aiyo TS, wat lar u did to ur ex until she resorts to this. Either ways, im from Kota Kemuning too, very dead area, dunno why i shift here. sigh

this seems to be an emotional issue rather than legal.. if u can fix her emotions then the problem will automatically fix itself.

well, i din manage to fix her emotion therefore my last resort is to use the legal way..

anyway, she promised to sign it this / next week (my lawyer be the middle man) so hopefully everything will come to the end...

wow... this is really dramatic. how's everything?

the story actually continued until very recently when it's finally done.

hopefully this story could be a lesson to u guys and anyone wif similar problem can get advice from me..

Lesson :
1) Always sign a prenuptial agreement before marriage in the first place.
2) Use either one partners name

It's always easy to dispense advise but if you are in such situation at that time, it may be diferent. At that time, you are so in love and you thought you will be forever, so emotional wise you have sealed it. If don't put her name, perhaps there's an element of distrust.

At the end of the day...it's hard lah...

So what happened at last? U take over her part of the loan too? If me, I will let the bank lelong the house. I may get burned, but so does she.

wow.. A+ problem.. hehe.. but i wish to know the different route of the story if she rejected all the offers.

ermm.. maybe in other threads.. )

The last resort to solve this if you want the house:

1) Make the bank lelong the house. (but your record will be bad for one two years)
2) Your family go and bid the house with the market price.
3) Two possiblities:
- You gf goes and bid the house at higher price, she own the house
- You win the bid, you get the whole house and continue to serve the loan
4) Both ways you are in better condition.

But don't do this until you have no more choice..

the story din stop there... i forgot about this thread completely so din update it..

she din wan my 'throw-pot' fees, she never tot i could actually manage to come out with the money that she requested earlier..

i think all she wans is to give me a hard time, so she started to use different method to harass me... lock my gate, make 'false' police reports, scream in front of my house etc etc... phheww..

went thru lots of hell, eventually manage to found a solution. lucky me i found a good and helpful lawyer to bring this case to court. then she decided to quit and settle the matter outside the court. took the money, sign the paper and leave me alone.

now that's A++ story...

Perhaps she felt hurt when you "throw port". And the relationship problem is rather complex to say who is wrong. But rule of thumb, whoever move out first is wrong. relationship is never a contractual thing, once gone it is gone, no use to hold the house.

That's why people always say don't do partnership in business with relatives. And now don't put property name with two persons' name.

I think Hong Kong even has a rule that if the people can take back diamond ring etc from previous gf, whatever...

Wow, ur ex gf is pretty scary! Make life so difficult, refused to service loan, refused to sell... finally comes to an end.

My bf and I are buying our first investment property, will draw out a prenuptial agreement, in case one perty defaults, or either party breaks up, whichever party (that calls the shoot to break up) must reimburse back the other party all the legal cost + selling price and to bear the cost of transfer, or subject to agreement of both parties, to sell at the market price and profit to be equally distributed.

hi chess gal it's good that both of u drew out a prenuptial agreement prior to buying a property together.

but IMHO, to ask for whichever party "that calls the shoot to break up" is pretty subjective. What IF u found ur bf cheat behind ur back and u have to call the shots to break up and then u hav to pay everything?? <-- no offence arrr, juz to create a scenario only

things can get VERY VERY messy if not executed properly..

True, agree with you star scream.

Perhaps to sell to whoever party that wishes to buy. Anyways, we jointly agree to buy as both refuses to put in too much of initial capital into the property and plan to buy another property next year, so saving the liquid cash for our next hunt.

Hope all is well for you at the end star scream.

I'm no lawyer, but I've read of cases where judges declare pre-nups null and void.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prenuptial_agreement

Why don't you buy one property and let your bf buy the other one? It'll be far less messy.

Quite an evenful story... glad to hear its finally over for you..

It is not surprise to hear such incident.. I have 3 couple friends who bought prop with joint name, and all these 3 pairs eventually got broke-up.. 2 pairs got their props settled, 1 more still hanging unsettled.

I even nearly joint name with my elder sister to get a RM700k house. My mum was very delighted because we finally can move to a new place.. But we just couldn't come to an agreement if either party wants to pull out and pay either party, thus we decided to call it off..

Even the closest relative also involve risk, or worst risking the sibling relationship.. As chinese saying, "talking about money will only spoilt the relationship", especially to someone closest to you.

Yeah ..no matter whom you're thinking to partner with its normally ending up in similar scenario ...sometimes the closer you are to that person, the bigger emotional attachment you will have ..and when thing goes wrong the amplitude is also far bigger ..so if you can afford it , buy OWN ..or get a proper agreement before hand ...

Initially that was the plan, but he wishes to join in the bandwagon. If in case really breaks up, then one person get one or we simply split.

Btw, am looking for lawyer, anyone to recommend?

I can recommend you my lawyer, he solved all my problems. Very nice and reliable guy. If you dun mind his office is in Malacca (he travels to KL frequently), pm me.

This post has been edited by Star_Scream: Jan 13 2010, 02:24 PM