i dont think spraying that kitten to eat the adult cat food is a good idea. you might get a kitten that will scare to eat. just let the kitten eat, she is growing into adult cat.
spraying with water gun only applies if the cat is doing bad things, like scratching furniture, breaking your vast, playing near your books. other than that, no need to be too strict with them.
its kitten nature to be naughty

you cannot treat 4 months old kitten like a 4 years old cat. you cannot teach your 5 years old brother like 15 years old teenager.
else you will have paranoid cats that will not be nice any more.
cats can get very emotional sometimes, things that you make to scare - they will keep it forever. too much of it, they will even run away when u come near.
i only used spray water when they fight among each other.
kitten is very easy to teach. i only spray adult cat who are fighting. i never spray my kittens, else they grew up become scare to you. nobody wanted cats that cannot be touch, so you need to be careful when educating your kitten. not too hard, not too soft. make it balance.
at the same time you might not want to spoil them. so may ways to spoil a cat, like giving too much toys, giving expensive food (end of the day they don't eat cheap food anymore), feeding too much of fresh food until they ignore dry food.
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people always thought having dog as pet is very hard, this also applied to cats. it is not as easy as having hamster

you need to play with your dogs, bring them for a walk.
how bout cats? you may not need to bring them for a walk, but provide them free space to run, climb and play with each other.
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moral of the stories, for newbies... i advice, if you want to be a cat lover, please adopt atleast 2 kitten at the same age.
like sweetcat case, she already have adult cat age 4-5 years old, then suddenly a kitten comes in. who does not feel annoying?
thats what happen your sweetcat adult male cat. he will just need to get used of having a new friend who is so much younger.
so for sweetcat, just give alil bit more time

i'm pretty sure next year you will settle down with the kitten - only if she come from a good genetics

(i hope).
i'm sure your adult male cat will get used of her in the house, and for sure the kitten will grow become adult cat and behave like one.
This post has been edited by elfreakz: Aug 28 2008, 08:45 PM