Comfort... say jokes but not lame ones.
i thk the best one is just let the girls feel pampered...
Presents may work too...
but not always.

keep mouth shut...and stay far away....girls is too complicated to understand...

i agreed...especially pms...man better dig a hole and cover..

run! take cover! fire in the hole!! lolz...

girls like to be pampered when they down..
sometime can get aggressive, why dont u guys bought a rose or something they want and they like. that can lowering their down/angry/pms meter. lolz..

i agreed.. when pms, i just try not talk too much, dun make any jokes, n try to be as quiet as i can..

yes and be ball-less and duck for cover when the volcano erupts!

i thought girls preferred it if the guy was just....there with them, comforting them, and telling them everything will be alright? (although he actually doesn't go and fix anything since he's trying to comfort her)

At least that's what my ex preferred and my friends say they wished they bfs did

Comfort me and offer to lend me his shoulder to lean on

How come all guys answered de?
it would be nice if can hear more of the girls answer it.

Actually... it depends what type of girl and situation guys are handling la.
But... the point here is... GIRLS like to be pampered lo. There shouldn't be any denial for this. BELIEVE ME!

Even when they are having PMS. Just don't annoy girls to much during that period. This can make girls really mad we can break down crying without any reason. so...BEWARE!!!

Don't know why leh... Emotions really disturb duing PMS...

chocolate / ice cream ^^

Take her to a Zara sale.

not all girls like shopping though ----> take me for example. I HATE SHOPPING! it's a waste of time and money, all you do in a mall is walk around looking into stores/boutiques, and (if you're lucky) get something you don't actually need... either that, or you spend countless hours walking round and round a mall not getting anything at all...it's fun hanging out in a mall, but we've all got better things to do than window shop... haha

If a girl is down, leave her alone awhile then come back and try to solve the problem works everytime. Give her options on solving the problem. She needs to know that she's not the only one and that she has someone for backup. Like a child clinging to its mother - she needs reassurance .

Smart answer...lol

hi peichen!!! lol good to see u online too


^ SEE?? i can be smart when i want to

Ya la ya la... Quite cool la.
SHEEEEEEEEEESH.............................

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Added on December 22, 2007, 1:52 pmWhat u say is extremely true.
If a girl feel they have no one to support them... No one by their side they kinda lose confidence la.
So yes... I support u...
Hahahaha

This post has been edited by Peichen: Dec 22 2007, 01:52 PM

^^ woo hoo! lol,

wow, u r so wise, how i wish i have a gf lije u in the future.

there is this malay mix chinese gal in a different dept who was disturbed and harassed by an arab guest who seemed to want to woo her, i just so happened to pay her a visit in her dept as she was working alone. she told me to sit next to her as the guest keeps harassing her, so i stayed till the bugger came and fortunately he acted just like a normal guest would.

protected her in a way, not to mention i almost missed my last putra lrt home
the sad thing is she is 8 years younger and has a bf of 2 yrs.

U hate shopping? that's rare indeed....

Leave her alone awhile and talk later....that is so so true...

and you're gonna get the bill

guess everything has been said but no one said anything about hugging the gal and lending her a shoulder to put her head on.

take off ur shirts and pants then dance and shake ur butt infront of her, that will surely entertain her!

i did
well, subtly.

I juz want him to hug me if it's nothing to do with him. If it concerns him, I hope he is not too egoistic to apologise. A simple word of sorry said sincerely makes my heart melt and forgive him right away.

gurlz r unpredictable for me....lolzzzz

i think the best way is to hug her and ask her to cried out loud....

this could surely comfort her......

Solve? Wrong answer ..... women likes a good listener. Men loves to solve problems/issues but that's not what women looks for. Haven't you read Women Are From Venus, Men Are From Mars?

Men, listen and that will set you free. Don't ever try to solve when it isn't asked of you.

What do girls expect men to do when they are down.... hmmm..

