been with him,almost 4 year..in the end i realise he is a gay..

i cant really believe in my own eye what i saw lastnight..one of his best buddy came over to our house
to watching football match,i was told him i am tired,and i wanna get to rest early,but while i was laying on the bed i couldnt get to sleep ,so i decide to go down to join them together..
while just i walking down the stairs,i saw them both kissing together..and my bf was laying on the floor..

in the moment i dunno how to describe my temper,i wanna cry..but my tear cant drop out..

its so fake..i wish its a dream..
i love him so much,we plan to marry next year..
he treat me so good,how could this be happen..
i am crazy..

introduce him to me.
I'll take care of him.

omg.. what can i say?? find another man..

maybe he a bi..

This post has been edited by mckevin: Apr 30 2008, 10:11 AM

Wow.. like that also can?

hmmm..you better go body checkup too..

wow... now i feel abit gay!!!... go find another guy... its too hard to say if he havent been to the down low... ehehe

im sorry for u girl. It's alrite u can give another bf

dump him, find another while you are still young...
gogogo... less QQ more pew pew...

welll....u have to acept he is bi

sad to hear that TS

i really dunno what should i do...

to dump him?i cant do it?bcos he really treat me very nice..i love the type he was..

but sometimes,this world really noting are perfect..
i am really crazy abt it..should i have a talk with him?

Shouldn't the issue be that he is cheating on her, instead of the fact that he is bi? swt

holy guacomoli!! thats serious shit. correct me if am wrong, but what can be worst than finding out your BF is gay - red handed! So you hang on tough and do what you think is right. Although it is a GUY - makes no difference- its like he is cheating on you. Yeah maybe he is a bisexual.

you should've whack both of them when you had the chance

Is a bless in disguise for you since u discovered it before u tie the knot with a gay.
Leave this guy when u are still angry with him for once. I know there will be heartache but believe me time is the best medicine to cure broken heart decease. Your will get over it over time and you are a good looking woman as in your avatar, you can find a another true man easily.
It is xtreamly difficult to change the sexual preference of a gay and you are gonna suffer for the rest of your life if you stick to him.

and may I add, if he loves you like how you love him, he wont even think a bit to do something like that- obviously something that would hurt you. Unless, he is testing his sexual orientation.

HE DEFINITELY NOT A GAY!!!
he is a bisexxual...

in this case, u'll need to reconsider tat, do u accept to hav a bf/hubby whom his world having a guy(not girl) in his life...

Didn't momma say no TV after 10?
I told ja that football can drive guys wild.

Think of your children.. other children might tease him " ooo ... ur papa is a gay/bi, i saw him holding other guys hand outside.. "


This post has been edited by mckevin: Apr 30 2008, 10:31 AM

i really cant live without him..he too much mean to me..

Im not gay

dont be silly... they wont be so exposing...
else, babycherrie will not found it after 4 years n almost marry...

That's what everyone says in the beginning....

pity ts...did u n ur bf had s3x b4..??if yes,better go for checkup...

Ermm... in my opinion maybe because it is your fault coz you didn't give him any sex, so he... well you know.

anyway... y u sure they are "kissing"?

not "play until fall down on the floor together"? XD

Time to seduce with with your sexy moves.

Well, well....I still have some good sum left after selling off my car.
Your boyfren might want to consider joining me to Thailand for a sex change. PM me ok?

damn.. early morning... read this ghey thread...


girl, go find a better life, if u cant stand for this situation...

but if u can accept, then u can continue

Ok, this is the root of your problem. A typical behaviour of a young woman deeply in love.

Somehow you got to make decision now.

last time i make a poll about this..

but seems like no one believe this would happen.

anyway, leave him cos u cant change the way he is..

1. some guys, he just wanted to hide that he is a gay by having gf. treated gf good and everything , gf dont even know it until she find out herself, like u..

2. some gay just wanted to trick girls. cos they hate girls. they will make girl love them and then break her heart later.

3. some guy didnt reallise he is a gay while he is having gf. until he fall for a guy but still hide it from gf.

