i believe that SOME of us get rejected before, during confession..

so now the discuss topic would be how you handle after she rejected you but you still having many thing together(eg. same class, same bus...bla bla bla...)

before both of you were talking and chatting closely but after that, both of you didnt talk even once , when walk or meet up....you just buat tak tau je..and walk away...avoid her and didnt look at her....when ever got group meeting you just sit aside and keep silent becoz she was there....

but in this condition you still miss her very much and like her alot...she just dont give any response to you....btw she like someone else.(i know tat if a gal oredi like someone else, hardly she will accept you de)...


should we just buat tak tau and nvr talk together anymore...talking to her again would be very awkward...

so what is your suggestion after rejection but you still nid to see her almost everyday...?? what would you do??

any comments will do...

This post has been edited by slayer12: Jul 14 2010, 12:09 AM

That's why confession sucks. Never confess unless u're 99% sure.

But anyways, i guess it all depends on person. Smiling at the opposite party when u guys meet wouldn't be bad eh? U can choose to be total strangers, or u can choose to brush things away. I prefer the latter.

Just transfer school lar.

So what. Just smile to her, see how she respond.
Just be gentlemen. You expect her to talk to you?

take it easy. just talk. mayb not as good as b4, but at least not strangers...

talk simple conversation lo

rejection only wat. not suitable then not together.

what so serious?

the platinum rule.....nvr date some 1 dat u see on regular bases.

btw, the key to avoid awkwardness here is "cool".....
there is once, i confessed to dis girl & got rejected.
but i acted cool, den v chat like everything is fine.
until 1 point, she tell me she's surprise by the way i acted & she actually asked me if i hav given up on her.

haha... confession... i paling scare of that...its like asking me go naked in public....the embarrassing feeling if kena rejected...
i kena once before...during my school years...asked a girl from my tuition class...kena reject...really "gam gai" / awkward to see her during tuition classes ...but i pretend i dont care..

LOL ****


*edited due to user request*

This post has been edited by unknownhammie: Jul 14 2010, 08:56 AM

TS, don't look at it as a confession. It's part of a conversation between 2 person. If she does not like you as well, so be it.

Don't avoid her like she's a stranger. That's a sore loser's attitude. Each time you see her, give her a sincere smile and greet her. Then walk away. If it's her birthday, wish her. If it's Valentine's day, tell her you hope she enjoys her day. If she is a decent girl, she will reciprocate. Just don't assume she likes you if she reciprocate. If she doesn't, then she's not worth you being nice to in the first place.

bicth...

you should read all the novels under twilight series. then you'll understand...

If got rejected so wat? Just be normal la, if you see her, smile .. say hi or etc ..

Keep on trying and hopefully one day u wont feel awkward anymore, can be good/close fren again..
I mean really close fren..

Like this couples below.



This post has been edited by viper88: Jul 14 2010, 10:59 AM

Keraskan hati. buat tak tau. Betina macam ni bila dia nampak kau still "cuba" nak maintain friendly, memang dia pijak kepala kau. Be careful.

It's embarrassing, but it's not THAT bad.

Just be yourself and say, "Hi" when you meet her. Don't have to go out of the way to avoid her or ignore her. It's not like either of you did something to be ashamed of.

TS is not confidence person, enuff said.... , base on my experience confidence guy not take things too personally

Why hello thar

luckily never been rejected before...

both time confess also succeeded.. confession can be quite scary if failed

so both time also i was about 200% sure only i go for it... anyway, u can feel wan lo if the girl is not interested in u, like some of those girls that i back off half way...

u no ball to talk after get reject?

X

This post has been edited by emily88: Nov 6 2019, 06:30 PM

Fuel your vengeance towards her. This way, you balls wont kecut when you walk beside her or talk to her. Imagine you, her, bunch of ropes in your hand.

