Hoho nice~! Hmm... I'll try. ><
Thanks a lot. I suck at all these rs stuffs. zzz...

did that and she still comes on to me

so whats next?

This post has been edited by Disciple: Sep 14 2011, 09:17 AM

To TS,

very good thread and on how you should let a girl know you're interested in her, but believe it or not, I already did ALL the things you mentioned before I even read this thread and it has been alright but the reality of between me and her is that...well... she doesn't date fat guys. I would explain more when I have the time.

This post has been edited by erald06: Sep 15 2011, 03:49 PM

cool dude

Hey guys,

Had read up and do all 5 steps but unfortunately at that time I confessed to her and it turn out badly and it took me almost a year to bring back the coldness after the narrow line that has been built after the confession (failed big time) as at that time she said that she is not ready for commitment and also she is chasing for another guys.

So 2 years has gone and we still friend and I would like to try it again as I’m still interested in her, will do all the 5 step again but in very slow mood to avoid any unforeseen circumstances.

My questions are:

To show that I’m always thinking of her, should I gave to her a bouquet as I will be on outstation for couple of weeks starting next week and planning to get it delivered to her office, is it ok?

Should I wait for the response after give the flower to her? Since she like flowers very much

Is it okay, if I’m occasionally texting her e.g., wish her good morning and stuff

We already planned and had bought ticket to watch live performance (musical) with couple of friends, so should I send the flower already I’m afraid of the she will bail out, fyi she already knew that I like her (referring to the previous event of `confession' which I regret it now

Thanks

No. Only boyfriends do this.

Not a very good idea. She may find it annoying.

Just ask her out. Not in a big group. Ask her out on a date.

I only have the chance to ask her out after I get back from my outstation which is the date for the theater is just after that, so should I ask her out after the theater?

It seems that the response pertaining to the flower ( i have done it before for her birthday) is okay, so still? I can't continue do this to show her that I'm always thinking of her?

cool thread TS

this is exactly what i did and yes it went smoothly, though in some relationships it worked differently, i tried things which don't go exactly step 1-4 before went to step 5; like I did step 1-2, then step 5, after that step 3-4, and yes i even tried with step 5 first, and did all step 1-4. yea it's just case by case basis I believe, but one thing I truly agree with TS is there is no need of confessing *no matter whether you go for a western or asian preference girl* a simple yet meaningful kiss is just the way you two state you are willing to go further together.

yup unfortunately you already confessed. but it's okay, i think you can occasionally texting her, tried some simple stuff (eg good morning and stuff), and tried more deep stuff, maybe you can ask her friend what she is up to, says good luck for any task/congrats for achievement she has just made, yes you can send flower when you're outstation, don't overdo anyway, just do enough and wait I suppose, you've done enough, don't show you're desperately trying. i think if you overdo, if you can get together at last with her but it won't go well.

well i did experience this before, that confessing and that coldness in the beginning and it took 1 year when she finally "say yes". so there is no game over for your case for now, as I said earlier it's really case by case basis, it's you who know exact conditions between both of you.

Thanks for the encouragement and extra insight, I still think that I have the chance just maybe in slow phase or fast, anyhow as I'm still thinking of giving her the flower as some of my friend also said that if you willing to take the risk so might as well willing to take any consequences that might happen. Thus, TS also object the sending of flower and also texting that I think might give her the wrong message that maybe I'm desperate, who knows?

Now I'm have a mix-feeling of it

Still advise against it (if only because of my own personal experience - I did the same for my then-girlfriend, but only to appease her after an argument ). Another reason is that you've already done it once, the second time will only be less impressive.

The thing is, you've already confessed. Even if it was 2 years ago, she will still remember it, and it'll be on her mind when she's with you or talks to you. You are past the stage where you need to find ways to show her you like her (so by rights you should be starting a new thread, this one is no longer relevant to your situation). Your stage right now is to tackle her and make her fall for you, and the only way to do that is to spend time with her and turn on your charm. SMSing her every morning only works in the "I want to show her I like her" and the "I'm already her boyfriend" stages.

That's a pretty good 5 step post from TS. This the thing, I studied abroad during my teenage years and returned back to Msia for Uni and I hear this "confess" thing and this "propose" thing and bullsh*t no wonder its hard for ppl here to hook up.

Hooking up is actually really simple, its about making the other person feel comfortable...like TSs post. Instead, this "confess" and "Propose" shit just makes the girl feel like screaming and running away...

Did all the 5s and been getting positive response. But we kinda got on too close that now she always call me brother (gor gor to be exact) instead

So is that a method that's she telling me she only treat me as bro?

We still go out 1 on 1 quite often (at least once a week), text/email/chat everyday.

Since confess are for losers, how do i step out of this zone then?

Take her out on a romantic date. Candlelight dinner, dress up fancy, order expensive wine. The kind of date that gor gor will not do with mui mui.

Also, do more of no. 4.

just ask her. If you were given a chance, would you be my lover or siblinga ?tell me why ? If she replied siblings, you got to reconider. If she answer lover, give her a smile and tell her, you think of the same way .

Hahha..at least he get the answer..but I guess this method shouldn't be pratise in this thread..haha..on a serious note, give her some hint that you want her as lover,not as mui mui..

It shouldn't be practised ever. The whole point of THE FIVE is to show, not ask. It is also to be honest with yourself and with her, instead of telling her blatant lies such as "I also think of you as a sibling."

This post has been edited by n00b13: Sep 27 2011, 08:13 PM

man, this thread should get pinned.. you da man, n00b13...

how to know whether the sign that emit out from the girl after repeatedly the 5 way, is that she treated the guy as a best fren or the other way?

There's this guy going after me recently, but he is taking so long time for the 1st stop then only proceeded to 2nd step. My friends even hint him what to do but he's still so so low. I was about to give him chance but end up I now feeling so disgust.

So I'm now avoiding him when he always asked me out for movie or meals, I feel so bad. But I better hurt him now than hurting him after we together and find out we are not meant to be

This post has been edited by yinyum: Oct 3 2011, 10:59 AM