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I love my husband, but I don't like sex. Should I let him have an affair?

I am in my late 40s and have been married to my husband for more than 20 years. It's been a happy marriage, and we have two lovely teenage children. However, I have never enjoyed sex, so our love life has always been infrequent.

It's not my husband's fault - he's always been a thoughtful lover - sex just isn't my thing. We haven't made love for more than two years. My husband is frustrated about this, but I would happily never have sex again.

I know this is unfair, so I told my husband that I probably wouldn't object if he started a discreet affair, if I don't have to hear any details. But my closest friend says I'm mad and that our marriage will be wrecked. Is she right?


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of coz your marriage will be wrecked..100% sure

You are awared that men do indeed need sex. it's part of our life. It seems like you going to the extreme of allowing your husband to have sex with others. It's a bold move but i do understand your situation. I don't quite get what you mean by:" My closest friend says I'm mad and that our marriage will be wrecked." Are you saying after you find out the incident?

if she wants to let him have an affair, it's her choice. All she has to do is expect her marriage to fall apart because her husband is going to want to be with the other woman more than her. If she thinks otherwise, she's DEFINITELY mad

it would definitely be a clear NO for me. imo, it's just wrong.
the husband have many other ways to satisfy his sexual desires than having an affair with some other woman.

The women have 2 children and she dun enjoy sex. I vote yes because she dun enjoy sex and her husband have desire too.

I think she wan her husband to have a sex partner but not a lover. So she think it is fine for tat.

If I'm in that situation, I would not allow my hubby to have an affair another girl. Well he can release himself masturbating.. or max he can find prostitute but not a long term affair.

This post has been edited by viekisses: May 3 2010, 03:47 PM

He could always visit a brothel... that's not exactly an affair is it?

Well, she is mad because their marriage is definitely going to fall apart after he has an affair. This is a really strange case.. I've never heard of anyone telling me they don't enjoy sex, not even my own grandmother!

i agree with wat u said that she wan her husband to have a sex partner but not a lover but wat if the husband fall in love with the sex partner?and wat if the teenage children found out about this??wat will they think bout their parents?

haha...thanks for sharing..

well, this is an open relationship, based on what i understand abt this article.

Sex just like a food. Man need it. It can also strengthen love between couple. If no sex then married for what? Legal sex. Not sex from hooker outside. Sex with hooker is just a sex & nothing else. But sex between husband & wife is different. There is lot of benefit from sex. More on biological & chemistry. Gooogle it.

what else can she do than to see her family falling apart. thou sex shouldn't be the most important part of the marriage but its also one of the pillar which supports their union. men and women are sexual beings, and i believe with the right way of stimulating her sexually (which her husband should do), their sex life can be revive again.

+1

i think its better for both her and the husband to seek help for her lack of sexual desires than letting the husband go ahead with an affair.

Sara Apples, I enjoy your topics!

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Added on May 4, 2010, 12:37 ambut no, I can't imagine having my husband in another girls's arms.

I cannot imaging my husband coming home with post coital happy radiant glow looking forward to see the other girl for their sessions.

This post has been edited by BlurSotong: May 4 2010, 12:37 AM

First thing, men not the only one need, both party do need
It do happen before when men dont wan sex, the wife complain too

Having an affair may result in ruining the entire family
Furthermore, can the woman really endure knowing that husband has sexual relationship with other woman?
She may say yes at first but things would change in a long run

Another method is, reduce the sexual desire like many married couple do
Not all couple continue to have sex for as long as they marry until they are old
Usually this can work after they have kid

Why sounds like TS the one experiencing the problem...

y're u all talking bout men n women needing sex or doesn't need it. to be precise... everyone have their own flavour n unfortunately for this lady, she doesn't enjoy it (maybe the husband's too big, too long? or she feels uncomfortable having a thing in her?)

whatever it is... the fact she doesn't like sex ends it all in the terms of sexual intimacy. if she is to allow an affair running, there are many things in mind that needs to be considered...

1) affairs can ruin a marriage. what if he falls for her?
2) what would the childrens' respond be like?
3) can she accept the fact that he's out being pleasured by someone else?

when i was way way younger...i've opened the option of my boyfriends having sex with another gal. the only rule was to ensure that she's not a virgin and she's not in any relationship. i wasn't ready, n i wouldn't allow him to deprive himself because of me. i'm not gonna be selfish because of something i can't offer..n if he is to leave me, i'm ready for it one way or another.

so.. if this lady feels the same way, she have the option to let him explore. the question she've to ask n not lie to herself if she's able to accept this whole situation to the very end.

theres only one way men can satisfy his sexual desires dat is tru making luv or masturbation....means must spray only satisfy...both should seek sex expert and find other way to ignite their luv making session...

