For that, I clap for you. Good for you. It shows you're a very smart man,
despite your weakness when it comes to loving someone whole-heartedly.

The last move she did on you before dumping you? That's called the guilt
trip. She feels like she doesn't know anything else to repay you with, so
she did it with you one last time and gave you one last good memory of
the two of you together.

She considers that the end of her debt to you. That's why she can so
non-chalantly buggar off so easily and breakup like nothing happened.

That thing she did, telling you to move to UK? That was her expectations
of you. She was testing you, to see if you would change for her, and make
her wishes come true. She was trying to use you, but she couldn't,
because you wouldn't relent to the idea full of bullocks.

Either way, if you love her, you'd find it in yourself to forgive her and wish
for her happiness. But on a serious note though, you really do deserve better
for a man of your caliber and heart. You're a good man.

Well, at least in your story, you were. IRL? *shrugs*

Right now, post break-up, it's your job to identify what kinda girl
suits you better. Be frank about your fears, what's the bare minimum
a girl must have in her share of personalities and traits that'd make
you grow fond of her overtime, long-term.

Make a list of absolute no's too. Like maybe for instance she must not
be an active smoker, must not be a klutz, whatever crosses your mind,
just put in down. Overtime, as you date more girls who suit your type,
the guard will slowly wear off, and you'll be more acceptable to the more
iffy traits of the vast majority of girls out there.

That, I can say for sure, is when you finally know what you're looking
for in a girl.

A girl that you can actually, finally, really trust; someone who can
actually cover your ass if need be, and doesn't need to be prompted
to do it, because she actually really loves you really dearly.

She'll come in due time. So for now, it's major homework for you.

Just really start mapping out what happened with your ex. You
were sorta kinda unhappy with her from the very beginning.
You always mentioned that she way unusually shy, and that she
wasn't very outgoing as a person.

Then as time went by, she became more reclusive and secretive
towards you.

So you can start from there. Like for starters, I can point out
a few things in the kinda girl you like from your story:
1. You like confident girls who aren't afraid of making decisions
on their own. Because you know that everytime you ask them
a question, they always have a satisfying answer ready that'd
render you silent.

2. You like a girl who's comfortable being seen out with you in
public and isn't afraid of declaring your relationship out loud.
Because when you know your partner is doing that, she's really
trying hard to make it work. And that takes guts and faith.
Especially when it comes to introducing you to her family.

3. You like a girl who's comfortable sharing her personal
life and space with you. Someone who doesn't mind you
peeking at her phone every once in a while, reading through
her daily journals, blogs and diaries without ever feeling
intimidated.

4. You like a girl who's bold with her feelings and isn't afraid
to voice out concerns when necessary. You prefer someone
who can always communicate with you, even if it sometimes
gets you in a fight, because if you fight and resolve, that means
the both of you accomplished compromise, which further strengthens
the foundation of your relationship.

If you don't fight, and let the cold war sink in, both of you start
to silently bleed out of one another, which in turn becomes
counter-productive to the progress of your relationship.

5. You like a girl who's capable of holding her own weight. A
woman of her word with every sensible part of her being. Someone
responsible enough to man up to the occasion and do what is
necessary in order to solve problems rather than push the blame
on someone and leave shit to rain on its own.

Put all them 5 together, and you're probably looking at your dream girl.
(super good looks comes separately. Doesn't last eternally unfortunately.)

Fret not though, this dream girl exists. You just have to start looking
for her in the right place, and the right time.

You're clearly looking at a demographic of more mature young
professionals. Maybe someone around your own age. Or +/- 2
years at most. You may still find such girls beyond that 2 years
age gap, but it won't come very often.

Girls before and after a certain age think very differently.
Lets just say for instance, 18 year-olds and 21 year-olds.

Either way, right now I'm pretty sure you're still building
your career and whatnot. So it might be a good idea for you
to take it slow.

So here's the thing, there are arguments out there that states
that people should only start looking for partners when they are
more settled down with their life and at a comfortable stage of their career.

There are also those that say that you should look for her
regardless, because the whole point is to build your life
together from bottom up, not to wait for the girl to hop in
when you've got your chariot ready.

And then there are those that condone the orde cosmos of
things; waiting for destiny to happen. I don't encourage active
waiting, like literally waiting for it to drop on your lap while not
doing anything at all.

I do however, encourage passive waiting. Wait unconsciously,
but consciously filling up your personal time productively, with lots of
personal growth in mind to cultivate.

For me, I strongly believe that destiny will happen.
But it'll keep changing depending on what you do. If you keep
working hard on what you do, being honestly happy with who
you are, and keep chasing after your goals, she'll appear.

So I say be flexible. If you feel and instant connection, and
you're ready to go for another roller coaster ride gambling on
the chance that she might be the one, then go for it.

If you wanna do it on difficult mode, then get married fast.
If you need a little bit more options and alternatives, then
date a little longer.

But if your logic tells you to let it off and wait for a better
opportunity, listen intently to what it has to say, and weigh
it accordingly.

Sometimes it can just be fear playing its magic in your head.
But sometimes it's you trying to prevent yourself from getting
into a head on collision with disaster.