Stop fidgeting with the cam recorder and do his work. LOL (ok stupid joke from the edison scandal)


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When i am feeling down, i would expect my guy to let me 'manja' him. Let me act like a small kid for that moment.

This post has been edited by sexyamber: Feb 22 2008, 01:58 PM

when im down?
hope he solves my problem
if down becos of him,then i need an apology and hand my hand again.
simple only

all oso must cater to gals,,,,,sigh

Many times, girls/women get upset over the simplest issue. And when you get upset like that, men don't understand why you all turn it into some big problem/sin. And when men don't understand, men can't apologise. Do you want us to just apologise with no meaning to it? Like this : "I'm sorry, but I don't know what I'm sorry for". Is that what you want?

One of the prob is, if you are down and the cause is us. Sometime we don't know it. But you expect us to know. And if we ask, you don't want to answer but yet want us to apologise?

But if you are feeling down, and the cause is NOT us, I normally would ask why, then shut up and listen. Only offer a solution if I'm asked. Otherwise, I just nod and my head and say, "aha, aha, yup, yup, I agree, you are right, oh you poor thing".

the most important i feel is just be there for her and listen to her...
she will feel relieve...
if she is your GF than a little hug will do with some light tapping on the back...
if she is your fren a little hug also will do but better not la, try give some gap...

basically just listen... dun be a problem solver, doesnt always turn out well...

some girls they tend to keep everything to themself, for this one i not sure how to make them talk or share...
coz currently have a friend now that consider in this type, maybe she did talk with others la... but it seems that she is not...

anyway, I am a happy person... be happy... cheers

i think as a guy, just spent time with her, and listen what she conplain
and giv her solution, or distract her to another place, if still cannot.i dun know wat to do lol

hahaha.. thats so true.. but how come girls dont understand it themselves?.. girls are really so unpredictable..

This post has been edited by xSony: Feb 25 2008, 11:49 AM

Gosh... the guys here saying girls are hard to understand should go read some Cleos la. Haha.

I'd talk to her, and ask her what's the problem. I'll be there listening to her. Give some hug every now and then. Then go for ice-cream sundae soon after.

Seriously guys, read some female mags

maybe some of them read too much man magz

agree but that's a sexist remark.. tell that to your mother

yeaps.. but sometimes still also have 2 show.. blur guys wont know what's happening... n end up kena

dont make silly remarks... here is not parliament... look what happened to datuk z...

I figured female mags are more interesting than men's. Men's usually balik-balik benda sama only wan, cars la, sex la, gadgets la. Haha.

Eh, just saw something, SeLrAhC in backwards read Charles. Haha!

If a girl cry in front of u how?
wat to do? suggest?

hmm...
some of them prefer to be let alone...
some prefer someone to hug...
some just a light tap at the back can lighten their sadness...

should see how the relation between you and the girl first...
1 wrong move will end up badly...

There is no solution to this

relationship r....
normal lo..
coz she is at Sg , cry in front ..when we chatting using webcam..
huh!..
wat a shock..
make me wanna cry also..hee

Expect only -->

-Bring me kai kai n shopping , he pays (I dun think would ever happen)
-Go for buffet / jap rest

Just hug me and buy me sushi dinner.

This is very subjective since it depends on the girls themselves.

For me,
I'd prefer for the guys to leave me alone for awhile.
But still drop me a line to tell me that he cares.