I think she's not telling him what she likes during sex and so she began to dislike it.

Instead of an affair what about ONSs? He has enough emotional burdens with the marriage, he just needs sex.

question, by sex being "not my thing" does she mean she doesn't like intercourse or any act that can be construed as sex?

coz well, if it's the former.. there are other things that could be done to errr.. ensure the husbands satisfaction

while TS is posting this topic in forum, i guess her husband already curi makan outside for dunno how many times already..2yrs +++..honestly can any guy stand without sex with his wife???maybe there are but the percentage i bet is less than 50%.. better get a doctor to treat the 'i dun like sex' mindset~~~

This is exactly why pre-marital sex is important. Can you imagine marrying a person who doesn't enjoy sex as much as you? Or worse yet, enjoys sex MORE then you?

u surely have a big heart.

TS do you thing forward or future properly? What if your husband go to find another girl to has sex.

What will be ur feeling that time?

Worst case is, if your husband has sex with another girl and he fall in love to the other. What will the consequences?

U will even mad and not happy on that time. Remember you still got 2 kids that need a warm family.

sex therapy!

I think this make sense.
Like someone else said, I've never heard of anyone who dislike sex so far in my life. There must've been something that has conditioned her to dislike it. Maybe pain, side effects, etc. but then, there are many ways to get rid of those negative stuff and enjoy sex.

chill.... tis is only a topic found by her through her sources. she opened tis topic juz for the sake of sharing and discussions

my opinion...
For muslim, men are allowed to married more than one..this will prevent husband being cheated...in this case, the women love her husband but dont want to have sex...rather than sharing her husband to prostitute, better for her sharing with someone she willing to share with...
indeed, poligamy is not easy(really2 difficult)....men should be fair with all wives..but this is the better way compare with sharing your hubby with b**ch and prostitute...

regarding premarital sex, i'm not agree with it...some might say it is really important to know your partner...YES..but to know what?how good he/she in bed? if ur partner REALLY good in sex, doesnt mean he/she also good to be ur lifepartner...some prostitute really can satisfy you in bed...but would u marry her?and being ur children's mommy?
Some people dont mind if their partner had sex before, but deep in our heart, we will feel something missing...and sometime might ask ourself.. "How my gf had sex with her ex? He good or me?Other people already touch, lick my gf body?".....How do you feel?

sex is a wonderful time to share with ur partner.....both parties can share how they want it to be and can explore each other...there is no right or wrong in sex...seek medical attention to cure the problem....

Anyway,just my 2cents..

Demi Moore and Aston Kutcher can, Madonna also can...why u kennot? hehe

seriously???? That's the basis for poligamy in Islam? Was written somewhere in Al-Quran or result of a study? I understand Al-Quran was written long ago but if that's a reason for poligamy, then that should change. Women are not comodities or even collectibles.

but seriously? to prevent men from being cheated? Women don't get cheated back then? So they came up with a law to prevent men from being cheated but forget that women can be cheated too? See the oversight when there's no female in the committee?

but really? really really? I dunno much bout Islam or Al-Quran and much less bout certain beliefs. (except stuff like what you can and can't do in Bulan Ramadhan, if during puasa then ter-makan, bunting syaitan, and pocong, stuff like that, hehe). Wait, can I use the word Al-Quran? or should Al-Quran be termed as Al-kitab by non-muslim? and what other words that I cannot use? Sorry, I didn't follow the proceedings for proper term to describe God for non-muslim. Er, I dunno how to put my point without using certain words lah. You get what I mean? I like to know more bout Muslim's views in family matters.

b4 u allow ur husband to do so maybe he already did it.

Like masturbating?

no sex no kids.leeds to no point of gettin married.

