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JeromeDubois
post Mar 30 2010, 09:19 PM

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Wait quietly there like the wimpy boy you are and the day will come when she dumps you. Solved.
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post Mar 31 2010, 01:08 AM

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QUOTE(Yluxion @ Mar 30 2010, 05:42 PM)
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I assume both of you are still young. From her actions, I think you're still in the courtship stage, she doesn't seems like wanna commit a relationship with you for now.

There are times 'less is more'. To win her heart back, first you have to get a better control of your emotions and yourself. Your insecurities, jealousy and desperation are spilling all over, and these are the main reasons that she insist of not seeing you.

Think about it. When people coupled, it because they're happy and enjoy to be with each other. What have you done recently? Have you gives her enough trusts? Let her feel cheerful & comfortable to be around you?

or

You're just limiting her, telling her 'this don't do that don't go' to prevent her from leaving you?
There is no quick fix right now. Sending flowers won't help either, because she already feel annoyed with you. Letting her know this gifts are from you would only triggers those annoying thoughts about you.

Listen to your friends, let this be a cooling period.
Given that you've stalked her, and know her every moves and persons she meets. What could you do after this? Confront her? Ask her this and that? Tell her to tell the truth?

Do you know what are these leading into? These are leading you into a dead end. Not to say she'll leaves you, you will end up as a freak too.
She is not the only girl you'll ever meet. Same goes for her. It's a big world out there.

The reason that those advices is to give you some self worth and dignity. Have some respects for yourself. Let her know that you're strong, fine and able to get other girls if she decides not to be with you.
I was once like you too when I was young. Inexperience and naive.  biggrin.gif

Just take some time off. Breath some fresh air.

After like 2 weeks time, send her a weird/funny joke. See how things go from there.
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thanks alot man ! ur words enlighten me...
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post Mar 31 2010, 01:47 AM

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you cant really be helped much at your current situation, waiting is the way , once in a while text her , show her some cares when texting her, if she has changed her mind from ignorant back to responsive like how you two were previously, good for you then
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QUOTE(StarNet @ Mar 30 2010, 12:49 AM)
i was dating wif a gal that has been developing well for around 2 months+ dy...

until recently she keep mention to me that she's going out to hav a drink wif her frens... (mostly is guy) and those guys are known to hav feel to her... actually im ok with whoever she wanted to go out with... but everytime she'll go till very late and she need to wake up early in the morning (6.30a.m) to get prepare... when she's with her fren she dont like me to bother her! eg; sms or calls...

things continue to happen until 1 day i cant stand of it and im telling her that i am abit angry while we're on the fone...

the next day she's telling me that she was in bad mood and asking me not to bother her ! ok... then things became worst as she's starting to feel feedup by ignoring my calls and sms !!! i told her we need a talk ... she was not willing to do it and instead telling my frens that she NEEDS TIME to calm down.

at first i thought nth serious as she told my fren she wanted some time,space, and privacy... she felt that i locked her too much sad.gif  i cant get any chance to talk to her now ... i've try to send her msg... but she get annoyed and telling me not to msg her anymore during this period ... she told me that she juz need some time... what is that??? what's the meaning of this ? should i wait ?
im feeling depressing now... what can i do to win her heart back ?
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hmm..the difficult part is..when she come back to u, do u accept her back? while u dont know what she has done b4..during the 'time' that u give her..btw how long the 'time' she want? 1,2 or 3 month or even 1 year..everything can happen during the 'time'..hmmm
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post Apr 2 2010, 04:08 PM

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2 months and she play prima donna. i say fark it.
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post Apr 2 2010, 07:05 PM

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post Apr 3 2010, 04:58 PM

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post Apr 3 2010, 07:48 PM

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bro just move on n there is more fishy out there...
only 2 month bro , is still like in probational only..
If 3 years is different compare to 2 month
i did wat u did to find out wat's wrong but is all useless..

so bro just close up ur heart for her n move on..tht the best way to forget her..
there is more better girl out there..

take care bro..
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post Apr 3 2010, 07:59 PM

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QUOTE(StarNet @ Mar 30 2010, 12:49 AM)
i was dating wif a gal that has been developing well for around 2 months+ dy...

until recently she keep mention to me that she's going out to hav a drink wif her frens... (mostly is guy) and those guys are known to hav feel to her... actually im ok with whoever she wanted to go out with... but everytime she'll go till very late and she need to wake up early in the morning (6.30a.m) to get prepare... when she's with her fren she dont like me to bother her! eg; sms or calls...

things continue to happen until 1 day i cant stand of it and im telling her that i am abit angry while we're on the fone...

the next day she's telling me that she was in bad mood and asking me not to bother her ! ok... then things became worst as she's starting to feel feedup by ignoring my calls and sms !!! i told her we need a talk ... she was not willing to do it and instead telling my frens that she NEEDS TIME to calm down.

at first i thought nth serious as she told my fren she wanted some time,space, and privacy... she felt that i locked her too much sad.gif  i cant get any chance to talk to her now ... i've try to send her msg... but she get annoyed and telling me not to msg her anymore during this period ... she told me that she juz need some time... what is that??? what's the meaning of this ? should i wait ?
im feeling depressing now... what can i do to win her heart back ?
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I was once like you. but I had dated her for 2 years, it was a LDR. She complained that I have controlled her too much. things went sour in the 3rd year and we ended up leaving each other for good. btw,I dont think its right for the girl to go out with guys so often because she should care about your feeling right?
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post Apr 4 2010, 03:54 AM

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Aiyo you just do whatever she does as well la. She go out with guys, you go out with girls. What is so hard?
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post Apr 4 2010, 12:56 PM

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Man, just give her time to be alone. She needs it. She is just angry with you. That's all.

If she loves you, she will texts/calls you back after that.
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post Apr 8 2010, 11:42 AM

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you should let her taste her own medicine.. smile.gif serious.. if she does it to you.. you should let her feel the same.. go out socialize.. get to know more friends.. if she really loves you, she'll start bugging you.. if not.. then you know what to do from there.. smile.gif (just my 2 cents)
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post Apr 11 2010, 11:34 AM

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QUOTE(Daughter of Satan @ Apr 4 2010, 01:56 PM)
Man, just give her time to be alone. She needs it. She is just angry with you. That's all.

If she loves you, she will texts/calls you back after that.
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sorry for disappearing for the past few days... yeah~ she had broken up with me on April FooL~ even tho now i sms her for early bday greet... she's ignoring it... good~ time to stand up and move on~ thanks alot guys ! i appreciate all ur comment here !

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