4. some used to be gay, then he fall for a girl. he thought it is love and he thought he can change to be a real man. but after sometimes, he realised that he actually didnt love the girl and he cant hide the fact that he loves guy ..... he is so uncertain about his feelings.

these guys who are gay but have gf are a big liar. so girls must becareful..there are alot of shemales and gay hide behind their manly face.

as for Ts.... i can only tell u to let him go. u wont be happy staying with a gay. dont wish he will change...

P/s : I got no experienced but mostly i listen from ppl who got experience . from tv... and watever

This post has been edited by PinkyWhite: Apr 30 2008, 11:19 AM

Thats what i call "EXPERIENCED".

hopefully u can make a good decision.. better regret it now than later..

feel sad for pinkywhite ...

@pinky_white...
i think d same thing apply to lesbian oso...
but there aren't much methosd to help them become straight again...
ony God can help them...

Maybe there is.. show them the power of S3X ( for gay play back side/for lesbian dono play what)..
Once they found out.. they will think.. "waa..why so nice one!?"
hmm.. Possible?

Hmm...no wonder so many girls were upset when they found out Ricky Martin, George Michael and me like shaking the bom bom so much.

i dun think any physical method can change them from their old ways...
it all goes back to mentality problem...if u can straighten their thought,ony then u can change them...

TS mentioned that her bf treats her very good.. is it TS fault for not been treating her bf good enough and her bf opted to go for guy instead.. >_<

i am headance

This post has been edited by babycherie: Apr 30 2008, 11:00 AM

i dun think it gt to do with ts...it clearly that guy fault...

This post has been edited by yukiz: Apr 30 2008, 11:01 AM

Man.. u r harsh on TS.. now she's gone mad. "Be my Gf"



This post has been edited by -n_d-rew: Apr 30 2008, 11:03 AM

omg gay really exist in this world?

u wanna be ts gf...

No prob with that.. haha.. if she don't mind..
Haha... TS said "be my gf" . Its not me saying to TS "Be my gf"

ts, dun think so much...

tell him wat u feel. and wat u saw...

ask him wat he gonna do....

swt i got no experienced!!!! i just know from other ppl who experienced it and i can think ..i got brain xD

don worry..i didnt experienced it before = = .... should feel sad for ts la..swt

lesbian is easier to change than a gay... i could say...

i heard from a friend that..... if a guy experienced the BBM ..he will addict to it.. o.O really?

lol!!!!

lolx.. i am looking for every possibilities.. why not if she is hawt.. ><

TS,

Just confront him and question him with patient n peace.. it's the only solution u can do now

Good Luck... plz update us always..

i wonder how could you not notice in 4 year, at least the way they walk, the way they talk and how their manner is ?

This post has been edited by nickisthemost: Apr 30 2008, 11:46 AM

Nobody in this world cant live without someone. Be strong

I know some gays/bis, and you really can't tell the difference unless they tell you. Not all of them are the stereotype you see in movies and such.

ask yourself 2 questions...

fact 1. he's cheating on you. can you accept it? (dont think about who the 3rd party is, guy or gal.)

if you can accept fact #1, then proceed to the next, else let go.

fact 2. can you accept he's gay or bi?

if you can, go talk to him. if cant, let go. if you're dangling, go talk to him as well.

regardless what's your choice, you better go do medical checkup...

He ain't gay. He's a bi. That's a plus for you i think. Now you know he'll never cheat on you with another girl.

not really, if he's a bi, he can cheat with guys and girls.

That even dangerous,that means TS will face 200% more adversity in her love life in future!

sorry to heard that from you TS..be strong girl..you're good looking girl..having a sweet face..just do the things that you think is rite..if you decide to ask him those question..ask properly and don't get angry easily..let him go if you cant accept what he have did..i know it's very hurt for you..but in this world..no people that cant alive when they lost something they love..once you fall down does not mean you are a failer..you just stand up back and continue living a nicer life..find a better wan..luckz to you girl..

They are watching Man U vs Barcelona when this incident took place??