Guys and Girls here. i need ur help or more of an advice. let me start my story first. me and my girlfriend are together for 4 years now. we've been through a lot of ups and downs together. we love each other enough said. recently starting this year, i've got myself a permenant job and she furthering her studies in UK. At first we take the long distance relationship quite well with communicating via phone, sms, and mostly instant messenger. i usually woke up in 4am just to have a chat with her through IM until 8am. she had a trouble adjusting in new world with different environment, weather, no friends or aquintance, and most biggest is homesick. Things getting uglier when my job starting to demand more of my attention and got the better of me when a new project were assigned to me. i'm starting to lose focus on her as my boss often breathing down my neck for progress. i've started to woke up around 6.30am as i often sleep late around 2am or above due to overtime work. things were not so bright on her side either as she's getting more homesick, miss her family, friends, me and her experiment (she's doing PHD by the way) doesn't produce result like the way she've wanted; and i'm not there to cheer her up when she's down. so, after awhile she's beginning to act cold towards me, saying things that is 'empty' and hurting me. her words often makes me feel guilty. she also stop saying that she love me. i was wondering where could i've gone wrong. then after yesterday slow talk with her, she finally admit she's being cold because she doesn't want to hurt herself. she was crying a whole week last week and tell me that she thinks i'm not ready to be her gf. i was shock and i asked her why but i never get the answer. so guys and girls here, i need your advice on what should i do now. i don't want to end this relationship. not like this. thanks guys.

when i m depressed,

i'm longing to a hug n some condolence words from my bf..

that's enough for me..

haha

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Added on March 24, 2008, 12:41 pmuMmm..
i think u hav to discuss wif her on this issue or ur relationship might b in a danger.
A bf is deemed to spare some times to concern n accompany his gf notwithstanding how busy he is wif his work..
girls tend to feel hurted if theirs bfs only care for their work n likewise,neglecting her.
communicaiton n understanding are crucial in a romance n also, to maintain a relationship. Nevertheless, v wil argue wif each other upon some small matters if v both lack of communication.
both muz b honest enough to convey thier thinkings n feeling.Otherwise,there wil b a lot of unhapiness n quarelling happened btw u n her.
anyway, juz talk to her n find out te best solution~
goodluck ^^

This post has been edited by stephanie0721: Mar 24 2008, 12:41 PM

thank you so much for a very good advice. i will put it into action right away.

tell her a funny story about how the buay-

want the guy that i love to hug me tight tight..

sayang me...

100% useful and effective trick

ask her to go for shopping spree and u will pay for everything

7/10 wan hug hug and pay for shopping

izzit the most effective trick ?

if yes then i have to master the bear hug technique and find more money

2 things,

If a girl feeling down, she herself need to know how to settle her own feeling problem and not just wait somebody go to her and confront her cause if she is mature, she should know this kind of problem created by her own self should not drag other people into trouble especially when that girl like to scold or make other people bad mood when she is in that kind of mood.

When a a guy or someone go and confront the girl, she should make herself in better mood because there is someone who willing to help and care for her.

Anyway the main thing is girl should not always do that, especially those who adi make it a habit and think that "this is pretty common and guy should think how to solve it, there is nothing wrong bout it".

peace....=p

a big hug..but keep quiet!just let her know u're there for her..but not there to nag her!dun keep on asking her what happened..just a big nice hug!

hei ~bj~, hug me !!

not again


BRING IT CUTTIE PIG

hahaha..cannot la..porkchop too fat to fight la..get tired easily!!!

I shall call u 'porky'


see guys, this how to treat a woman whe she's down !!! HAHA !!

u failed..so GET LOST!!!





hahahahahahahahaha..dun listen to JonSpark

bo bian la.he's too pro..and his advises r good SOMETIMES..

need a little help her..wat if the girl is a spicy chili padi? altho never expect tat kinda girl to be down..(i never actually c her in bad mood or sad after knowing her so years,just for precaution purpose..gotta be same class with her for another 3 years)

This post has been edited by jianjie: Jul 15 2008, 06:27 PM

chili padi..brought her to a nice meal..ice cream to cool her down..

i think she will be too burning hot to let me go near...

porky hungry and eat it instead, leaving his bf to

hahahahahahha..well..my bf always said im one hot chili..not chili padi..but still very hot tempered!!when im down.. just let me sleep..everything will be fine after wake up!

so your advise will be to leave her alone?

or if u wan u let her scold till she puas puas..then she ma cool down lo!haha..ya..that will work too..but u dun argue back..if not..world war 3!!!