Wow, you confessed to your customer? Very daring. What happens if your boss knows.

hey...actually i read all of your comments but i didnt reply coz i really dono wat should i do...

she was some kind of girl that will give 'special attention' to good looking guy regardless how nt close they are....even compare, im 'closer' with her last time compared with those good looking guy...but she will be more friendly with those guy compared with me.. ...so far im still nt yet talk to her....

haiz, even so if i saw her close with other guys...i still feel very very very sad sad sad...

I seen such thing happen before the answer to your problem is she dont even value u. Why bother to care for her? Just resist your heart of her slowly your heart will accept the fact. Just remember if she mess up her life please make sure u dont go and rescue her or else u definately will be used again.

I know how you feel. Like want to kill those arrogant handsome guys all the way. My advice, no matter how much your sadness is, clearly she prefer those b@stards good lookin dude rather than fuglies like us. No matter what words of wisdom you may heard from those Yoda wannabes, good looking dudes always caught females attention. So, don't linger in your sadness for someone who don't want your affection. Channel it towards anger, and vengeance. Only then you'll regain your heart strength.

p/s: seriously you can become my first online disciple if you want, and join my offline group of disciples.

This post has been edited by Evangelistica: Jul 16 2010, 01:39 PM

Just go and talk to her. If not, you wil fel sad seeing ppl got chance talk to her.

Just enjoy the days you have in the school..after graduation, you wil dun hv chance to met her again.

wat i the requirement to join?

prove to me that you were hurt badly and want to get even. most important of all, lost faith in everything "divine".

hmm i think now my feeling is very very very like her but bring abit of hate.....

Btw Joining wat?i don get it.....

There's no gray area here. Hate her all the way. What's the point of you having feelings for her shen she seems to ignore it? Whats the point of liking her when she don't reciprocate your feelings? Clearly she prefer to be with those handsome charming dude rather than you, no matter how close you were back then. You know her more than those b@stard good looking dude right? but she prefer to be with them rather than with ol-faithful you. What does that show you? That she prefer HIM over YOU! HIM over YOU! HIM over YOU!. Remember that. Clearly she don't treasure what you have did to her and take it all for granted. She only turns to you when she needs help right? You want to be her doormat? Seriously slayer12 you dont want to be used like that. Girls /b1tches like that will only use us like her f*cking toy and when they done with us, they'll throw us away! Right then it will be too late. You at her feet already. DONT. Pull yourself together. Gain whats left of your dignity that have been pissed by her, and that dude.

Hate her!Hate her!Hate her!. Get even. Use your imagination. tell me how it goes.

I agree with the above forumer. U should hate her all the way. Why do u want to like her when she dont even appreciate u. When u hate her all the way the possibility for her to use u in future reduce by half. Neverever let your feelings win. Fight it! I can i dont see why u cant.

Remember by floating between like and hate u will have a dilemma in future. Its better to choose either like or hate


This post has been edited by aspire2oo6: Jul 16 2010, 02:58 PM

aiya ... kena reject normal ma.


Just pretend nothing happened and start conversation normally. Its like a business u see.


Sometimes when u offer something they might not be interested . but there are times if u r willing to work hard and show ur effort might get response from the client.


But again if the girl feel weird talking to u thanks to all the extra attention u r giving then u should really stay away. Or u feel emo and pathetic cos the girl prefers a very inferior guy compared to u then leave the country .

Some of my buddies because of this incident they wanna make the girl that rejected feel miserable they dress up properly then they learn how get girls prettier than her. Then go show off infront of her

that's why real men didn't confess.

they just play along.

pus$y confess.

HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAH this is like Darth Vader.

Hahahahaha all you want to.Its the truth. TS WILL better off listening to me.

HAHAHAA
http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopi...post&p=10549939

I like this joke eh. I love it when someone dont even know what he/she/it wants but want to teach others how to mess up their life too

This post has been edited by aspire2oo6: Jul 17 2010, 08:42 AM

Look at the date of the creation my friend. That was certainly the catalyst of my dark life.
p/s : it's not a joke.

Rejection is normal. It really is. Do not for one moment think that out of 6 billion people in the world, you're the only one person going through it and that no one knows how you feel.