I suggest you break up with him la... Trust me, can you imagine if he is still a bisexual when he become a father in the future? Like the movie Brokeback Mountain?

This post has been edited by DannGun: Apr 30 2008, 01:01 PM

This is interesting. I wonder whether girls will get mad if the bf is having an affair ....with a guy. Hmm.

MAN United Rawks ! ! ! Ts you support which team ???

i can't believe you are pressuring TS with questions like this.

oh shit. wat a sad story. luckily u saw his gay behaviour b4 u marry to him.
better u dumb him lar. or u will regret after marry him. 1 day he sure will leave u and fark a guy. he treat u nice maybe to play his role as a bf.

try to ask him if he is gay or not. either he choose u or choose gay.

TS need some time off.. she already have more than enough possibilities for her to make her own decision.. good luck to her then.. hope we can see her making a mutual decision and decide what is the best for her now and the future..

dump...sorry...

this is bad. but maybe he is just fooling with his friend or maybe they we're drunk. if its no to both answer, i think he might be bi.

I donno about you , but most gays are quite easy to "identify" based on their behaviors and how they interact with guys. If it took you 4 years to find out he's gay, well perhaps you didn't know him well enough.

Wow sorry to hear that, must be shocking for you! You need to talk to him to get some closure. Was he drunk, is he bi, what was he thinking, etc - you need to ask him these things before you move on. Good luck dear!

This post has been edited by Cas: Apr 30 2008, 01:24 PM

The problem is the guy lied to her.

Come here girl, let's watch football together and then do the same thing and see how your bf react.

he'd probally enjoy it too much and cam it for sweet memories.

so bad la u..still wanna say about the football things..

hey, honestly, being gay is not wrong...i mean they are normal people, just that they prefer the same sex over the opposite ones...

in religion, some of them says that it's definitely wrong, but it has become more "acceptable" in some societies

i think in your case, he could be bi...but if u really can't accept it, i think talking to him would be best, and think about the future if you are with and without him...what if he continue his act in the future and you are able to find out again, if u think you can take it, then go ahead, if you can't then break now...

i believe that everyone deserves a second chance though...just see whether how meaningful he or she is to you...=)

oh, and to add on...
research found out, in the US...this is TRUE research btw...

couples who had been living together for YEARS, and have children do not even know that their husbands are bi...
they live in their "healthy" lifestyle and well, function as how a family should be...=)
so, who says that bi people can't make a good husband...XD



This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Apr 30 2008, 02:15 PM

is french kiss or touching lips only......
my ex kiss (touching lips) his best friend before ne but he said this because they are playing true or dare ... and to test how daring they are... u know sometimes, guys playing 'different stuff' from girl ne....
TS, you better ask him or else you gonna go crazy thinking this ...
Good luck ~~

I know it's been 9 years ManU gone to Final but kissing is too much de. Can't imagine what would happened if Park or Nani scored too.

pity you...

o ya..this make me remind some memories.. me and my best friend was dare by other friends to kiss each other..kiss lips to lips..so my best friend and i just touched each other lips then run liao..but actually..it was kinda weird that same gender is kissing.. luckly is with my best friend..

This post has been edited by ~*~jAs~*~: Apr 30 2008, 02:29 PM

Yes, to clear the air once and for all, you should have a matured conversation with him. If he is the person whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, are you sure that's what he wants too?

If he is who he is, then you should get out of the relationship. No point getting married to him when he has other men around him all the time.

But you know, it's funny, if a husband come home and find another girl in bed with his wife, the man would want a threesome. But if it was the other way around, women come home to find the husband in bed with another men, they find it gross. And if the catch husband in bed with another woman, that's cheating. Life ain't fair eh? For women at least ...

appearently u see i am talking MC today..
i am get sick..i am so scare..i am affraid to tell my parent,my buddy..bcos it quite ashame somehow..
and i dunno how to open my mouth to him onto this situation..

therefore,when i fall as sleep,he came into my room,and kiss me..
ask me dear..what happen to you?are you alright?he cook breakfast to me..
he was so sweet some how..

thats why... this cant consider as bi ne.......
maybe TS bf is playing some sort of daring game lo....
just make sure is really french kiss or just touching lips

Agree with this. Try to confront him, and if he willing to be honest with you bout his bi-thingy, why not just carry on? if you can't accept it then say ByeBye. Gambateh ^^

if someone treat me that good ah, i probably don care he is bi or not... imagine even is straight guy, u cant sure he'll treat u good... the most important for me is the way he treat me....

