from my experience, guys DO change... sometimes, guys just 'drift away' unknowingly and unintentionally. they might not even have the intention to cheat on you in the first place. they probably think, hey, this is just getting to know/help a new friend.. what guys dont realise is that if one of them (your bf and 'new friend') oversteps the boundary of FRIEND, it's equivalent to cheating already.

Note the progression: strangers -> friend -> flirting (online or otherwise) -> talking on phone/msn everyday -> meeting up -> more flirting and talking on phone/msn -> doing 'cyber' -> actual physical s**
(note: this is from my life experience and does not apply to all guys/situation)

dont get me wrong, i am not against my bf making new friends.. guys think that flirting is harmless. but flirting can lead to the above progression..

fyi-i had taken the same path as you some time back and i know its not easy. but i have my reasons on why i stayed. i told him that if the situation were different, its over. but once you have decided to stay with him, do concentrate on why you guys hooked up in the first place. can you see a future together? if yes, then the cheating must be a thing of the past. also, your bf must make the effort to gain back your trust.. perhaps, it is an uphill task for him but you must also try to trust him again..

all the best my fren..

stay strong oh .

for ppl who have been hurt b4, then yes letting go is darn easy...
i hv friends who well did stupid things after getting hurt...i also had pass relationships and got hurt...
so for me, i won get hurt like i did last time...i tend to be more protective of my own feelings...so 1 strike, and you're out...its really that easy if you've been through the horrible part once...and once is definately enuff to last a lifetime when it comes to emotional experiences...

well when I say no second chances I mean it.

Dear pinkling

u still love him, but not 100% trust on him anymore, this situation is really hard.

how about have a break for a short period, for u to think carefully.
during this period, if u really feel ur life is dull without him, then u may continue the relationship.

vice versa if u feel relaxed and better during this period then just stop the relationship.

some mistake can gv 2nd chance, some strictly no...

hope u get what i mean...

hv a nice day..

ok, it try to figure it out

still nothing happen meh? or dun dare take action?

i m in tis situation oso...it is easy to say break for short period den think carefully..but if da condition as the following,the third person(i mean da gal)stil want him aggressively,so da period to let go for short period izit given them more chance to bcum couple?my bf need da gal to teach him hw..as he dunno..he say degree enginnering final year very difficult..clasmate damn selfish..so he need her orelse sure fail.so i need to open an eye close n eyes.i kno da gal is aggressive,n forcefull...when she can;t get him she wil act like msg my bf dun find her anymroe..dunwan teach him anymore..den my bf scare fail need her..den da gal is his cup of tea summore..so wat should i do wo..although tis is da last month until they graduate,i stil worry damn worry..as i dunwan lost my bf..stil love him but realy tired n pain in my heart de...y in tis world got tis type of gal...kno ppl got bf stil like dat..i kno nowadays modern life gal can take n should grab their happiness..but did they think b4 they wil hurt other ppl?really cruel...sob...

in ur situation, is different lo, currently ur bf din do anything wrong to u.
as long as he know the limit, and only be friend wif tat gal then ok lo.
is the gal induce him, but not him...
mayb ask ur bf to be more independent, learn by himself.. aiyo.. go ask lecturer lo.. hehehe

now i think okla, my bf n i okok lo...ask usuall la...just i cant fully trust him...dat's all...caz i relilove him, so open 1 eye. close 1 eye...give him a 2nd chance...if dis continue...thn bye bye lo

mayb he is gay XD

haha, mayb i try, but once i ask him y not load my pic in ur pc and he say scared parents find out. His pc is shared with 5 bro, and parents. So....chances are no. I doubt his pc have. If got mayb his parents one XD

btw, how to password protect zip file!? i wanna learn! XD

btw, if bf cheats on me, no matter who what when how, i will not giv him second chance, or i wil take revenge, and i mean it. He better take a good care of his car or when he walks home.