I've been rejected numerous times, more times than both my hands and toes put together can count.

Bear in mind also that she is rejecting the romantic advance, not you as a person. If she and you are matured enough, the both of you still can remain friends even good friends - but each knowing where the boundaries lie that is no intimacy.

Only fools and immature people will resort to vengeance, hate, and ostracizing.

So what if it didn't start. You can't force these things. If she didn't have romantic feelings or share mutual affection how is it her fault? how is it even your fault? It is nobody's fault

But out of the anger, frustration and hurt (from opening up and getting rejected) many people channel this negative feelings and end up hurting other people instead and the vicious cycle continues.

This post has been edited by Tatsumaki: Jul 18 2010, 09:07 PM

even there is 10 billion girls, there wont b a single 1 for ugly + poor dude.

true. the reply just talk c0ck.

She was my classmate last year.

We were pretty darn close before the sh!t happened.


I was in the wrong timing as she didn't inform us that she was with another guy at all. So it's that I am rejected.

How awkward it became between me and her, we wouldn't talk much when we see each other, probably it's that the embarrassing scene.


But this year, I don't know why the feeling came back, faster and more serious.

I told myself to really take this feeling seriously.

And I've told her that I'm interested in her and that I would wait for her to accept me.

Therein perhaps lies your mistake, telling her all these romantic stuff. Did you ever put yourself in her shoes for one moment and think?

Did it ever cross your mind perhaps that most of the time she receives these sort of 'friendship' for lack of better word? Every guy that wants to get to know her, wants to date her. Few or none guys wants to get to know her and be good buddies.

Ever thought of that? Ever thought of how that would make her feel?

The thing with you is that, the one girl which you went a little head over heels, you automatically think that you're going to spend the rest of your life with her.

From your post, you:

a) Are unable to accept another person's decision (clearly exemplified by your actions despite her decision)
b) Unable to handle rejection (distancing behavior after being turned down)
c) Still confessing business after 1 year and thinking that waiting for her is proving your love to her.

My dear friend, contrary to the popular believe, those actions point more to immature attitude and behavior than anything else.

I'll gladly be the bad guy, in hope that you may learn more about this:

You're not quite ready yet for relationship based on those few responses to disappointments that you faced. There is still much to learn before you should fully commit to someone.

Well well...

Ah, I share with all of you 1 neglected golden rule..

NEVER TRY CONFESSING/DATING/FALL FOR WITH CO-WORKER, CLASSMATE/COURSEMATES.

Period. Anyway, sh!t happens. The best you can do now, is don't care about the other person. Or forget about it, come back as friend in a week or two. You must tell her and yourself and act like this ---> "hey, it's over, I am past that already, let it go, will you?"

Oh since you liked her.. TS, move on, find another okay? Rejected, you go find other girls. No joke. If not you will be stucked and it will disturb your mind if you are studying (been there, I think I was kinda disturbed for 2-3 months in class until I decided to strap on my heart and become the playboy! I was getting numbers and very selectively choose some for dates until I can "charm" girls of other races and my own (mastery!)..).

I do experience this kind of situation before.
My advice was be sporting. You wouldn't expect the girl to take the first move to talk to you.

So you as a guy, just take it as normal and talk to her. Then just tell her straight forward "we can be still friend right? =) "

You shudn't move so fast.

Hell yeah bash him more!!!! wake him up inside.

well, it all depends on the other party, if she is open enough to appreciate your confession and still treat you as a friend, then just remain as friends, but try not to talk to her that often anymore, and try not to view her fb profile unless you are sure that you are strong enough to take it, let time be the healer.
if she refuses to treat you as friend, seems to avoid you, then move on, there're mny fishes in the sea.

never confess unles you're 100% sure that he/she has interest in you too

meaning you only get to watch from afar until you had the nerve to confess to him.. or else just wait at a corner while watching another gal snatch your guy in front of you lor

he has someone that he likes so no point clinging to him let alone confess ..after all already got the answer

if the option is closed, try look for another alternative lor.