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post Mar 30 2010, 12:49 AM, updated 16y ago

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i was dating wif a gal that has been developing well for around 2 months+ dy...

until recently she keep mention to me that she's going out to hav a drink wif her frens... (mostly is guy) and those guys are known to hav feel to her... actually im ok with whoever she wanted to go out with... but everytime she'll go till very late and she need to wake up early in the morning (6.30a.m) to get prepare... when she's with her fren she dont like me to bother her! eg; sms or calls...

things continue to happen until 1 day i cant stand of it and im telling her that i am abit angry while we're on the fone...

the next day she's telling me that she was in bad mood and asking me not to bother her ! ok... then things became worst as she's starting to feel feedup by ignoring my calls and sms !!! i told her we need a talk ... she was not willing to do it and instead telling my frens that she NEEDS TIME to calm down.

at first i thought nth serious as she told my fren she wanted some time,space, and privacy... she felt that i locked her too much sad.gif i cant get any chance to talk to her now ... i've try to send her msg... but she get annoyed and telling me not to msg her anymore during this period ... she told me that she juz need some time... what is that??? what's the meaning of this ? should i wait ?


im feeling depressing now... what can i do to win her heart back ?

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post Mar 30 2010, 01:18 AM

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btw i've juz place an order for flowers... will sent to her office tml...

if she stil cant feel anything of it... i dunno what else can i do...

i am really like her...

my fren advised me not to call or sms her oledi by now... wait her to call back .. sad.gif he said when gals dun bother u means she really wont bother u ...

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post Mar 30 2010, 08:05 AM

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QUOTE(xxcha0sworldxx @ Mar 30 2010, 02:55 AM)
say easier than done... sometimes, it is just too hard to dump someone u

really love... u will suffer even dun talk to her for like 24 hours... sad.gif  sad.gif
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this is what im suffering now... im am willing to wait becos i love her very much... sad.gif what can i do ? wait for another week and see how ?

i have another solution... that is to secretly spy her after work... see who she's going out wif and what she did... my heart juz can't calm down.. although she told me she treat them as frens only... but my heart juz cant take it when she going out wif them oftenly...

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post Mar 30 2010, 08:14 AM

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well.... alots of ppl gave me different advice... most asked me to put this relationship a side and look for the others... some asked me to continue to wait and said she'll find me back when she's ok and asked me dun msg or calls as this will worsen the things...

well i hate waiting seriously.. the waiting period were damn sucks and suffer...
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post Mar 30 2010, 08:27 AM

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well... i think that she's stil hav feel wif me cos she's telling my fren tat she only needs time, not breakup...
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post Mar 30 2010, 08:38 AM

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well... she's been telling me that she aso needs time to go out wif her frens... i aso knw that i locked her too much but this is very normal becos all new relationship wil face this right...

we juz need a talk... things cant really go well on fone..
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post Mar 31 2010, 01:08 AM

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QUOTE(Yluxion @ Mar 30 2010, 05:42 PM)
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I assume both of you are still young. From her actions, I think you're still in the courtship stage, she doesn't seems like wanna commit a relationship with you for now.

There are times 'less is more'. To win her heart back, first you have to get a better control of your emotions and yourself. Your insecurities, jealousy and desperation are spilling all over, and these are the main reasons that she insist of not seeing you.

Think about it. When people coupled, it because they're happy and enjoy to be with each other. What have you done recently? Have you gives her enough trusts? Let her feel cheerful & comfortable to be around you?

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You're just limiting her, telling her 'this don't do that don't go' to prevent her from leaving you?
There is no quick fix right now. Sending flowers won't help either, because she already feel annoyed with you. Letting her know this gifts are from you would only triggers those annoying thoughts about you.

Listen to your friends, let this be a cooling period.
Given that you've stalked her, and know her every moves and persons she meets. What could you do after this? Confront her? Ask her this and that? Tell her to tell the truth?

Do you know what are these leading into? These are leading you into a dead end. Not to say she'll leaves you, you will end up as a freak too.
She is not the only girl you'll ever meet. Same goes for her. It's a big world out there.

The reason that those advices is to give you some self worth and dignity. Have some respects for yourself. Let her know that you're strong, fine and able to get other girls if she decides not to be with you.
I was once like you too when I was young. Inexperience and naive.  biggrin.gif

Just take some time off. Breath some fresh air.

After like 2 weeks time, send her a weird/funny joke. See how things go from there.
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thanks alot man ! ur words enlighten me...
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post Apr 11 2010, 11:34 AM

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QUOTE(Daughter of Satan @ Apr 4 2010, 01:56 PM)
Man, just give her time to be alone. She needs it. She is just angry with you. That's all.

If she loves you, she will texts/calls you back after that.
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sorry for disappearing for the past few days... yeah~ she had broken up with me on April FooL~ even tho now i sms her for early bday greet... she's ignoring it... good~ time to stand up and move on~ thanks alot guys ! i appreciate all ur comment here !

 

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