As a modern girl who chases after big ambitions and aspirations, we find it increasingly harder to look for suitable soul mates to spend the rest of our lives with. A typical modern KL girl usually finds dating hard, when out of 10 guys:
- 4 would be intimidated of a woman's career success.
- 3 would be playboys only out looking for sex and one night stands.
- 2 would totally fail at taking care of the woman's needs.

And only 1 out of 10 guys may match well with the woman and have each other's needs fulfilled. He's not intimidated by her success and independence, and ready to commit and spend the rest of his life with this woman.

I wonder how do you girls cope with this situation? And what do guys think of this? And I would say, for those girls who have found that loving '1 out of 10' guy, you gotta feel really lucky.

This post has been edited by ace.princess: Nov 2 2008, 01:52 AM

1st, where did you get those stats from?

find guys outside of KL. KL is a corrupted place.

Define "Good" guy..... Dun be so pessimistic lar sister

"Good" guys is subjective, and depending on commitment and interest...

nowadays so hard to find good gal ....
gal only look at $$$$$$$$$$$$$$

Easy answer : because good guys, of course, all got TAKEN early already, left all the rotten goods only!!!

i thought 10 out of 10 is this problem.
haha

i lol on this. great statement man.

it is very hard to get success in both relationship & career (for woman).
u can either "grab a bear palm or fish" , u can't have both.

face problem good luck finding

This post has been edited by Frostlord: Nov 2 2008, 02:11 AM

This is because all these requirements you post take a back seat to your emotions. Guys that fit your "requirements" lack in the "feeling" department, and vice versa. Its not a problem with girls only, guys face the same problem looking for good girls.

( if the same career field.....absolutely. msian men developed inferiority complex cause women and society demands them to be the infinitely better than of what they are now----some got fed up with this and danced off to the sub-cultures, where's it all free loving.)


(why blame them when they are not ready to settle in? Your point applies to both sexes.)


(nothing to add. your needs should be respected as much as the next girl. Sometimes its hard to find the right one...but that's the way it is. Too good at this for the dates, and your asking whether hes really genuine? in between, and you think you can find someone better, )

persistance = success for this scenario. If it doesn't work, cast a bigger net with smaller holes. who knows, that small fish might be that precious endangered one.

its your filter. we filter gals too. sometimes ppl like u are caught in it, PREMATURELY perhaps??

This post has been edited by Redhunt: Nov 2 2008, 02:17 AM

I totally agree with this statement. Happiness is not impossible, sometimes it just takes a little more persistence, trials, and luck. And when you finally do find happiness, do your very best to appreciate them.

Spoken from own personal experience.

it all boils down where u find ur man, i think gals this day invest to much time loving so hard a man rather than getting to know what trouble they r gettin into.

I am not saying loving a person is bad, but i feel that gals literally saying, jump into the whole thing as though they r sure they got a guy whose Good Guy & husband worthy material.

instead they got a piece of ply wood.

This post has been edited by aurora97: Nov 2 2008, 02:28 AM

why cant i find a girl that will pay the bills instead?

why can't i find a girl that will just stop whining about everything instead of appreciate what they have?

tak suka, go find ang moh la.

i need a whose whose more successful & pay bills.. n i can sit in sofa everyday watch tv and provide life's daily pleasure to my woman...!

After got children than my turn to work

So,are you the type of girl who is still adamant that the guy must ; Approach the girl,be good looking,make a conversation,ask for a date,confess feelings,be rich,pay for everything etc etc?

Coz if you are,stop complaining and put yourself in the guys shoes.
If you're not,then you're lying because you'll be able to find a good guy easily.

for the
2 guys that would totally fail at taking care of the woman's needs, what do u mean by that? if there's something that u can change, n the guy is willing to change n improve for u then why not. take a guy who's willing to change for you..rather than a good guy who will not change for u.

yeah ! Totally agree to that. You all complaning about cannot find a good guy in the ending, but you all did choose that guy to become your bf. Those gud guy outside can jz comment " y that girl will choose such a guy" ... and dissapointed ~ bt cannot say more bcoz anyhow, we mz respect the girl's choice, right ??
But what is the main thing is see how the person attitude towards relationship matter.