I wanna ask, I seems to have an interest on my friend who I knew her since back in secondary. But we haven't been in touch lately cos I am studying abroad where she is still in my hometown. Now I am graduate and she is as well. We chat online and I felt that I should try to approach her.. I have feeling on her since secondary school but its just a feeling, I wanted to try tis time. Any advice?

If ask her out, 1 on 1 or with some other friends? Cos we don't really have the same group of friend at the moment.. they all still studying outside.. better be slow and steady right? Thanks for the advice just don't know how to initiate ><

Yeah.. chat online but I scare it will be like too fast to ask her out for a movie or even a drink.. if 1 on 1... it's true that girl enjoy the feelings of being chased.. but only if she have the some feelings for the Guy la.. thanks ya.. maybe I can try what you said but what if she rejected? Is it a sign that she is telling me both of us is impossible? Or she might be Abit conservative? Tho we are classmate but we aren't very close back then..

This post has been edited by ben3003: Nov 25 2011, 12:10 AM

Ya i keep reading ur "FIVE" It is a great guide, last time i started a courting with confession before reading yours, and it is dead hard to get my ex, because she already confirm that you like her, and it is very hard to eliminate the "awkwardness" and she will be holding be something. Your approach is much more better, and easier.

Ok thanks for da advice. i guess i will try to ask her out for something else that we can really talk and share opinions and so on, it have been a long time since i met her, like nearly 2 years..

i heard from another girl that say usually girls prefer to have a chat online instead of meeting up if like she and the guy is not close enough, which is why i am hesitate to ask her out for anything. But my friend told me to just go ahead and try. I only scare the timing is not right, cos i think she just broke up few weeks ago..

ah, i tried to ask her out but she din reply me, that;s the worst case scenario. It is better to have her reject than to stay silent...

I SMS her, so should I send another? Because I really need to plan for themeet up..

Din call her before, I send another thru.. but still no reply, hard to chat with her also... now I don't even know what is the situation.. how can I pretend I didn't ask her and still find her chat as if nothing happened lol.. I think that she seems to be immature in handling this, it is as easy as yes or no..

she seldom online, i think she is avoiding me. I think i have to give up first, i didnt think that she is so immature when it comes to this. I invite her to yam cha as a friend only.. i didnt make it big or watsoever. Not the girl that i would want to have as a partner..

I dunno how to say la, not an ideal girl la haha.. But she did replied me, she said she got things to do tomorrow early morning so she did not plan to go out tonight la.. i did ask her like why took her so long to reply, she said that she was thinking about it like tat.. i dont buy the "tomorrow early morning so she did not plan to go out tonight" reason la.. just be gentlemen abit and tell her next time like tat lo..

Oh, i same class with her last time, and she sitting next to me but the table not sticking together lah.. but we seldom talk also, cos most of the time i am not in the class lol.. too busy with co-curricular Same course that means got things to talk ma.. start with how's life then about course de lo.. don need everyday find her to talk la.. that's what i am doing..

i think they will, just don purposely go text her while u might have nothing to talk about later on lol.. just don purposely la.. do it naturally, and it will come flowing if they did not reply, don send few more msg to annoy them as well.. unless it is an urgent matter that you need her reply la.. Tis is what i've learn from my past experience, my ex did said that time she chose me was because that she felt comfortable to be around with me, as i didnt really stick her so much. And also, she told me also when she didnt reply, i did not ask her again, and she felt there is no pressure from me, so it is good la. But in the end cannot make it cos she is not prepared for long distance relationship, mutually agreed la.

because maybe u did not gain enough attention la.. u need to learn how to control... sometimes friend is like tat la... you are not her's who, she doesnt really need to care about you la.. unless she have interest on you.. but you can keep it up la.. until 1 day she is interested in you, then you success lo.. SUmmore you say u two chat for few weeks only... impossible she will feel that without text/chat, she will feel uneasy la.. impossible so fast la.. now already grown up.. not like secondary school kids

so so lol.. not easy, bro, not easy at all >< Well, still didnt managed to ask her out yet.. i am starting to show that i am interested, but not in a very serious way la.. just msg her some caring and something to make her smile..

How do u guys actually can get to interact with a girl tat is someone u don meet without a purpose or business?

u are too lovesick, u need to get a life. use ur mind, not ur bottom part to think then everything will be more rational.

In other words, dont let ur balls do the talking, let ur brain do the talking. Let ur this crush feeling go down abit while u maintain contact with her using ur brain to do the talking, not emotion then u think u really like her then go for it. Feeling is a kind of deception, it can goes off anytime, if a relationship is based of how i feel about u, it can collapse anytime. So take it slowly, she likes u, good. Maintain interaction.

This post has been edited by ben3003: Feb 23 2013, 09:16 PM

if u are not being emo then wat the fuk u post here? Why u now feel like tat? u suppress ur emotion is not u being emotion, u talk using brain doesnt mean u no emo. Please, this is cupid corner, we already told u wat, u dont come here to whine like a p**sy like how ppl did in kopitiam thread. U can whine there, kopitiam corner owes open big door for u. Here is for constructive discussion only.