i was told that this virus can even spread when u use public toilet bowl. Not sure if this is correct.

Hi, I have read through all the posts. I'm still don't understand. She has a result of negative but why she still get the symptom of herpes?

I'm not a doctor so what I can do here is just to pass you the same information the gynaecologist told us. One of the possibilities were due to my partner's weak health, which delayed the HSV1 antibody in her body. Another possibility was that perhaps what she contracted down there was not HSV1 but something else. The tests that we can do were pretty limited & it's not like they can take your blood sample & put it into some machines which will tell you all the type of virus / bacteria they found inside. We had to determine what kind of virus we want to test on & we'll get the result based on the selections we made. Mind you, it's not cheap to get these tests done.

read the 1st page :

when she ask "why why why"

Did she ever considered that YOU might be the unloyal one instead
As in , she is feeling negative because

1. it happened to her
2. it was you perhaps
3. she might have been unfaithful
4. you might have been unfaithful
5. food sharing/ oral sex (who's to blame)

or feeling sad that u might b the blame, or the culprit, or the unloyal, unfaithful?

im not saying you are, but might be good to know her feelings on it

This post has been edited by Jcsy: Oct 9 2011, 11:11 PM

Thanks for bringing that up, though I must admit that you got me re-reading the first page all over again.

On the question of her suspecting me as being disloyal, I think that has never cropped up. Things have been going pretty OK for us so far & based on the small talks we had from time to time, it was the pain that caused her to go ballistic on me, not any weird fantasies of me doing wild things with some random girls.

Based on the last test she did, her HSV1 antibody-count was still 0, so it's either her body somehow refused to produce the HSV1 antibody or it was not a HSV at all in the first place. I'm leaning to the latter though due to the fact that a few months ago, I stayed over at her rented house for a night & my glans had red dots all over it 2 days later, which went away after a week. We didn't do anything during the overnight so I suspect that the culprit was most probably her rented house's bad water supply quality. Still, I don't think there's any point to shift the blame to the tap now & all I can do is to pray that the ulcers don't come back.

to let her sore go off faster i recommend taking Valtrex a drug for herpes. btw there is an article i read before saying that , the gf have herpes HSV1 and then had oral with the bf and the bf gets herpes too which soon developed as sores at private parts and then transfer back to the gf when having sex.

ur situation would be similar

u have cold sore and u kiss ur gf and she gets it or u have cold sore and u lick her
also high chance getting it

HSV 1 can appear on gential or mouth too

The amino acid Lysine helps to control herpes.

Valtrex eh? I'll keep that in mind, though I prefer her not to take any medication that might not be related to what she's suffering from. For all we know, it could be HSV or something else.

Touching on the article that you mentioned, I'm very glad that you actually got to read it. It's good to know that some publishers made an effort in bringing awareness on how the HSV can be spread. I was totally clueless about it prior to starting this thread & had to learn it the hard way by consulting the various forum members here.

Noted with thanks!

come on how come u can have oral and yet to have proper $ex...i cant brain this unless 1 of u is lying...

What The!!!!
please make sure this is not true

I'm not sure if you're trolling, especially with the kopitiam'ish phrases like $ex & brain. To give you the benefit of doubt, it was part of our plan to save the last base for our wedding night. We're each another's first partner & we just want the relationship to remain that way until we're totally ready to face possible scenarios such as unplanned pregnancy. Alas, HSV infection via oral was never in 1 of the scenarios we were prepared for.

Technically it could happen, especially if there was contact between the ulcer's pus & the toilet seat. Just being honest here.