*must stay away from kanzakicyn* *noted*

Password protecting gays...err i mean zip files eh...

http://support.microsoft.com/kb/306531

*assuming if you are using default windows xp/vista zip tool*


*vanishes*

EDIT : Pfft...i was bored , so i read from the first page till the very end

To the real gurls out here,

Let me tell you a bit bout guys (being a guy myself...). You see , usually there are many kinds of guys out there (yes yes , same goes for everyone....every gender , every pcs and macs , every handphones). Some of them are loyal and others are not. But one thing - all guys do have a weakness. You see , guys easily get carried away with girls who are well....I dont know how to describe it , but i think you'll know la (Sorry not good in saying things out in flowery words. I guess I need to read up more english literature). anyhow , guys usually get "pwned" when they are over pampered or taken good care , so that was his weakness and the other girl took advantage of it. IMO , its up to the guy personally. Usually most of them , wouldn't able to resist it (who wouldn't) , but there are people would could truly resist. But sadly , its very hard to find a guy like that.


Oh yeah , you gurls may be wondering and pondering around why am I and replying to such threads. let me tell you this , uh its basically I want to get reactions of girls and how they react on situations like this. So that i could use this behaviour pattern and apply it on real life (aka to my girl friend). So yeah , its a win-win situation eh....

*vanishes*

This post has been edited by prasys: May 7 2008, 09:55 AM

You are planning to "playing" outside??

Some guy tend to cheat when they meet a girl who is totally opposite o hving good point on from his current gf weak point.. for eg. his current gf is quite dependent on him.. always need him to drive her here n there.. so soon he get annoyed to become a driver to her current gf.. so one day he meet another gal who can drive n quite independent.. then he wil fallen for tat gal.. thinking she is much more better than his current gal... but they didnt figure out wat is that gal weak/bad point.. n no one is perfect.. so gal b more independent n always upgrade urself..

agree with u..
girl must be cheer up and always upgrade ourselves..
hehehe...

to those who believe in true love, anything goes...

to those who are so called 'realistic', its another thing...

make a choice, and take responsibility for it. nothing is for sure. but its better to do it and fail than never do.

good guys bad guys good girls bad girls. how you carry yourself in the world will eventually get back to you. be yourself, trust yourself. ask yourselves. there is always something you have that others dont, vice versa. you may naver had found the true love in your entire life, but you may have lived happier than those who had.

there is no one solution that fits all. there is no guarantee someone's workable solution is going to solve yours.

take hints and points, then decide. take action, hold responsibility for it. in the end, you dont need to feel sorry for anybody because you held the responsibility.

@lice~~ : Just say uh no. I am just trying to get peoples reaction and see. Well I dont cheat and i dont intend to and yes i agree with your statement as well

but they been together at one time..mean one leg 2 boat..i scare he duno wat to do again...wat i can ask ade ask him do...stil same..now although we stil together,we tell da gal we ade break...so she can teach him hw..

if u love him but dun trust him, then everyday u check on him and he will feel very bad. He will feel as if he is being tied down and fight will occur.

prasys >> yah, i am a bad bad evil gal. Cuz to me, revenge is a must. no matter who or what.

guy hav weeknest, i agree, they are not perfect, but then, b4 they do anything, were ur image in his mind? if it was, then he will stop immediately. B4 anything serious happen.

and y gal have to improve, guy le? huh! gal now have to work, give baby, do housework and such. Guy work oni. So gal more susah than guy. Sumore wanna 'chau' u liddat?! no way man!

omg..
he have been wif the gal b4 ar... if it is me.., i sure will not forgive my bf if this happen...

i agreed with what kanzakicyn mentioned.
b4 they do anything, were ur image in his mind? if it was, then he will stop immediately. B4 anything serious happen.
they know it wil hurt u, but still do that....

OMG! and he did not delete?! damn him... do the same thing lar.. see what's his reaction.
lol joking
in my case, i will straight away ask him who the hell this girl is.. and if he scold me for invading his privacy, i couldn't care much. just break