Hi,
I've joined recently in to this forum.I have a problem which I am unable to solve by myself.I have fallen in love with a guy an year ago.And the guy also liked me at the time.He was a frnd of mine.We were very close at that time.And I don't know whether it was attraction or love I liked him very much.But after some time he said that we don't have any future so I should forget him.He used to talk to me regularly in a private and in public he used maintain that I am not close to him.Then later Ive got to know that he was just attracted to me and it was not love.But I genuinely loved him and I am still unable to forget him.And he said that because of me could not get close to any girls.Although he moved on in his life and hanging out with other people esp girls.I felt cheated and I was very depressed. It was the first time I ever loved any person,and he cheated on me.My whole life was completely shattered.
So now,I lost trust in love.If any guy is interested also I am not getting any feelings towards them although they are good.I am unable to move on although the previous guy completely ignores me.My self-esteem also got lowered because of this incident.I keep on think what went wrong if i did any thing wrong.Eventhough except this guy everybody likes me and they like to talk to me.Please help me.I dont know why I am unable to move on.Please do suggest some thing.Your help in this is highly appreciated.

First.. what did he cheat u.............

U love him doesnt mean he love u.........

U just fall in love with wrong guy only............

It fine u lost trust in loves but u cannot accept other guy becoz ur love toward him havent die yet..................

You can definitely find love again, don't let one guy's non-attention let you down on guys everywhere. It's easy to be disappointed & hang on to your old feelings but it's much better though hard to let them go & start anew.

He didn't cheat on you 'legally' although he did maybe unawarely tinker with your feelings. Although it sounds like he didn't mean to. Boys tend not to get too much into feelings but girls do, so I understand! The trick is to get your head over your heart (logic over feelings) and choose not to get so depressed.

Chin up, girl! Hugs.

dun blame guy if u love them but they don't....

and there are many thing that u not mention to clear up the situation. for examples..

his age..
his hobby... and anything that might help.

usually, guy will start to bored if gals are controlling their life, and guy usually know the meaning of love and marriage after they exceed 25 years old...before that..it hard to find guy that fully matured. I hope this helps

cheer up gal.. try to forget him by hanging out with more frens...

slowly u sure will forget him, he is not worth for u to sad about..

there a alot of guys out there..

i have been in this kind of situation before, i love a guy who dun like me.. but he always flirt with me..

but now he already not in this world.. i jus can miss him..

i didn't regret that i love him before.. at least i tried and i have let him know..

we become good friend but he always got gf around so i cannot get closer..

till now, i still cannot forget him.. he already pass away 2 years..

god bless..

Thank you very much guys.Sorry that I wasnt clear abt the query earlier.Intially I was just treated him as a frnd.One time he was going thrugh avery rough period,he proposed 2 girls and they rejected him.And he was having low self esteem and totally isolated himself from the rest of the world.As a frnd I helped him to come out the situation.He used depend alot on me and used to appear wherever I go.Eventhough I used tell him that its not good.In that process I was totally concentrated on him,If i dont he used to fight with me.I didnt want to hurt him so I stayed away fom all of my frnds and career and helped him to get out of the situation.And he recovered and he became succesful than before in his life.And he proposed me also,and said that he loves me alot.
Then later some time when new people came in his life he started igonoring me.And he said he cannot marry me.Even later also he used to have same feelings towards me.So I couldnt forget him.After some months he started pointing negavtive in everything abt me and used scream on me...and used to say that he is just trying to help me.I never controlled his life.If I do he wouldnt have so many frnds and career now he has.Thats y I suffered alot with low self esteem.But when I loved him I totally forgot abt everything myself.This bad experience in my life had a very negative impact on me.If a guy likes me I stay away from them,to avoid same situation.I dont know how to move on.Thank u ...and waiting 4 replies

By the way, what is the relationship between u and him?

He said he love you but then he said he cannot marry u?

Is kinda confusing guy..

Dun really get it.

Why sacrifice so much for a "friend"?

Thank u for the replies.Yes he said that he loved me and want to marry me.But after some time he used say that it is not feasible because his family didnt approve this.But even then also he used behave the same way as before when we were together before happening all these.Only now Ive realised that he jumps from one relationship to the other without knowing the importance how it might impact others.And I feel that I was just a tool in that process...Thanks guys for all of ur support and listening to my problem.I hope some body gives the solution.

Go and watch Ghost Whisperer. You will learns the way to move on.