I suggest psychological help for the sex problem- it's actually a real psychological disorder, and it happens more commonly than you'd expect.

well. somedays are hornier then others.. but 2 years... omg.. i will kill my self i dun get any from my gf in days, well she feel the same of cos.. not forcing her.. is a wonderful thing.. maybe u should buy those cheap cloth.. have sex fantasy.. or have sex off the bed.. in the car.. thrilling~~ Sex is not only on the bed.. u can have it everywhere.. bring back the old feeling.. talk to each other more.. experience .. open up.. what u like what u dislike.. there is sure something or position or the way he do make u excited, horny.. or make u feel in estacy state..

hahaha. if one can't give it, n another wants it.. its time to open an option or find a solution.

1) i feel that there's more cheating going on with a marriage of 4 wives instead of having one wife n many girlfriends. after all.. legalities n etc is enough to get him fully ripped up!! frankly speaking, i'll be more than willing to share my husband with someone i don't know, knowing he'll come back each day..compared to sharing a husband with someone i am forced to know, n knowing he might nto be back that day n is satisfying someone else.

2) everyone have their points of premarital sex. n i support u in ur thoughts of it. as for me, i'd rather have someone with experience than someone that doesn't. i've tried both, n its a whole lot of difference. as for my partner.. if he can't accept me for who i am, n is going to dwell over split milk, its time for him to think whether is he being fair judging me over my previous choice n experience or the person i am now from the lessons of my past, looking forward for the future.

3) have someone come up to u n tell u that u suck in bed n imagine u keep needing pills or medication for sex. then come back n tell me how it feels like to be that person or to be the person suffering from in-completion. i rather go for a test drive... seriously.

While women are not sexual comodities, men are not sex machines... we are not here to shoot and forget... I love making love to my wife simply because I enjoy her affection and giving my affection to her.... sex to me not only " hi, undress, bang, clean up and fall asleep"

While men will brag and dream to have lotsa sexual partners and monstruous sexual organ, but in reality, I would rather have 3 inch d*** and bring my wife to "siezure like" orgasm..... The most important is she must enjoy our lovemaking and companionship....
For me, making love to the women I love is the best thing... even though you can buy any prostitute you want...

When the TS is not enjoying sex, there is something wrong... maybe childhood experiences or anything.. going for treatment is the best way... the worst decision is to let her husband
to fool around.... what if he fall in love with them... what will happen then?

This post has been edited by Masculine: May 10 2010, 02:27 PM

I don't remember I ever said this topic is about me.

lol~

How many times have you been wrongfully referred to so far?

kesian Sara Apples

you love your husband but not giving him your true love by sex..? what you mean..? not make love how to build love then..

how do u give ur partner true love through sex?

yeahh your marrieage willbe wrecked totally.
maybe u should try figure out something else.
ormaybe you should try to like making love
just an oppinion

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Added on May 11, 2010, 12:43 pmyeahh your marrieage willbe wrecked totally.
maybe u should try figure out something else.
ormaybe you should try to like making love
just an oppinion

This post has been edited by alaudra: May 11 2010, 12:43 PM

no way.

Shud not get married in the first place. Sex is one of the commitments. IF you think you're gona break this commitment then dont make it.

Otherwise you will be in heaps of problems and emotional roller coasters in your ownself.

Sad la the cases getting these days

jeez the world is falling apart with all these weird news and stories. the end is indeed near..

its fine tat u dont enjoy,but if u love ur man..at least u pretend LOL

man can't live without sex, i mean, majority, excluded monk

for those who dont know ,
sex is listed in Euro countries as top 5 necessities in life...aside from food, shelter, etc...
in other words, if u tell Euro folks u rarely had any sex in a month or never had any at all, they'd laugh and call u crazy...

well, depends on wat kind of person he is
u know wat, try to think
a kids, no matter how playful he is, after the roller coaster ride, at the end of the day, he still know that he need to go back home…more restrictions, he will act more disobey…u get my point?

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This post has been edited by marsalee: Nov 8 2010, 01:46 PM

sex is important to build the relation ship...

no3...that's not the basis of polygamy in islam...i'm no expert in islam, but i'm pretty sure that Quran does not stated that man can marry up to four wives to PREVENT MEN FROM BEING CHEATED.

Read this if you want to learn more about ploygamy in Islam: WHAT IS THE LEGAL STATUS OF POLYGAMY IN ISLAM?

just some extract from the website:

3. WHAT IS THE LEGAL STATUS OF POLYGAMY IN ISLAM?

The verse which allows polygamy “was revealed after the battle of Uhud in which many Muslims were killed, leaving widows and orphans for whom due care was incumbent upon the Muslim survivors.(Abd Al-Ati, Hammuda, Islam in Focus, The Canadian Islamic center, Edmonton Alberta, Canada, 1963, p.103.)

