Hey TS, u might want to read this, from a gay guy POV.

1st of all, dont stereotype gay guys as sissy, bcos for ur info, a lot of girls do fall for a gay guy as gay guys usually look after thier looks a lot, and they work out to keep thier body looking good, well to impress other guys of cos! i m a gay guy and i never get attracted to any drag queen or guys who are to sissy.

2nd, understand what is gay and bisexual.

gay is a sexual orientation, which means they are sexually attracted to the same sex, sissy is a charactheristic, mannerism behavior, not a sexual orientation.

bisexual is where one is attracted to both sex.
most bi are usually attracted to 1 gender more than the other
some bi are aslo people who r confused bout thier sexuallity.
some bi are excuse for gays bcos they felt it is more 'normal' to be attracted to women altho they are attracted to men.

mayb u guys arent gay so u might not know how a gay feel and have to go thru..


having sex with a girl doesnt mean u are str8. trust me. why? u have to put yourself in thier shoes.

i m sure u dont choose to be str8, u just happen to be str8 and ur feelings come naturally.

just like gay men,

they dint choose to be gay, as u noe, our society doesnt really accept them and would treat them as 'adnormal'. so to fit in the society, many gay men wont admit thier sexuality or come out of the closet.

and yes, they can go on dating girls, having sex with girls, and even marry one just to prove that they are 'normal' and that they wan to live a 'normal' lifestyle too.

so, whether he is gay or bi, we cant be too sure. but he prob is either one, anyway.

i have GFs too. i buy them flowers, take them dinner, sweet talk them..but do i really love them?? i cant be sure but one thing i m very sure, i m NOT SEXUALLY attracted to any of them. so even if i sleep with girl, does that make me str8? Nope. does that make me bi? nope.


so TS, ur problem here is could be that he is a gay guy who is just using u to cover up OR is cheating himself to love u so that he can live a 'normal' life but he cant resist his temptation for other men, which end up made him feeling even more guilty therefore, treat u even NICER.

1 more thing, does he enjoy sex with u? does he ask u for sex? this can help u answer a few peoblems too.


would u want to sleep next to a man whom doesnt love u? a loveless marriage?

if u really want to noe more, i suggest u to watch Brokeback Mountain, then u might realise u are in Alma's shoe.


feel free to ask me anything, i will be glad to share some of my little experience with u.

This post has been edited by fuze_riggo: Apr 30 2008, 07:54 PM

nobody read my post 117 on page6??

This post has been edited by fuze_riggo: May 10 2008, 09:56 PM

Not all.

Some Christians dont.

Some Hinduism dont.

and buddhism, the pure buddhism not the buddhism-mix-taoism culture we have now.

buddhism doesnt condemn homosexuality.



what he meant was living a normal life as an 'out' gay, not a closet. It wouldnt be so common in Malaysia, but it is common in other countries. This kind of issue is ok and has no problem to be out to public to discuss. It is because close minded ppl tend to escape & hide this kind of topic away from public, the public has very little knowlegde on this issue.