yeah.. and she scold puas le.. will cry in ur arms.. (but ur gf wont like tht.. *ahem*)

i will giv her a cute pillow instead of my arms

lol.. maybe can cool down the girl.. but cause a fight with your gf

er...i just wan a tight bear huggie only...i dowan to him to pay my shopping..when i am down i just want him to be right by my side..hug me only..dowan shopping... ....i will be very happy when he hug me..

come, i make u happy !

jokes usually do, bcoz even if the joke is not funny, girls find it amusing as u say jokes that aren't funny.

agree. me too!!! a simple hug will makes me happy.... for me, i really wish my bf will be right by my side and hug me BUT he wont de lo, he owes leave me alone until i happy back then he will tork to me.
-____-''''

when lady is down, perfer pampered, sweet words... and some listening ear to what the lady wanna say...

that is wat i want la...

it just my thinking or do i felt that relation is so fragile after hearing so many stories. =.="

bring the girl to eat something that she has always loved..

Buy her a diamond ring or a huge bear

so the best way, if woman is angry, just let it be. Just let her cool down than discuss isnt?

Soft toys Their soft spot.

Yeah that what i will do to my gf...ehhehee....btw where have u been missing??long time didnt see u online at MSN d!

Just ask her to share out & as a guy try to give her solution & just tell her everything will be alright. & tell her i will always be right here with you...ho ho ho....

Candy bar !!!!

dun jz tell lar..must do some action also..hehe

a big warm hug and let me bite kao kao ><

wut kind of action u speak of ?

i like women who bites !!! vampires got me all worked up !!!

This tread is very good .I dont know what to do if my gf is feel down thanks guy i can learn something from this topic i need to blame myself because i dont couple with a lot gf before now my gf will feel very awkward to me to think i'm the guy who are not popular and dont have a lot gf

Anyway Girl/guys mind vote or helping a bit in my tread
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/758051

if your gf cries in front of u..wat will u guys do?

1. Ask her dont cry..if she stills cry then just leave her and go home?

2. Will hug her and sayang her...?

coz i got guy fren told me b4 he dont like gals cry in front of him..he will only say ONCE "dont cry edi"..if she stills cries then he will just leave...

wat bout u guys?

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Added on August 4, 2008, 9:26 ami want hug also from my bf lah....

This post has been edited by yeelin04: Aug 4 2008, 09:26 AM

i agree thre are guys that doesnt like gals crying. infact i am one of them. But I don't walk away or leave them like that. Even she is just a normal fren of mine, i will try my very best to cheer her up and make her laugh. What they need is someone to listen to her and pampered them.

Standard Procedure:
1. let her lean on my shoulder n cry gao gao, make sure armpit doesnt smell
2. pat her hair softly
3. speak to her ear softly, tell her dont cry
4. when she can talk ask her whats going on and say something to comfort her
5. a nice kiss on her forehead and tell her everything is fine

以上内容 纯属虚构
anyway its imaginary, my ex gf never cries, girls nowadays are tough...

This post has been edited by xianwei: Aug 6 2008, 06:24 AM

not bad wor...
still got some gentlements...
hahaha....

well, currently feeling down
so.......
hope tat can get a hug? or mayb a bar of chocolate?
well...... im easy satisfied so.. yea, just tat simple
need no word.

Dun be sad

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Added on August 7, 2008, 2:04 pmWhen it comes to the real thing, u probably somewhere hiding

This post has been edited by JonSpark: Aug 7 2008, 02:04 PM

thanks

I wan my bf to hug me tight tight even if i dont want and keep pushing away and also i wish tht when i am angry my bf will just buy one stalk of rose or any flower for me or even go to the roadside pluck one also can!haha. it will make me very happy

Dont abuse us guys like that

where got abuse!its just tht my bf doesnt buy me any roses..so not romantic wat. we girls like suprises

yea yea...
gals love surprises....
it is so so TRUE!!!

I have surprises awailable. PM me for details,