The translation of the verse is as follows:

If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with them), then (marry) only one…. (Qur’an 4:3)

From this verse a number of facts are evident:

1.That polygamy is neither mandatory, nor encouraged, but merely permitted.
2. That the permission to practice polygamy is not associated with mere satisfaction of passion. It is rather associated with compassion toward widows and orphans, a matter that is confirmed by the atmosphere in which the verse was revealed.
3. That even in such a situation, the permission is far more restricted than the normal practice which existed among the Arabs and other people at that time when many married as many as ten or more wives.
4. That dealing justly with one’s wives is an obligation. This applies to housing, food, clothing, kind treatment..etc., for which the husband is fully responsible. If one is not sure of being able to deal justly with them, the Quran say: “then(marry) only one.” (Qur’an 4:3)

This verse, when combined with another verse in the same chapter, shows some discouragement of such plural marriages. The other verse plainly states:

“You are never able to be fair and just as between women even if it is your ardent desire…” (Qur’an 4: 129)

The requirement of justice rules out the fantasy that man can “own as any as he pleases.” It also rules out the concept of “secondary wife,” for all wives have exactly the same status and are entitled to identical rights and claims over their husband. It also implies, according to the Islamic Law, that should the husband fail to provide enough support for any of his wives, she can go to the court and ask for a divorce.

3. The verse says “Marry,” not kidnap, buy, or seduce. What is “marriage” as understood in Islam? Marriage in Islam is a civil contract which is not valid unless both contracting parties consent to it. Thus no wife can be forced or “given” to a husband who is already married.

I is thus a free choice of both parties. As to the first wife:

1. She may be barren or ill and see in polygamy a better solution than divorce.
2. She may divorce him (unilaterally) if he is married to a second wife provided that the nuptial contract gives her the right of unilateral divorce (Ismah).
3. She can go to court and ask for a divorce if there is evidence of mistreatment or injustice inflicted upon her.


Hope this clear your doubts about polygamy in Islam..cheers!

P/S: btw, this is my first post in lowyat forum! nice meeting y'all~

i think she and her husband should start roleplaying. she can be a french maid and he can be her employer.

Lol all talking about you instead the letter.

Back to topic
Guys no fxxx = no life

This post has been edited by dragynraken: Jun 6 2010, 11:38 AM

i am sure ur husband ald started affair.
or visiting pros den for sure.

agree..too mad for this

is better that you gave him an option rather than he does it without your knowledge. a man will always be man in my take...

I voted no, because no matter what he should remain loyal to you. In a relationship is about giving and taking am i right? So maybe once in a while you have sex with him for him. And once in a while you don't. But you have to tell your husband about this. It is just as simple as that.

You should take sex as something that brings both of you closer, it's a couple's intimate moment.

even some monk faps in the toilet.

source pls.

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Added on June 19, 2010, 3:23 ami duwan those priest in the west. Gimme real monks stories.

This post has been edited by BlurSotong: Jun 19 2010, 03:23 AM

ask the husband to go to sex counseling cos he cannot satisfy the wife

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i'm very convinced that she never had an orgasm to be able to say sthg like this!

lol hell yea

ask him to open a new branch

shows responsibility as a man

I think the lack of sex desire of the wife could be due to her health status. Seeking help from doctor perhaps? My understanding is women with cyst or some illness could be the cause of not wanting sex.

In my opinion, driving the husband to seek for solution elsewhere is not a very wise choice, furthermore it is not religiously & morally right. I believe that the wife should be putting in effort to solve this issue. Not only for the marriage, but for the love of the husband as well.....

There are so many options and ways that can be considered to improve the situation rather than driving the husband away. By improving diet, lifestyle, exercises and seeking professional help would be wiser choice.

As a woman myself, i always believe that wives are also to responsible for their marriage change or their husband affairs. I live by the rule that despite how many children that we have, there isn't any excuse or reason for us not keeping our body fit, not looking good at our age & grow old gracefully.

There ain't ugly women in this world, but a lazy one. To be honest, i have seen so many women who couldn't been bothered with their looks & attire after childbirth & marriage. To be frank, i personally do pity their husbands and no wonder there are so many affairs in this society nowadays.

