a question here . . do you GUYS allow your GF to have fun with her friend which is a GUY and much more attractive then YOURSELF ? and also . . far apart from her which can only be visited a month or 2 per year . Do u feel . . weird / worried smth might bad could happen ?

guys now allow to open topic in GC

din u c TS created a new acc just purposely to post this kind of quest?

the answer IS never. not even a bad looking guy.... trust me ... i experience it about 5 times....

no need to be good looking.. just being there with her is enuff to tear you guys apart.

Ps:/ so sad to see her being used...

ya, i know...and happened always oso....

my gf change heart because of long distance relationship and now she already with a guys close with her which is study together with her after two weeks break with me .and what can i do?? i jz can do myself and sad every nite.

i got a same problem like u . . but i dont know she will wanna break with me or not . . but if it is better and . . happier for her to go den . . i got no choice but to let her go . i just dont know wats my future

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Added on April 15, 2008, 6:30 pmReally ? but . . if i dont let her have fun . .with some other guys . . she'll be very bored for the whole month/until i go visit her she talks about this GUY to me . . i just dont know why . .

This post has been edited by DumbDumbDingDong-: Apr 15 2008, 06:38 PM

My boyfriend allows and also happily encourages me to go out with other guy friends

he doesnt get worries ? why =\ . . how to get trust from the girl . . that . . she'll never break

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Added on April 15, 2008, 6:45 pmcan anyone who say yes/no/depends can please state out your reasons why ?

This post has been edited by DumbDumbDingDong-: Apr 15 2008, 06:45 PM

haha same case here. she may be talking about this guy...
deduction he maybe a decoy of the real picture....

1. she really trust you there fore she told you everything

2. but normally the one she like she wont tell you the whole story only apart of it. For me i dont think so this guy is a threat only the "silent" one.... but becareful too

either one i have experience both of it the one she told me and the hidden one....

anyway long distance relation ship is bound to fail with out trust and understanding < key element

thx alot . . for giving such resourceful info . . thanks . . but i dont really know we'll last long or not . . i do trust her 100% but . . even though i trusted her , i keep worried about . . the negative sides u know ?

This post has been edited by DumbDumbDingDong-: Apr 15 2008, 07:54 PM

Mine just fail too.Some of my friends are hiding something from me.Keep telling that dont want to stress me up when i ask them.Somethings wrong and i guess she got bf d.Im abandon because of that.

Wasted all my effort.

LDR is untrustable.

wats LDR ? your ex gf is so mean ! shes not responsible at all . . i pity u =( . heart broken sux

This post has been edited by DumbDumbDingDong-: Apr 15 2008, 08:21 PM

haha jealous type of bf..... but then you will become a very good lover... unless ur intention or the exp make u the other way round....

LDR= untrustable.... Ong distance relationship

yeah true to a certain extend. But most of the time phail BIG time

This post has been edited by markchan: Apr 15 2008, 08:53 PM

I didnt even manage to start it.She used to be so interested in me last year.Everytime msn me when online,email me all the time,sms her also got answer immediately.

Now,all opposite.I cant do anything now.Guess that double degree arrogant guy got her adi.My friends dont even want to tell me.

I did expect this to happen.Maybe she's mean or i did something wrong.I dont know.

Life still goes on.

Lol. That you gotta ask him. Well, prolly it dun matter to him if i stay or leave? LOL

guess you are slow. girls tend to fall for the person who are more daring..
It is the same for what ever things you do. Grab the chance once it is there.

You delay then the next Casanova will sweep her off her feet....

Still there is no right or wrong. Just hopes that person is not a j3rk. I do always think that a lady should get undivided attention and love. Yeah equality is every one seeking right now.

No matter what you must know we are not equal at all biologically or mentally. So play your part a man should treat a lady with respect and don't apply theories or logical thinking. It wont work...

The heart only yearned for love and attention not equality nor power.. no logic in it...

so if there is ever a chance to love. afraid not to lose.... go ahead with courage...

hey you only live once and remember this ticket we bought, there is no turning back....

Moving this to Cupid Corner

And TS, read the rules for Girl's Club

Yes,im slow because im uncertain that we'll make through this 4 years long LDR.Thats what hesitate me.No point doing something if the chances of success is non existent and im not confident in it.

So what?It's done now.

Life still goes on.

same here

The more you Hold on, the further she'll go

if she has a change of heart..then it wasnt meant 2 be

Sure whyu not?

Why so insecure?

if your girlfriend hangs out with another guy and eventually falls for him, she wasn't meant to be yours anyway.

Good one.

hahaha.
fidelity and commitment seem to be VERY lacking in today's relationships. I don't know why. Cheating is rampant. When you're in a relationship, there is no more you, there is no more me, there is an US.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Apr 16 2008, 05:04 AM

lol, there's a noticeable change in the group of people posting before and after the mod moved this from GC to CC

Sad case.
what are they thinking ar?!?
pity u man. same case here.

I definitely would agree unless the guy is not having any intention on your GF. If there is, explain to your GF, and you've done what you can. If your GF leaves for the guy, I can say is either, she is not what you looking for, she is not mature or you are not incompetant. In fact, today is different world compare to the 60's and 70's, where we all looking to stability financial status.

What to do? 3 years effort all gone adi.Just in a snap.



Dun care lah.Im not going to have any more relationships till somewhere is the future.

i can only meet her once in a month since she working and i study

At least you can see her once a month.I can only see her once a year.Thats why i dont want to go after her.

some ppl told me getting a webcam or 3g..
wat u think?

To TS:
Just let her hang out with the guy, and you should be hanging out with other women as well (as friends of course). Then you both can talk about your activities with other people rather than only she talking about the guy. If you dare, you can even suggest that you're both allowed to go on casual dates and flirt with other people, but stay committed to the relationship.

good idea

Go ahead.

She dont even bother to go online to msn with me adi.

WTF? Like that also can?

Its power dynamics. If she feels like she doesn't have to fight for you, she'll easily leave you. You're less valuable. However if you're also out with other girls, that you also have options, she's more likely to stick with you. The idea of allowing your partner to flirt with others in a LDR is to let them get rid of frustration in a controlled manner. It doesn't always work, but at least when you lose her, you'll also have been out with other women, so you don't have to be so damn depressed.

at least like tat got something to talk for wen u wif her...
soli to heard tat bro...

Sounds like a good idea.At least got backup in case this one's gone.

Yeah,MSN works very well provided both can online at the same time and often.

It works very well last year for me.

The reason she cant go online because of the net charges.The on campus accommodation charges you for every single MB you download.I cant blame her other than her on campus accommodation.

Aus internet connection isnt much better than Malaysia.

yup... tat's the way it is these days... no stick to 1 guy or gal forever...

yeah i heard tat 2. cheer, find malaysian

Yeah,being loyal to someone gives you nothing.

yo silver hawk
you wake the sense out of me here.

now i know my mistakes
being stupidly way tooo loyal

sure! Because we do the same thing. Let him kiss also no problem.

Yeah,im also not gonna be so loyal now.

Having a backup seems like a pretty good idea.

I like your fcuking idea...........i should do that t00........
Its like casual dating........where everyone have many choices ...hahahaha