u...

guys, how does ur little one handle arguments between u n ur partner? does his feeding affected too?

syd, good one... happy hormone mine still happy n bouncy just that he becomes more clingy onto my breasts... n nap oso little... at nite wakes up abt 30min to 1 hr... (hb not sleeping in the room so baby waking up dun disturb his sleep)...