I'm not saying that women should look good for their husband, but it is more for ourselves. Loving ourselves by staying fit & healthy, i am sure the husbands would appreciate the effort as well. And don't get me wrong, i'm not saying women are to blamed when husband is having affair, i'm implicating that we could be part of the reason. Why chose to be a less attractive wife/housewife but a hot one?

Just my 2 cents and sorry no offense.

The man failed to lift her mojo/libido up. Its the man's fault too.

He can start off by complimenting her, make her feel good, confident and sexy. Giving her good sensual massages and foreplay. To women, foreplay is much more engagingly orgasmic than the intercourse itself.

This fella failed la, at arousing her.

Sarah,
It is sad to hear your story. Allowing your hubby to have a discrete affair may be fair to his sex life but not fair to your marriage. It would also not be fair to the person whom he had chosen to be his mate. Although she will not face problems from you, she will still be caught into other problems related to being the third party.

You situation reminded me of one famous Sarah. She encouraged her husband to lay with her maid. You can read about the mess the family had got into because of this decision (It is somewhere in the book of Genesis).

This post has been edited by faceless: Jul 9 2010, 03:06 PM

Since you love your husband, but you do not like sex...

then why must your husband need to have affair?! just because of sex?!

sorry... me confused liao....

gone ta bao and eat...

Your husband is trying hard for you. You think having an affair with other women can satisfy him?

What if he really wanted to have it with you only? Because he love you much?
You think its fair to him? You know its heart broken if he sees this.

hope u still reading this thread that you posted.

firstly i think is horrible what you been through. I think you dont love your husband emotionally, but you love his with your responsibility. means the kids, the home and the journey you been through. honestly the only reason we dont like sex with this person means we just dont craved for them, and we dont love them.

However if you personally dont like sex no matter what then perhaps you havent learn to love yourself yet. Other than that it could be your medical reason.

I think you have to understand yourself before saying to your husband, and telling him is ok to have an affair. If your husband say this to you ...because he doesnt like to have sex what will you feel?

Degrading...what you telling him is obviously making him feel low and degraded. And you can even share your husband with another women. If they fall in love with each other you are obviously the fool, but if you dont love him anymore then better divorce. Whats the point in sleeping in the same bed everynight with this man , but you just cant seems to love him.

Honestly i understand your problem, sometimes we all make the wrong decisions and then we are bond to suffer forever.

Good luck..just divorce if you dont want to have sex with him. No point to keep him, if you want his money and responsibilities then you just got to show him love.

women should not think that affair can save their marriage..not all guys want to have sex with other women other that their wife.

all u can do is seek a doctor with ur husband. get a consult with them. mostly malaysian are so shy to meet with doctor.

and try spice up ur sex activities. a lot things can be done.

gud luck. sex can be fun if u know how to spice it up..

i liked wat u said...

+1

''if you not cook in da house, would you let your hubby eat outside?''

Allowing your husband to have an affair because you yourself don't like sex?
It is surely a dilemma. But for once, get your head straight! If you know it's wrong, then it's wrong. Don't compromise bout it, don't hesitate about it...
Remember that marriage is a sacred union. If you do this, you are really breaking the sanctity of your union for sure. Why must everyone believe that marriage must always always always means equal to having regular sex? Why not think it IS possible to adjust to each other condition? Discipline on your mindset... don't give in to immorality of today's so-called openminded society.
Think wisely on the effect it would have especially on the children... especially teenage children! They are sensitive and still trying to grow up and learn what's right and wrong in a dilemma. Don't you think they will also be disappointed with this kind of practice? Fix the problem... don't try to ignore the problem. The problem is within the wife herself. She should communicate with her husband, and find the best and wisest decision for each other.
Asking the man to understand her condition while looking for some therapy is much more decent than simply allowing him to have an affair don't you think? It is hard but it's not impossible. The good things are usually hard to accomplish but really much worth it.

mayb ur hubby like kids so he decided to find other women make baby's wit him??