OMG ur bf so deym cool...i loike~!

Now, it doesn't matter if he's sweet or not. Can you accept that he is gay? All else is irrelevant until you know what you want or can accept.

There is always this saying, the earlier the better. You now knows the truth and the more you keep i believe you going to naik gila one day and believe me tanjung rambutan is not really as good as they say. Its better you confront at him at a safe and quiet place. I can imagine he will get mad because you found out the truth. Not many wants to talk about their sexuality, what again if someone caught them especially their loved ones. Its also better to talk to your closed ones, not because you are that 'gek po', but in a way maybe they could help you. Hey i may not understand your pain because i never face this situation before and i'm a guy. I believe you as his gf or fiancee should really learn that you also have the right to question him about this matter. You have to show your power as a partner. This matter is big anyway, not even you, the only witness can hide from it. Believe me, knowing what he did, and if you still insist to believe that he still doing those sweet stuffs for you, that will only make you felt guilty. I know its going to be hard to talk to him, but i believe you're a big girl so talk to him just like an adult. When talk to him about this matter, if can don't cry. i know its hard but you have to understand if you cry you are actually displaying your emotion and sadness and thats not the real you. Remember the earlier the better. Talk to him.

your bf kinda good..don't know la..you try to discuss with him about this problem..find out the answer is better than u just keeping silent and think at your own self..

maybe u didn't threat him good enough?..giving him what his 'needed'

at least im not a gay

aiyok..i did not say you are gay la.. dont cry..

i just want ts to look at another side ...
pressurising her by flooding her with all the possibilities.. let her make her own decision from now on.. i believe that TS knows what the best for her..

ya TS..make your own decision..don't bother what other people told you..just follow what your heart want..we just can give you some ideas and advise for what you can do in this situation..everything is on your hands..decide the best choice..don't make the wrong move..cause everything and every step you make cant be return..

Then make a deal with him,if you found him having gay behaviour,you must ask him to compensate you another day with all the sweet things and good things such as asking him buy you a Porsche!

CONFRONT him.. and talk in good way..
gal, take it serious~

This post has been edited by lengchuchu: Apr 30 2008, 03:35 PM

so are u available?
im available.
and im niot ghey

What if the confrontation comes to a stage that he has to choose one of TS and his gay friend?
At the end he choose gay,it will be hurtful.
Better confront after marry,you know,nasi sudah jadi bubur!

TS this is piece of advice..

Discuss with him asap (unless you want to keep this till the end of your life), because if this thing you also can't even discuss with him, I don't see any future will happen between both of you..

I think only 2 decision you can choose:

(A) Don't mind he is gay/bi/straight (all kind of sexuality also can cheat behind your back), and stay with him as long as his heart is with you..

(B) Leave him and start a new life if you cannot choose (A) because you are a person that can't stand your man cheating on you (well most of us can't stand it too haha)

If I were you, my answer would be "B" because I don't want to live my life with regret since I could only live ONCE, I will choose to love a person that worth my love (well many things just don't went well as you please )

If I were to choose "A", I will sacrifice too much, not knowing what I will get in the end, either it be worthless or meaningful..

Btw guys/girls, gays/les are not MANIACS, they are human like we do, just that our affection is different..

SAY NO TO DISCRIMINATION TOWARDS RACE, SKIN COLOR AND SEXUALITY!

But 2 at a time .. regardless of bi or normal is considered as "CHEATING"

It's always better hurt now then after.. short term pain is much more better than a long term one...

We r advising TS to confront n question her bf bcoz maybe there's an accident on tat day o any possibility oso can be.. yes, him might lie to her but his reaction n action is always cant b hidden...