u cant get over someone when yr heart does nt allow it. to get over someone, u have to make sure u want it and you are ready for it. or else..jz stay at home ..cry yr eyes out..drink n do all sorts of things that might help u..but ofcos its good to meet your frens to share how yr feelin..most importantly..do not ever skip the cryin part..the more u conceal the harder it is for u to move on

It did help. Don't know will it still work. Thanks for the advice. Very nice of you to do so. Good job

oh swt O.o

hey ppl may i know how to join this club?what do i have to press? because im interested, my heart is seriously aching and i feel like it's the end of the world already.

That's it. I am moving on. No more counting down onto the days till he is back.

I am being silly.

This post has been edited by Mooi: Feb 3 2011, 12:17 AM

i should learn from you
though it's hard, but i'll live happier and healthier than when we were together..

thnx 4 da advice..

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This post has been edited by cookii83: Feb 7 2011, 10:50 AM

orry, allow me to rant here for a bit

i met up with a fren when i was on holidays and stayed at his place. while i was there, he was very charming and we got along very well. when he started hugging me, i was taken aback as i hv heard that he has a gf back in msia. i would hate being a 3rd party.. i decided to ask him directly if what i heard was true.. and he told me that "she is seeing other ppl now", and told me that he only wants to focus on his studies now and do not want to get into any r/s.

i was a 3rd party unknowingly in my previous r/s and i know a r/s that started with a lie would never work. after a while, you wld get the feeling of something is not right and he would get so defensive and the r/s would just get so strained. no r/s shld start with a lie. i do not mind trying in a r/s to see if it would work even if he is not ready for commitment but never as a 3rd party.

his warm feelings and attentiveness made me gave in to his advancement. he convinced me that i shld not think too much abt the future and enjoy out togetherness while we were together. since my last breakup 5 yrs ago, i was very afraid to be in a r/s and i thought i shld not be afraid of trying.

but while we were together, somehow, it was like deja vu again. his lack of communication when we were apart, and he was so afraid of getting any pic taken of us together. as i began to question, the familiar excuses and accusations appear.

by that time i was stuck. i hv develop feelings for him esp as we hv been intimate. in my head, i know that i shld get away fr him but in my heart i wanna be with him while i was there. i know what i shld do but i let my heart control me too much. i put up with his bullshit excuses everytime he reasons his actions. i just smile and block it out of my head cos i want to spend the time i hv with him before i leave as i know i would want not to be with him when my head clears up when i am back. warning bells ring in my head even louder when he asked me if i wld consider an open r/s when i get back home as he cant do LDR. WTF

u know how when u know something, you just dont want to believe it? well. that was me even when i got back. but i recently discover what i thought was correct all along. he has a gf here and he was just stringing me along.

now i am so angry with myself for believing his BS and not listening to my head. shld not hv even tried. i want to hurt him by revealing to the gf what had happened but then again, i dont wanna low myself to that level. dont think she will believe me anyway. he is such a smooth talker and esp now, he has been coming back a lot to spend time with her. guess he needs to build up his defences. i can imagine him telling her that how can he cheat on her when he is willing to sacrifice so much by spending soo much to come back so often and spending all his time with her. why would i think this way? f***ing hell... when i was feeling insecure thr, he told me the same thing.. "how can i be with anyone when i am here with you all the time?" it is a good excuse to b studying in another country while he cheats and he can always use his excuse of busy-ness with studies for everything.

WTF.. i cant believe i am losing sleep over such shit. i am angry with him and even angrier with myself

thanks for ur story.... time to wake myself up and get over him....

It's gonna be 3 months since the break up. I could do what he is doing and advised me to do, which is concentrate on work and if any sad thoughts come, just 'dont layan it'. This way, he said I would get over it (we had to break up, it was neither of our choice). I still think of him once in a while and it makes me depressed (coupled with some other probs that I am facing at the moment). Someone said it's best to cry, not to conceal it.. now my 'time will heal' method isn't working.. or 3 months isnt that long?

concentrate on work seems good solution but really depends the other party will let you peacefully divert your attention.

he does chat with me once in a while, just 'hi, how are u' kinda things, just as friends. is that considered 'peacefully diverting my attention'? i dont find much solace or satisfaction in work like he does. just today we were talking about life in general. he said that i am having that period of 'soul searching'. i am also not sure what am i having but i do know that i do think of him every now and then

I cant say much, i am actually in a starting stage of recovering. Happened not long ago, but its really very hard to take.

This is when you put everything into the relationship but in the end is just failure and nothing.

I tried keeping myself busy and focus in my work but no matter how, the minute when u want to close your eyes and sleep, its the worst of all..

Anyhow, tough it up.

why broken relationship want make us so tough. the heart very very pain.........

sigh, i hope you can get over it..
I also trying very best, on top i need work also.. sleepless nights and miserable..

tough it up, believe in what you believed. It will be over soon.

try think this way...there are more pretty or even better girls all around the world.
couldn't get together with her,u still have option. give your a chance and other girls as well.
cheer up guys!!! don't let your ex think that you're weak. be tough!!!

I really hope i can think like you..

But at this moment, she is still irreplaceable for me..

This suxs~~

how long already u broke up witf her?

Last 2 weeks..