1st step - Sex affair with your husband
2nd step - Wreak your family.

your friend is right

langgan him a whore twice a month, she have to pay for it though lol. easier dat way so dat the husband dont have to fall for any1. just make sure, change the whore everytime. )

this is sad.... should seek consultation for this.

ur husband never satisfied u? u better ask ur husband to learn more about sex so that u will have enof u have sex! ask him to be a good lover in bed. try something new! buy toy! ask him to buy some stuff to ur vigina. haha. learn about anything. A spot or g spot is important toward u! lets try again the moment like afta u 1 day of marrige! haih. if u lost your interest in sex. try to take whatever pill that turn your hormones to the topppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppppp again like 1st time u were a virgin! ask ur husband just go straight forward to have sex with u. be gentlemen 1st la kan right. be soft. be romantic as possibly before u have sex! change ur mood of sex might be good. sumtime hard. sumthing slowmoo! haha. be romantical again. put flower. used oil or whatever u like to touch and to feel again the love inside both of u! be a sweet talker again. put away ur angry feeling! just think nothing more than love.. go somewhere else that ur children is not with u! never never again just straight to have sex! its boring! sex is about feeling! have u ever tried to watch porn together? action is more than a words right? haha. if this doesnt help, ask ur husband to move over other house.. his friends house, uncle or whatever . so that u can feel that u miss him again and "lost" without him. so that u will always remember every moments in ur life with him again. so please! try this to save ur married!

+1

The fact is i was in a similar situation with my ex, she doesnt enjoy much on sex. While i have tried various ways trying to arose her sexual desires, for some reason i am thinking it was her mentality that restricted herself from fully enjoying the tids and bits on making love. Cuz from out of a blue moon, she would feel arose and enjoyed it but that was like once in maybe a few months. Since i know that i am not the person to live a love life without sex, plus i am bound to find other alternatives which would most probably lead to disaster for our relationship. Decided to call the relationship off, while i still love her. For now, i would just be her closest friend giving her support which seems to be a better terms between me and her. I am not sure bout other men, but for me sex/making love with your loved ones do actually encourage intimacy and closeness for both.

have to agree on this

pity the husband

Yes, you should. Sex is so important in life, if you don't enjoy it, at least find a way to let your partner to enjoy it

ask ur closest friend to play with ur hubby...perhaps can play 3 some...
maybe ur sexual desire can come back after u see ur hubby play with other woman?

maybe ur husband can do poligamy?
huhu
sounds like u really dont mind at all
both of u might be good friends after all

owh btw, u should have known how to enjoy sex
its never too late i guess
go google D

This post has been edited by dot49_cal: Oct 4 2010, 02:53 PM

Agreed. To TS, you don't have to actually find someone else for him, just let him bang away, what's the problem? You think your hubby enjoys taking out the trash, buying gifts or accompanying you for shopping trips etc? Similarly, taking great pains in being a thoughtful lover proves that he cares and loves you very much to try and get you involved, rather than just satisfying his own desires. He does it cos he loves you; you should also make love with him cos you love him. True love is not that easy. It involves making a lot of sacrifices.

+1

my advice if u want ur husband just have sex with another person, ask him go to those 1 time pay and have sex but definitly use Condoms if not have HIV.

I'm dumbfounded with such circumstance. If it really happened that is...

Regards, Joey

I think it depends on what do you think of a marriage component... if sex is not inclusive in the marriage, whats wrong for the man to seek his comfort else where?

So I voted "YES" even though I'm a woman...

Of course, if the wife is trying hard to please the husband and he still seek for other women, then that is betrayal... unacceptable!

Don't forget that everyone grows old and looses the desire. One spouse may lost it sooner than the other. In addition, there is also the issue of health and illness that we won't know of until it comes.

In regards to pre-marital intimacy, the active partner and sex-addict you have today and married 2molo, it doesn't mean that he/she will maintain that desire after marriage. Many things could happen after marriage that causes the sex drive of one partner to be lost. It could happen next year after marriage, or after children born, years after, or after molestation, emotional attack, etc etc.

Thanks Sarah for starting this interesting discussion. I know it is not about you & your spouse. this is just a topic you posted.

U need to identify which session ur not interested..during sexual intimacy with your husband...
Foreplay...
Sexual intercourse..
Climax..

Marriage is a sacred...

Some others ways..
Phonesex with your husband...
Or hand job him...

If all ur not interested...seek advice from therapist on sexual intimacy...maybe there is something bothering internally...

Its natural , otherwise there are no such words as " sex life "

Some may find it annoying to have sex but i do not blame the males to have this desire because it is normal for them. Its because of the sexual glands they have

It is also a strategy to keep your husband intact in your relationship

sorry for harsh words, but only dumb women let her husband banging other women